No-win scenario

Conversation with ex girlfriend:

Her: I just got my car back from the garage. They told me to keep an eye on the tyre wear, but I don't really know what that means or how to do it.

Me: I can show you how to do that if you like?

Her: I don't need you to mansplain things to me! MAN KNOW CAR THING, WOMAN NO DO.

I stopped myself from correcting her interpretation of mansplaining, because it was clear that any man was forbidden from communicating normally with her.

Here's a lifehack:

1. Quickly switch your gender to woman.
2. Womansplain her everything that needs to be explained.
3. (optional) Undo the gender switch.

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You can call out word misuse without necessarily stepping into "mansplaining" territory.

I mean, it's a trap and I know that. I still would.

I'm that guy.

Lol, my girl doesn’t know the right context for the phrase “gaslighting” and I just have to accept it.

Ask her what she thinks mansplaining is and listen intently to the answer.

One of the biggest and best lessons I've learned is that it's OK for other people to be wrong. There's few situations in personal life where it's necessary to correct or educate others - they'll figure it out eventually.

I was taught a long time ago a simple idea ... Men hear a problem and try to solve it...”i don't know x" ok let me teach you" or "I can't get this thing to work" ok let me try if I can.

Women on initial compliant some times just want to know that you know they are struggling. Instead of "let me teach you” you could say "I'm sure you will understand" or "I know it's difficult but you got this".

Yes it varies by person some men prefer the latter and some women prefer the former. As with most things it's up to you to know your partner and what they want...

If they're wrong it's just explaining and no amount of instagram posts and dumb takes will change that.

If she didn't understand what mansplaining is, it isn't mansplaining when correcting her.

pull up the definition on your phone and just hand it to her.

I have a term also: Fem-terrogating

Are you new here? Where do you work? What do you do for work? Does that pay well? Are you married? Ad infinitum...

I simply answer that I don't want to man-splain things.

She did it on purpose to troll you. It’s 5D chess, you’re not even ready

Trigger her! Explain why she's wrong.

How about: Wait, let me illustrate how mansplaining works...

Just start glaring disapprovingly for half an hour at minimum, shake your head slightly and then look away if you catch their eyes and most importantly refuse to explain yourself for days afterwards, just mumble something about "zplane" from time to time and if they respond just exasperatedly say "women" and walk away.

Kobayashi Maru time buddy. Time to get creative.

But it's not that hard:

You give your broad smile and say calmly "I love you anyway".

you guys should learn about softening statements.

Hug kiss kill

Move on

And @Underpantsweevil was that chad

For most things where the person you're talking to should know better than you, e.g. marginalized groups, field experts, professionals, etc. I might go with something like "Sorry, I don't quite get it. Can you look up a definition to help me understand better?"