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I've had enough unsolicited advice and judgement for the next 500 years
  • No, it does not sound like you're making it about yourself. Thank you for telling me how you relate to what I wrote, and I'm glad that at least the discovery of your application history made your parents stop. I only doubt that my family will see it this way, since there's no "papertrail" for online applications. I hope they'll at least stop asking about it once I get any job.

    I will try to do that, as best as I can. Thank you again for your kind words, and might I add, the pillow is a good alternative if no friends are at hand.

  • I've had enough unsolicited advice and judgement for the next 500 years
  • Anytime, friend, and thank you for understanding as well. I can't properly reply bc otherwise I'll probably start crying meow-hug

    And I know you can work through your brain worms just as much as I can, and have to. We're on a good track, knowing what we have to change about ourselves, and I do feel encouraged, knowing I'm not the only one trying to be kinder to myself, others, and still learning so much about everything.

  • I've had enough unsolicited advice and judgement for the next 500 years
  • I can only try to imagine how furious you must have been. At the same time, it's so easy to laugh about parents/people of that age group, because of what you said, that a lot of self-control goes into not ridiculing them for their archaic beliefs.

    Judging by your phrasing I'm gonna assume you managed to get a job eventually, and I am happy you got out of that seemingly inescapable pit. Let's just say, should we ever get in a position similar to that of your parent, I know both of us will be wise enough not to talk down to the next generation.

  • I've had enough unsolicited advice and judgement for the next 500 years
  • Thank you, it means a lot to hear that, and I've seen it happen with other friends too. I've always been something of a "therapy friend" to most people, but really, out of my own free will, so still people tell me how they're doing and if I have any advice. Thus it makes it so relieving when someone, upon reading/hearing what I'm going through, just says "I'm with you, you're not alone". It means the world to me, and I'm grateful for it.

    Concerning your rant

    I think you have every right to talk about this, in this thread as well, and I wish I could do more than express my sympathies, like you have done for me. Stay strong, I believe there are better times ahead for both you and me, as well. What I can tell you, tho, is that every single person I've ever heard say they thought they were "too annoyingly high energy, too needy" are never the ones who should be saying that. The people who are really needy don't acknowledge that, just as much as those who are actually too high energy (and if you can be too high energy is something I find debatable as well). I firmly believe you should never try to represent as something stereotypically assigned to a gender. Rather, try to represent yourself as you feel comfortable, be yourself, and the person(s) who are actually interested in you will cross your way. This counts for both friends and potential romantic partners. I hope this helps, at least a little bit.

  • I've had enough unsolicited advice and judgement for the next 500 years
  • On behalf of all of us who get mistreated by their families for shitty jobs, I will mentally punch them for you so you don't have to. rat-salute

    Kidding aside, I hope you can, at some point, at least find a job that makes you feel good about what you're doing, and never have to concern yourself with these people's demeaning treatments again. We're stronger than this!

  • I've had enough unsolicited advice and judgement for the next 500 years
  • Yes, exactly, it's just hilarious how many older people, not just boomers, believe this shit. None of the jobs I have applied for since graduation are jobs that I actually want, but I've managed to write some of the most stellar letters of application I've ever thought possible, so it's not like I'm not learning how to lie in my niche of corporate language. But just knowing how to say the right things doesn't get you a job. It never has. And if you don't have anyone "influential" to back you up, your labor amounts to nothing. And then you get shamed for it, as if you didn't put fucking effort into doing something that is mandatory but its outcome is arbitrary. God I wanna puke.

  • Forgotten highlights of 2024
  • Think my favorite moment was when the US withdrew one of their aircraft carriers once they realized the Houthis could hit it (don't remember all the details, but I thought it was extremely funny).

  • I've had enough unsolicited advice and judgement for the next 500 years

    [I'm new to c/chat so please remove the post if it isn't fitting for the community. I didn't know where else to post and will gladly move this one if necessary.]

    I don't want this to be a long-ass rant, but I gotta air my frustration as I'm (as of now) spending new year's eve alone.

    2024 was a shit year, both personally - for a ton of reasons - as well as gestures around you know exactly what I mean. I've been looking for work ever since last year, and that is an absolutely shitty position to be in atm. You know the drill, nobody will hire anyone without work experience but nobody will let you get any experience with pay or at all if you're no longer enrolled in college. So I've been applying to whatever I could get, roughly in the direction of what I've been studying, but there's just no positive feedback. Either it's formulaic "sorry to inform you but..." or "found someone better suited to the position" etc etc.

    If you do this long enough, it just becomes a hopelessly worthless routine, and none of your applications feel like they led to anything. So naturally, you complain to family and friends, because hey, those are people who would support you in your time of need, or so you'd think. I've learned the hard lesson on family multiple times already, so it came as no surprise when an aunt told me to "just do the job you were trained for". There's nothing to get there, auntie, at least not if I want to make rent and pay for food, duh. Second thing that pissed me of royally was extended family tonight. Talking around the dinner table about how this year dragged on forever, I was told that it's no surprise I feel that way, because "if you were doing something, time would pass quicker".

    Safe to say, I removed myself from the room immediately and hope I can avoid the lot until at least tomorrow morning. Friends aren't really helpful either because they got a job through "friends of the family" or aren't looking for work (yet).

    Anyway, I'm typing this because I didn't want to feel alone on New Year's Eve with my sensation of being bullied for not having a job and not having someone to talk to. I hope someone understands.

    Edit: You guys have really made me feel a lot less shit with your comments, thank you <3

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    QR codes promising gifts to New Yorkers redirect shoppers to images of Israel's 'genocide'
  • That's exactly it. And it might just wake up some of those who have been scared/conditioned into silence to at least think about it. I don't think it'll meaningfully change anything, no, but then again, if they didn't care already, one QR code won't change anything either.

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