What will always be cringe-inducing to you?
White guys saying the N word and being gangsta. There is nothing ever cool about a white guy pretending to be ghetto. Yes I'll include Eminem and I don't care if he's been given the pass.
American truck culture. It feels like parody or satire, except it's real.
And then they complain about the cost of fuel.
And the cost of like everything else with the truck from payments to repairs.
These people are some of the most sensitive, selfish, proudly ignorant snowflakes I’ve ever met.
Not to mention the trend of larger cars in general as a daily driver is insane and completely unnecessary.
I agree on the n word part, but do you expect white guys raised in/by disadvantaged black communities to pretend to be a person they're not just because of the color of their skin?
OP must be joking. Living one of the largest cities in the US/World for two decades, skin color has nothing to do with being “gansta”.
A good cringe-inducing thing is gatekeepers. Of music genre, fanbases, video games, any niche really. Saying there is a set criteria for being a fan of something, or being a 'practitioner' of a skill or activity. They act like something is a club or a cult and give it a generalization.
I wear my dad's classic rock icon band tees: name three songs, they demand. I could probably give you a line from one. No I don't listen to them on a regular basis. I have listened to at least three songs but not enough to recite their names. If someone donated or gifts you their old shirts from concerts--you wear them out of respect.
Oh you claim to be a fan of the fediverse?
Name Every Instance. (or else you arent part of our Lemming club)
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Lol, only been here a week. Just heard that Lemmy existed in November. I am waiting for some subreddits that migrated to Lemmy to grow big enough so that my posts don't go unread for days and days.
Musicals. 😬
Other than Hamilton, I agree. When there's a special musical episode on a show, I hate it
Tik Tok brainrot
Like there are so many cool science videos or even gameplay content on youtube, so many movies and TV to watch on sites like netflix or any of the various media platforms, why are kids watching stupid dances and stupid "viral challenges"
tbh my grandma considered movies and TV brainrot and my parents don't understand why people watch someone playing a video game on Youtube rather than playing. I think there are legitimate criticisms of Tik Tok and other social media, but this just reads as that simpsons quote:
I used to be with ‘it’, but then they changed what ‘it’ was. Now what I’m with isn’t ‘it’ anymore and what’s ‘it’ seems weird and scary. It’ll happen to you!
There's a lot of cool science stuff on tik tok too.
Yeah I don't think i can call it brain rot but I will also say i don't get it and that's okay. But I will say there is something about it that reaks of addiction. The way you don't pick the content the content picks you. Like with YouTube proper or Netflix you pick the content then it starts playing.
Where with TikTok and Reels and Shorts, it's just scrolling the media is just blaring at you. Your mind has to do the extra work to filter out the messages. It's like cat video , kids dancing, buy this garbage , puppy video. That's the only part that bothers me.
But as for the dances and challenges that style of content is the online equivalent of friends standing around in a circle showing off. Add a touch of narcissism that's encouraged by the platforms and it starts to make sense to me. But what makes it gross is in that group of friends someone is secretly paid by InsertBrand to make that brand look cool.
Parasocial relationships are the real problem. With a TV show or movie it's there to entertain there is an understanding they don't know me. They are not my friends.
Whats sad to me is you have lots of kids and young adults that are basically in the same relationship dynamic as a CamGirl and her viewers minus the sex.
The kids are in a headspace of if I just buy what they like they will like me. If I give them money they will acknowledge me.
I fear because they are in that cycle they won't be pushed to make friends. As making friends is hard and takes some work to maintain them. When you can get the dopamine hit you need for your loneliness and further isolate yourself with your tik tok friends.
Why are you conflating "ghetto", "gangsta," and black? 95% of it is about where and how you grew up.
There's plenty of white guys who, although will never experience and understand what it's like to live in America while black, understand the struggle of growing up in the ghettos, being socioeconomically alienated, and being pressured to look to the "gangsta" lifestyle.
These three can often overlap, but are importantly separate things. A white guy in that situation won't know what it means to be black like I do, but I will never have a fraction of their knowledge and experience of what it means to grow up to the streets.
White guys saying the N word and being gangsta. There is nothing ever cool about a white guy pretending to be ghetto. Yes I'll include Eminem and I don't care if he's been given the pass.
He grew up in the ghetto around that culture. He wasn't pretending. I didn't know he used the n word in any songs. He may have used it in conversation idk.
Repeating song lyrics don't count bc usually you are alone anyway. It's a 'tree falls in the woods and no one there to hear it' situation.
About your last point, I've been trying to make it a habit that I replace it with "brother" or something whenever I'm singing along.
But you gotta use it without the hard R. "Brotha"
I use 'glip glops' referencing Rick and Morty.
Rick: What's up my glipglops!?!?
And
Summer: Are some glip glops from the third dimension gonna come over and play cards or something?
And Rick eventually explains: Glip glop is like the n-word and the c-word had a baby and it was raised by all the bad words for [juice].
People who call others cringe can be pretty cringe. Also people who generalize -- e.g. via "all people who call others cringe are cringe" -- is a cringe. Also people who stay noncommittal, avoiding vulnerability under layers of irony, can be pretty cringe too.
I agree with some of these things.
Large office buildings have been cringe to me for a few years. And wearing suits to the office, which just look like personalised school uniforms to me.
If I’m forced to wear an uniform to work, the employer should provide me with one.
Yip, or at least be heavily discounted.
The sound of people chewing. It induces such a visceral cringe but I can't even explain why it bothers me so much. I just find the sound disgusting for some reason.
I feel it. My gf sometimes chews with her mouth open.
Ah, a fellow misophonia 'enjoyer'!
The concept of faith.
Not just for God.
The idea of glorifying believing something without evidence.
If you believe in someone based on prior actions, that isn't faith.
If you put your faith in someone you don't know, fucking cringe.
"Imma turn my brain off" shouldn't be inspirational.
Nothing makes me cringe quite as hard as just have faith.
Adults doing TikTok dances. It's cringe enough when kids do it but there's something about a fully grown adult chasing internet fame that's just gives me second-hand embarrassment.
YouTube videos having intros and "introductions" before the video starts.
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Mine is "sorry about the quality of the video today because my camera broke and I'm using my iphone to record the video".
Dude you're talking about TikTok drama, nobody cares if they can count the hairs sticking out of your nose on 4K.
It is also important that the intro is 50-60 percent louder than the video.
This is even worse in TikTok, where the expected content length is 2-3 minutes.
Ruling class/race making music about struggle.
Corporate speeches.
Some of us grew up in ghetto circumstances. I have never said the N word, but at one point, I was up to no good.
Did you start makin' trouble in your neighborhood?
One might say my mom got scared.
Apologetics and celebrity worshippers: people that defend politicians instead of being critical and forcing them to bend to the will of the working class.
Trustfunders and nepo babies who make no effort to try understand the working class and instead act like they are special or better than other people with different priorities and struggles due to circumstance.
Mistaking kindness for weakness.
Fashion policing, especially from religious clergy or judges.
Entitled customers make me cringe hard, especially when its someone I am with.
Evopsych type dudes.
They made up a whole pseudoscience to "explain" their inability to form meaningful bonds with other humans. And in the process broadcast to everyone they are on the spectrum but refuse to accept it.
Like my dude, I too have trouble intuiting the rules of proper social interaction and wonder where the manual everyone but me got is. But it's not because of some made up bullshit about the pleistocene. It's because I'm autistic, and it's high time you got your ass checked.
OP putting their answer in the body instead of as the first comment.
It's set as an example. To you know, help people get an idea?
Who the fuck bothers putting their answer as the first comment? What do you think this is, Reddit? Where they don't even allow you to put anything in the body after asking a question, like on AskReddit, so they want you to waste your time putting it as the first comment.
Go back to Reddit.
By leaving your answer as the first comment it still sets an example for people who find the thread. It also prevents top level comments from being responses to your opinion instead of answers to your question. As it stands, many of the top level comments here are about what qualifies as gangsta instead of what makes them cringe.
Go back to Reddit.
This made me cringe.
Referring to someone as queer. When I grew up that was a major insult. You just didn't use that word, like the n word. You used others like homosexual and such. But now it is mainstream and ok to use in the right way. But it still feels offensive in my head.
There was a deliberate movement to reclaim that word. Similar to black people using the N word. It also rhymes with here. "We're here. We're queer. Get used to it" was a big rallying cry in the 90s.
It does rhyme well.
As someone who is queer and knows queer people who use the word queer to identify themselves, many people use it as a form of shorthand to mean some variety of LGBTQ without going into more detail.
Yeah, I know all about it. I live near portland, we are generally very inclusive. My kid was explaining just some of the many categories to me the other day. It's a lot for an old brain to adjust to. And I am terrible at remembering peoples names. I may never be able to keep the categories connected to the people. Lol.
The concept of taking fictionkin seriously
What's fictionkin?
People trying to be attention-seeking in public. I used to see this a lot driving down Melrose in Hollywood a lot, and I’d have to look away because it was so disgusting.
Adults saying "poop"
Am British where it's what kids call it. For adults it's poo or shit.
I change my answer -- being British will always be cringe to me.
You've been sold a lie. There's no "Bri'ish" or "Caw blimey guvna". These are people from the UK who go abroad, suddenly get way more attention for their (slight) accent than they ever did back at home, and play to the popularity by Flanderizing themselves to appeal more to their foreign audience.
Any english/irish/scottish accent you hear on a mainstream TV show is not representative of the general population. Example: the BBC news accent is about as representative of the UK population as the 1950s MidWestern Radio accent was representative of the US population. It's a caricature that everyone but a foreign audience just mentally tunes out
Bootlicking of the 1%
Massively self-obsessed people (e.g people who constantly big themselves up) and Tumblr comedy.
Unfortunately, the venn diagram of self-obsessed theatre adults and people who talk like Tumblr posts is a circle, and it includes the two loudest people in my office.
Or those who make appeals to the self-obsessed. There's a youtube channel (that keep appearing in my home despite me telling youtube repeatedly that I'm not interested), that starts off every short with "Heey Smart People".
It's just the idea of "us" (the smart) vs "them" (the implied dumb) that grinds me because in my experience the difference between these two groups isn't very big, but people (mostly young adults) really lean into it for reasons of exclusion, fashion, and just general hatred of a strawman.
Diva covers of songs that don't fit the emotional tone of the song
because they're too busy showing off their vocal cords.
And people who love these songs.
I can't currently think of any particular women responsible for this,
or particular songs, but I'm quite sure it must have been Christmas song covers,
turning "Jingle Bells" into Aretha Franklin's "Dr. Feelgood".
The only particular song I can come up with,
is Michael Bublé's "cry me a river"
and whoever plays the instruments during his version,
so this is not just a mostly female phenomena.
[edit] I'm pretty sure it's Ariane Grande now.
Great singer but not very adaptable.
And probably missing the point of Mariah Carey's christmas song popularity,
the original one as I've just seen newer Hallmark music video
where the video theme no longer matches the song.
Pants that hang so low that all of your ass is above the waistline. Nobody can ever convince me it can be even remotely cool
society
The worst is Quentin Tarantino shoehorning his characters saying that in all of his movies.
Don't forget about his obsession with women's feet!
Yeah its really weird. Get Leo's toes out too!
What's wrong with liking feet?
I think those are all appropriate for the movies they're in. You can argue whether a white director should do that.
In Django sure but I would not say so for Reservoir Dogs or Pulp Fiction. Hell, Samuel L Jackson specifically told him not to say it in Pulp Fiction. It does not make sense for the scene either. A suburban white dude is going to say it multiple times to a black assassin who just got done killing people? His character is not supposed to be a bumbling moron.
People talking about their suicidal feelings on the internet. Not sure why you'd want the whole world to know you're feeling vulnerable, or what you think it can do to help. And people are so casual about saying it.
Counterpoint: if people feel like they can't talk about these things then they'll never talk about them and the condition often worsens.
I also feel pretty powerless to help in a meaningful way. But I'm not going to shun someone who's struggling either
Adding on to your feeling like they can't talk being bad, sometimes places like these are the only places someone feels like they have. They're fairly anonymous, it can be easily deleted, there's low risk of someone in your personal life finding out.
It's a chance to scream into the void, while still feeling seen.
I think I know what you're talking about. I do believe there's a time and place for anything, but just trauma dumping your life's woes somewhere like on a YouTube comment section, is probably not one of those places.
If you feel like there's nobody to talk to about it - write a blog or a journal entry. Dump your feelings and experiences there, then share them whenever someone asks you what's wrong. There are places and sites that are open for one to talk about these sensitive subjects to.
But there's just no reason to randomly do it on like YouTube comment sections for example. I see it nearly all of the time.