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  • Yesterday my husband and I had dental appointments. We moved last year but wanted to keep our dentist since we both like him so much, but we're much farther away now and it took us about an hour to get there.

    When we walked in the receptionist told us we came a day early. 🤦🏻‍♀️

    You guys, when we got back to our car, I just broke down crying. I never used to make mistakes like this - I'm normally so organized and on top of things - but my brain fog has gotten so bad with peri. It's so embarrassing. My hubby comforted me, said it was OK and told me not to be so hard on myself, but I felt really awful about wasting his day off. And I just feel like an idiot all the time.

    Shit like this keeps happening. The other day I was microwaving something, only to realize that I forgot to put the food in the stupid microwave. I stood in front of the microwave and watched it run and even though I could see inside, it just didn't register that I hadn't put anything in there. I keep misplacing things or stopping in mid-sentence because my train of thought disappeared. I keep forgetting to finish tasks.

    I have a GYN appointment in a few weeks to talk about HRT because I can't go on like this.

    I think I just needed to vent, thanks for reading.

    • That's rough mate. Youve both driven so far, taken so much of the day up and have to do it tomorrow. You're not being you right now, you're always organised and on top and this isn't you. Chronically disorganised people have strategies in place to stop these kind of things, but you've never needed to do that.

      Peri is rough, and it's not talked about enough. If women get old enough we go through it but we don't talk about it. It really is hard.

  • I need to write applications because my contract is going to end in July. The job market here is shit, everybody is only looking for senior staff and I only have 3 years experience in my field. It's also heavily male dominated and I absolutely hate the working culture. My boss basically told me they won't keep me even though I did a good job with my project because I "don't fit in with the company culture". As examples he mentioned several instances of me suggesting to use other methods or tools that I had successfully used at other companies. We had so much trouble with the project mostly because communication was shit, but whenever I proposed better communication tools/methods (other than: get all 15 project members into a three hour long meeting twice a week), I was told that "we don't do that here", "this is just how it works at this company".

    I am so annoyed, exhausted, pissed and so done with working with fragile people who'll blow up an entire project because their ego is bruised. They get to sulk and not do their job because they don't like that I communicate the customers schedule to them. They get to say they'll do it "in their own time". And I first get in trouble with the higher-ups for upsetting the customer because the project is late and THEN get in trouble with my team lead for being mean to the developers who want to work in their own time and would rather not be bothered by questions or requirement changes until the deadline. But hey, I'm the one who doesn't fit in and gets booted.

    I just wish I could find a job that doesn't suck.

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