I'm gay and I dunno what it means

the actual answer is that the curls are brushed which is essentially a minor thing that make some people feel like they're better than others, hence why the unbrushed version is the version that the guy would cheat on (worse) and the main girl is "better"
the different ideas in the comments are KILLING me though. I think the 'tight curls = tight grip on dick' theory is the funniest one
- I got the idea that the woman on the left took a little more care in her personal appearance and the one on the right was a little more trashy, which made this song pop in my head.

My take on this is that Jaz k is gaslighting all of us.

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I am a biological woman. I identify as such. I don't know what the same person plus 30+ minutes with a curling iron has to do with cheating. Effort? Vanity? This is far, far beyond me somehow. I am also very old so there's that.
- I think you helped me crack it, i think it's saying that the person who looks like you but puts in more effort to their appearance on the regular is more attractive. That makes sense to me, and would be true in the main for most people, it's one of the most common things said to people who are struggling to find partners.
  You could take negative connotations from that about that person being vain but really it should be on the cheater for being a fucking cheater.
  
  puts in more effort to their appearance on the regular
  Nah. My wife has naturally wavy hair. She goes to work with it blow-dried, flattened, and a little plain-looking. On weekends she does none of those things, and it looks gorgeous and wavy and bouncy. Maybe I just have a definite preference -- Even Jen Psaki on the TV - gorgeous already - looks better in her other, more natural style, and she's probably got advisors telling her to vamp it up.
  
  I agree with you, but don't like that the interpretation puts the onus on the person being cheated on. Like, people will cheat even if they're with the most gorgeous, totally out of their league person. Cheating has nothing to do with how attractive or how attentive to themselves your partner is. If you're a cheater, you're gonna be a cheater.
- I am a biological woman. I identify as such.
  Do you mean a cis woman?
  Or are you trying to separate yourself from robot women?
  
  I wanna be a robot woman
  
  I assume she meant exactly what she said.
- Probably personality?

Ok, as a man, I can see that these are two different hairstyles. Visually, it's obviously the same person but with slightly different configurations of hair. Where I'm lost is that this meme seems to imply that one is better than the other. Which is the superior look? I don't know. That doesn't mean I cannot differentiate between the two, it means I am out of touch with whatever is stylish at the moment. There's nothing objectively more or less beautiful in these photos. Maybe one style is easier to maintain, and the difference is supposed to sugest that one of them takes better care of their hair? Or maybe they are too fussy and vain to a fault? This is specialized knowledge that can only be shared via communication. You cannot discover it on your own like some scientific truth. You must learn it from someone else who knows.
The people who are snarky about people not knowing something like this are the worst sort of snobs. Not only are they mocking people who haven't been included in the secret, they are wasting an opportunity to share knowledge to do it.
- My read of the meme was that the similarity is the point. "You vs the girl he cheats with", if one was significantly more attractive than the other would probably imply that it's the woman's fault for not being more attractive. But by showing them both basically the same, the message is "if he's a cheater, he's gonna cheat, no matter what you do. It's on him."
  But maybe I'm putting too much thought into it.
  
  That's an interesting take. So basically a cheater isn't being drawn into anything because of a specific desirable trait that you lack, it's just that he's a piece of shit who wants to cheat.
  
  Yes the point is that they're similar, but with the added layer that you're supposed to prefer the left because it looks more natural whereas the right looks like they tried too hard to achieve the same look and failed.
- Hah, this guy doesn’t get it
- The only people paying attention to nuanced differences in women's hairstyles are other women. Most men wouldn't notice a minor difference like this lol. I've joked about this with my wife before. Only other women pay attention to women's outfits and hair. Men don't notice or care. We're interested in other things lol.
  
  It's like that study that showed that the size of men's pecs are of interest to other men, women don't really look at them as indicators of attractiveness
  #notallwomen sweeping generalisation etc etc
  
  Let other people enjoy their preferences. Some people get very particular about console/IDE fonts, keyboard switches, T-shirt fabric blends, fork shape, guitar string material, etc. Others like fashion and style. Some like architecture and interior design. Let people enjoy things, and get deep in the weeds on minute differences if they want to.
  
  Only woman care about woman's styles and only men compliment men at the gym.
  It's a crule world
  
  My wife gets mad at me when she asks my opinion between different shoes. "Which ones are more comfortable?" They both look great, but we're going to be standing and walking a lot.

I suspect the hidden meaning is that guys apparently cheat on people who are fundamentally no different to the person they're cheating on.
The implication being that guys cheat for the sake of it, rather than because there's a difference in the person they're with.
For clarity, I'm not saying I believe any of that. I think it sounds like utter nonsense. No doubt it's true for some people, but I think applying it to a wider group isn't very reasonable.
- Well, people do tend to have a type, right?

The curls on the left look natural and fluffed up, the curls on the right look stiff and like they were done in a hurry.

Is it something about hair extensions?
I don't know what the implications of hair extensions would be.

What in the Victorian over complicated aristocracy social rules is this bullshit?
- I feel like it doesn't mean anything, it's just trolling.
  
  I thought it just meant the person they cheat with is very similar so the cheating is even stupider
  
  Then the troll is a shitty human.

Don't feel bad. I'm an old straight guy, and I don't know what it means.

No clue.
But it looks better on the left imo.

My guess: Guys don't give a fuck about who looks better. They will cheat on you with anyone, even if there is no perceivable difference between you and who they are cheating with. The point of cheating is to cheat.
- Poontang is poontang

The point is that the other girl is not that much better looking and he still cheated.

I'm a woman and I don't understand this My immediate thought is something about the tighter curls on the right implying she has a tighter grip on his dick

I won't even pretend I know where to begin. Same girl, different hairstyle, that's all I can gather, no clue on possible hidden meanings
- I wouldn't even register these as different hair styles.
- Maybe she is the type that when he cheats she claims to be strong while immediately changing her appearance & posting nonstop pictures on social media of all the "fun" she is having without him while making sure to tag him in every one.

Split ends and highlights?

Maybe it's boys cheat with women similar to their actual girlfriend?
- That actually sounds logical.

I'm betting that in the image on the right she's wearing hair extensions.
- There does seem to be a lot of hushed discussion about hair extensions.

I think it's the tightness of the curls
- Or natural vs fake?
  
  It's the same person at different stages of styling. They're both the same level of artificial/natural, however you measure that.
- I saw this a while ago on reddit, and the explanation in the comments was something about brushing the curls out for a more "natural" look, with the one on the right being worse for not doing it.

He will cheat with a cheaper-looking, tackier wannabe of the girlfriend/spouse.
The cheaper tackier girl had to try emulate the look of the original in order to attempt to be on the same league, which she’s never be.
Since he’s not cheating with a "better version" of yourself, it’s a bit reassuring for a woman’s ego; it’s just "sex" and he’s not gonna leave you for that slut.
The man’s still a stupid idiot for cheating though.
- Oh so it’s a meme bragging about a coping mechanism. That’s fun.

I dunno anything about styling longer hair, but I'm going to guess that the tighter curls on the right look less messy. But it does seem like a pretty toxic attitude displayed.

I'm not gay and I do see a slight difference between the two, but the difference is pretty minimal IMHO. What this person sees, I have no clue. It's significant for them, though.

Looks like natural curl pattern vs manually hand twisted curls maybe?

The joke is for the in group and we're not in it.

I assumed that "he" is cheating on his partner with this girl. Like, it's the same person, because this is the person he's having an affair with.

Obviously if I don't understand the joke then it's crossposted engagement bait. And I'm sticking to that mindset.

I think it's supposed to be that the 2nd hairstyle is considered lower class

I think people are overthinking this. That's just a variation of the "you vs the guy she told you don't worry about".

In this thread: men who don't understand women or hair.