Do white boomers just not understand how inter-generational wealth works? They do "fuck you - got mine" to their own kids.
The only time I've seen this actually work is when the "rent" is set aside as savings. Especially for kids who are bad with money.
Seen it actually help a few friends who paid $500/month to their parents then got their 4 years rent paid back all at once when they moved out. It did help them with getting their own place and prevented them from spending that money on drugs, booze, and other things that you tend to spend money on when you're 18-25
No they don't. They don't appreciate the way that most of the world still works and most of the West worked even within the last 100 years, where inter-general families lived together and all contributed to support each other.
My brother-in-law (who is Gen X) wanted to charge my nephew (his stepson) rent when my nephew graduated high school. My nephew's grandfather told my BIL "Nephew is whose name is on the house in the will. Yours is not." Also had to remind him his kids were probably taking up more resources since they were under 16 and not working.
Of course my BIL got married to my sister, had them move out to a farm, and got his name on her will instead of her other relatives, like her son. I didn't go to their wedding for other reasons, but the brainworms run deep among Mayonnaise-Americans.
As much as I disdain the fact that the housing crisis has done a number to stunt Gen Z's maturity...sometimes I need to thank God that I'm in an
family. This is sacrilegious.Teaching transactional relationships early so your kid dump you in the trash when you get old and useless to them.
What a good idea
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As someone who rents from family, they can totally be fucking scumbags about it.
At least from my anecdotal experience (lived at different times with separate parents and both sets of grandparents after turning 18) I think most people who would expect rent from their kids would be total scumbags and likely burger-brained.
The only one who asked for it, also conveniently kicked me out once for a short time on a misunderstanding (thought I was lying about having a job- or at least that's the claim, nowadays I don't know if that was just part of the plan- uh, typical narcissist stuff). They'd also always threaten to refuse the rent (and boot me out) if I didn't go to church, etc... and of course transitioning was a no-go. Talked to them about it much later (nowadays we're NC) and they said they had never even considered that it could be rental abuse... they're still a shithead but at least I don't think they're charging my siblings rent now
Is it actually rent? I've heard of working children paying board, which is just helping out with bills and groceries and stuff
Amerikkkans cannot conceive of a mutually beneficial relationship except in the form of rent.
My dad paid rent to his parents and when he moved out they surprised him by giving all his money back!
lol i paid rent for years and all i got was this shitty trauma and kicked out, i think my lil sibling did get their rent back though
I'm pretty mad about it obviously,
but i came here to say if youre working and the people you live you pay rent, you should chip in, even if people say its okay theyre lying to you and themself
This sort of happened with two of my cousins -- when the older one turned 18, my aunt and uncle started charging her rent to continue living with them while she went to school. I'm not sure exactly what happened, but she ended up dropping out and getting married within a couple of years and has gone LC with them ever since. They did the same with the younger one, and she got all of the rent money back when she graduated and moved out. Now the older sister is pissed because they didn't do anything like that for her, and my uncle is insisting to everyone that it's "Trump derangement syndrome." He also thought it would be funny to use her Amazon account to buy a MAGA hat for her with her own credit card
Westerners are Brain dead and I’m glad I was raised in Palestine
Oh hey, it’s part of why I moved out at 18 without any real income or job prospects and don’t talk to my parents more than I absolutely have to for the last two decades.
AITA for forcing my kid to sell an organ to cover their rent debt?
If this is Ireland, as suggested by the Irish Times, it's at least possible that the parent is themselves struggling to pay rent and genuinely needs help.
Yeah, but parents that are themselves struggling don't typically go to the press to shame their children into paying up or moving out.
The Irish Independent is like the Irish New York Post too so it's likely this person is content with the situation. Not their children. Housing in Ireland is dire, rents reaching €2000 a month and houses being bought up by international funds. For this ragebait post, there is also parents are going deep into debt for the rest of their lives and moving out of their own homes to give their own kids a chance to start families. Of course the solution in such hardship is obvious them, become intensely racists and fascist.
My partner's aunt kept saying this to us. "You should help out more, you aren't even paying rent!" meanwhile we were taking care of my partner's mom (her sister in law) while she was on hospice, dying of cancer.
The seething rage in the back of my eyes as I thought about everything we were doing to care for a woman who could not even use a bedpan, while this woman I hardly know accused us of being freeloaders.
Dad we need to talk
spoiler
about patricide
boomers think nickel-and-diming their own children is a virtue
Parents who charge their kids rent and can afford to pay their bills is absurd. Teaching your kids how to pay for bills in life is probably an important skill. So have them pay for some groceries and their portion of the phone bill. If you literally can't afford to keep paying for them to live with you I get it, but beyond that it's gross and I hate it.
Balkan perspective here. You see, when you're 18, you can work. If you mean to be an adult and live with your parents, you should contribute. If you're a lazy fuck, your parents should kick you out, they're not responsible for you anymore. Me and my brother didn't pay rent, but as soon we hit adulthood and started to work, we started to financially help our mom to support her and we do it even now when we don't live with her anymore. I don't see anything wrong with this. In the end, this is just one of the ways you learn how to adult.
As always, this is going to heavily depend on the people and the circumstances. I don't think there's room for blanket assertions on what should be done.
I don't think there's anything wrong with asking to contribute to the household if they're able, I do think there's something wrong with saying "You have hit age you must pay me rent".
here's the thing, the parent is complaining about paying rent, not that they're child is sitting around doing nothing, that part you added yourself
Oh, I've read just a title and left my wisdom in comments because I wanted to.
