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I've had enough unsolicited advice and judgement for the next 500 years

[I'm new to c/chat so please remove the post if it isn't fitting for the community. I didn't know where else to post and will gladly move this one if necessary.]

I don't want this to be a long-ass rant, but I gotta air my frustration as I'm (as of now) spending new year's eve alone.

2024 was a shit year, both personally - for a ton of reasons - as well as gestures around you know exactly what I mean. I've been looking for work ever since last year, and that is an absolutely shitty position to be in atm. You know the drill, nobody will hire anyone without work experience but nobody will let you get any experience with pay or at all if you're no longer enrolled in college. So I've been applying to whatever I could get, roughly in the direction of what I've been studying, but there's just no positive feedback. Either it's formulaic "sorry to inform you but..." or "found someone better suited to the position" etc etc.

If you do this long enough, it just becomes a hopelessly worthless routine, and none of your applications feel like they led to anything. So naturally, you complain to family and friends, because hey, those are people who would support you in your time of need, or so you'd think. I've learned the hard lesson on family multiple times already, so it came as no surprise when an aunt told me to "just do the job you were trained for". There's nothing to get there, auntie, at least not if I want to make rent and pay for food, duh. Second thing that pissed me of royally was extended family tonight. Talking around the dinner table about how this year dragged on forever, I was told that it's no surprise I feel that way, because "if you were doing something, time would pass quicker".

Safe to say, I removed myself from the room immediately and hope I can avoid the lot until at least tomorrow morning. Friends aren't really helpful either because they got a job through "friends of the family" or aren't looking for work (yet).

Anyway, I'm typing this because I didn't want to feel alone on New Year's Eve with my sensation of being bullied for not having a job and not having someone to talk to. I hope someone understands.

Edit: You guys have really made me feel a lot less shit with your comments, thank you <3

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  • You definitely aren't alone there, I've spent years off and on in this situation and I'm sure long-term unemployment is way more common than the lying stats say.

    The best part is when you're me and you do finally get a hell minimum wage job your family still isn't pleased, hell, some of my remote family have basically disowned me and my dad over my inability to get 'fitting work' in their eyes.

    • On behalf of all of us who get mistreated by their families for shitty jobs, I will mentally punch them for you so you don't have to.

      Kidding aside, I hope you can, at some point, at least find a job that makes you feel good about what you're doing, and never have to concern yourself with these people's demeaning treatments again. We're stronger than this!

  • I understand, being jobless is very harsh, especially people start treating you like worthless trash, even if you did "everything right" before. Like I had to tell one of my parents, back when I had a year of just not finding a job, despite having a degree in a STEM field (I come from an rural area and it was/is a troubled economy), that I wasnt being picky and why I could not just "get" one. Mind you that parent had worked in the same job and company for 50 years and only had two job interviews in their entire live during historic economic boom.

  • My condolences. My family gave me some shit for being stuck at a crappy job for years, but when I finally moved out my dad discovered my huge ass collection of resumes, brochures, and related material they finally shut up about that stuff. Being without a job is obviously worse, but there was a time that you could stretch some paltry savings or hope for some odd task to get some spare cash.

    Sorry if I made that seem like I was making that about myself, but I get where you're coming from. Just try and surround yourself with friends where you can. They likely won't understand, but it can sometimes be the only thing keeping you from screaming into a pillow.

    • No, it does not sound like you're making it about yourself. Thank you for telling me how you relate to what I wrote, and I'm glad that at least the discovery of your application history made your parents stop. I only doubt that my family will see it this way, since there's no "papertrail" for online applications. I hope they'll at least stop asking about it once I get any job.

      I will try to do that, as best as I can. Thank you again for your kind words, and might I add, the pillow is a good alternative if no friends are at hand.

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