longjohnjohnson @ longjohnjohnson @lemmy.ml

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Not much of a replacement.

It is known.

It's a little sexual. But just a little.

This was a long, but great read. Listen to this man. I have had similar experiences and outcomes, though not nearly as deep as the OP above me.

I like the subtle use of the two different color backgrounds to indicate a frame/perspective shift from within the same room. Well done.

Unlike the actual guy this meme is based on, yes.

The thing is, it shouldn't matter how big your penis is. But the people that care are typically the Maga fascist macho dipshits, so it's a way to attack their fragile male ego.

People who have confidence and empathy and have an equal relationship with women know penis size doesn't really matter.

While absolutely awesome and I support and encourage this in every way; that's less than 1% of the population of the US.

What if you recommended a smaller instance and they get hugged to death and it ruins the experience for everyone else on that instance?

Though, to be fair, world is already pretty hammered

Fuck that last line slaps. Going to steal that for the future mate.

Your mind still has those experiences. He'll still look back at this fondly, even if drunk. At the least, it'll add to his life experiences so he knows how to control his drinking better in the future if he wants to remember the experience.

A lot of people start off on a major instance, then after finding and vibing with another instance, can move to that.

There's tons of tools and things that allow for transfer of subscriptions and everything else so changing instances isn't a big deal.

The important thing is to get them on Lemmy first.

I work in the library system. This is so stupid and will do so much damage. Fuck musk and trump. Fuck them in their traitor nazi fascist narcissistic stupid face.

Edit: is there some sort of pro trump/musk bot that just goes around downvoting anything negative said about them or something?

As someone who was fairly deep into hookup culture, take this as just a single data point, so anecdotally.

Hookups were great when both parties are on the same page and there's open communication and understanding that this is all it is. If both parties want to hook up again, that's ok too.

But you don't develop emotional bonds with anyone you hookup with, nor should you. You also can't easily date someone you were hooking up with, there's too much baggage from you both to sort out first and it's never worked out for me or anyone I know.

At some point you will get exhausted by the constant hookups, and the draining effect it has on you to be at the top of your game in all respects, only to roll the dice every time on whether or not you're sexually compatible with your hookup.

The sex can be good, or bad, but usually it's mediocre. Occasionally you'll hook up with someone you're highly compatible with and the first time never stops, so through the night and weekends and into the week, sort of thing.

The soul crushing experience is when you meet someone like that and want the great sex to never end and emotions start interfering for one or the both of you. The issue is you actually have no basis for a relationship, it was founded in a primal desire. Turning that into a functioning long term relationship was impossible, at least for me, every time it was tried. Even if you're both willing to give it a go because the sex is great.

This is all not taking into account the added stress of having to be super careful for STIs and having awkward talks if not and explore where your comfort limits are at. It can be very stressful, and you're typically getting tested at least once a month as that's what it typically expected for you to have a "clean" bill of health for a hookup partner. Often that conversation never happens though and you just kinda cross your fingers.

Anyhow, when I stopped hookups, I was looking for an emotional connection. Someone I could just be my real self with and who I could watch and enjoy things I liked doing in life, with a partner. The sex is less important as you can build off that with someone who you have open communication with. This lets you try new sexual activities that are cumbersome or awkward with hookups (e.g. Roleplay). Even if the sex isn't stellar at first with your long term partner, my experiences have been it gets steadily better the more you communicate with each other and talk and are open to trying new things that gently push your boundaries in a healthy way together.

So, did it do emotional damage to me? Maybe. But so do divorces and rough breakups. Hookups were a way to protect myself emotionally after a really, really bad breakup. So in a way, it absolutely helped me heal until I was ready for an emotional connection with someone again. A lot of people in hookup culture fell into this bucket I discovered, though there were definitely the men and women that did it because they were emotionally stunted and this is all they wanted out of life. Sometimes they stay with it for their whole life, and those kinds of people tend to be real sociopaths in general. Not sure if it was because of the hookups, or if they preferred hookups because they were sociopaths, but either way they're not people you want to spend a ton of time with outside of the hookup.

Anyone claiming to have some blanket statement or belief that applies across the board is probably full of shit. Like everything, it's a spectrum. It works for some for a period of their life where they want physical intimacy without emotional burdens. That's the category I fell into, but there's dozens of other situations and reasons in additions to the ones I've already mentioned.

So whoever this Hakim guy is is likely full of shit and has zero personal experiences and likely just confirmation biases the supporting articles to confirm his existing beliefs. Because if he really knew what it was like, he'd understand like everything else, it's never black and white.

Jesus dude, sorry to hear that. Sincerely.

I know it doesn't feel like it now, but things will get better. It will take time, and I know you've heard that before, but I promise you it's true. It will take longer than you think, but each day will get a little easier than the next. Stay the course, and know that it will get better.

It's OK to feel helpless, and like your whole life is over, but I promise you it's not. And it's also OK to feel suicidal, that's normal unfortunately. Please reach out to someone to talk to, a friend, a counselor, or hell, call 988 for the hotline to talk to someone about it. It helps.

You will get through this, your kids will still love you as long as you prioritize their well being and spend time with them whenever you can. The marriage collapsing is not your fault, it always takes 2 and your spouse is just as responsible.

It's going to take time to figure all this out. Like real time, on the scale of years. Humans are stronger than we think to recover from things like this, it just takes time.

Rules for thee.

Unfortunately the damage has been done. Even if it's reverses, most foreign investors aren't coming back to the US market

I should have been clearer, apologies. I understand the article is fake, I just hate that she finds this even remotely funny or felt the need to share in any way.

True. Though they're idiots if they think that crashing the economy will create a "dip" that they can buy back in with.

This isn't a March 2020 market crash caused by some mysterious impersonal virus.

This is him intentionally killing trade agreements that are practically unrecoverable, and the market reacting to that. The market will not bounce back. Our market was largely based on trade. That period is over now. No trade will be happening, not anywhere near the amounts previous.

The market can't recover from a policy shift towards chaotic fascism. Because our foreign allies have long memories and China's been waiting for a moment just like this to take over from the US as the world superpower.

Ignore the racists. Their lives are empty and devoid of meaning or purpose, so they fill that emptiness by using the only thing they feel has any value to look down on people: their skin color.

When all you've got is your skin color to feel superior to someone, you're a special kind of shitty human being, you're a racist.

So who gives a fuck what a racist thinks. Ignore them and know that they are likely deeply, deeply miserable inside.