1d ago

I'm gay and I dunno what it means

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Ok, as a man, I can see that these are two different hairstyles. Visually, it's obviously the same person but with slightly different configurations of hair. Where I'm lost is that this meme seems to imply that one is better than the other. Which is the superior look? I don't know. That doesn't mean I cannot differentiate between the two, it means I am out of touch with whatever is stylish at the moment. There's nothing objectively more or less beautiful in these photos. Maybe one style is easier to maintain, and the difference is supposed to sugest that one of them takes better care of their hair? Or maybe they are too fussy and vain to a fault? This is specialized knowledge that can only be shared via communication. You cannot discover it on your own like some scientific truth. You must learn it from someone else who knows.
The people who are snarky about people not knowing something like this are the worst sort of snobs. Not only are they mocking people who haven't been included in the secret, they are wasting an opportunity to share knowledge to do it.
- My read of the meme was that the similarity is the point. "You vs the girl he cheats with", if one was significantly more attractive than the other would probably imply that it's the woman's fault for not being more attractive. But by showing them both basically the same, the message is "if he's a cheater, he's gonna cheat, no matter what you do. It's on him."
  But maybe I'm putting too much thought into it.
  
  That's an interesting take. So basically a cheater isn't being drawn into anything because of a specific desirable trait that you lack, it's just that he's a piece of shit who wants to cheat.
  
  Yeah... But brain rot will have you believe if they cheat, you need to attack the person they cheated on you with.
  
  Yes the point is that they're similar, but with the added layer that you're supposed to prefer the left because it looks more natural whereas the right looks like they tried too hard to achieve the same look and failed.
- Hah, this guy doesn’t get it
- The only people paying attention to nuanced differences in women's hairstyles are other women. Most men wouldn't notice a minor difference like this lol. I've joked about this with my wife before. Only other women pay attention to women's outfits and hair. Men don't notice or care. We're interested in other things lol.
  
  We're interested in other things.
  Like tits.
  
  It's like that study that showed that the size of men's pecs are of interest to other men, women don't really look at them as indicators of attractiveness
  #notallwomen sweeping generalisation etc etc
  
  Only woman care about woman's styles and only men compliment men at the gym.
  It's a crule world
  
  It's a similar story with cars, unless you're driving an exotic of some type, only other car people care.
  
  My wife gets mad at me when she asks my opinion between different shoes. "Which ones are more comfortable?" They both look great, but we're going to be standing and walking a lot.
  
  Haha yea. Same. She'll show me 2 pairs of shoes that look almost exactly the same and demand that I choose haha. But to be fair, there are plenty of things I show her that she doesn't give a shit about. So at least it's equal on that front :-P.
  
  Could be internalised patriarchy. Sometimes, when women ask a mans opinion on a few options, they're not actually interested in the man's opinion. They want to hear their own opinion, just said in a mans voice.
  
  Let other people enjoy their preferences. Some people get very particular about console/IDE fonts, keyboard switches, T-shirt fabric blends, fork shape, guitar string material, etc. Others like fashion and style. Some like architecture and interior design. Let people enjoy things, and get deep in the weeds on minute differences if they want to.

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