Discussion Thread 💾 Saturday 28 June

Just needed to get this out into the world, I can't talk to my family about this, especially not now, and my partner doesn't really get it as his parents are wonderful. I'm sorry.

When you have difficult or non existant parental relationships, stuff like this always highlights what you don't have. You're not wrong for feeling that way, and their absence in your life is not a reflection of how wonderful you are as a human being. Some parents just suck. ❤️
Sometimes when I read or watch shows where people have happy, supportive parents, I actually can't help but cry because how different might life be if I was encouraged instead of shut down?
So, I totally understand how you feel. And it's one of those both things can be true situations: you can be so happy for your cousin, but you can also envy her. I've spent years in therapy thanks to my parents, but the truth is, it'll always be a little wound somewhere on me that opens it. I'm just better at treating it now.
I know this sounds like tripe, but we love you! We're proud of you! Too many of us in here understand! We gotcha back!
It's important be able to talk about these things in the open sometimes.
I'm sort of in the same position you are, and honestly, it hurts.
It doesn't mean I'm not happy for my friends, but I'd be lying if I didn't feel a pang of sadness.
Sometimes the happiest days, are also the saddest.
Hang in there ❤️
- YES. I find talking openly completely removes shame.
  but I do worry I am bringing my loved ones, my real fam, down
so many hugs
and you're not alone in this, I understand it perfectly
just last night I dreamt of my father using slur words at me , I basically told him he was a bad father and should have been supportive and spoken well to me
and then on waking I realised, I have never had a nice dream of my father or sister, not one . That kinda made me sad. I've never missed them either.
In my own life as a parent I have tried to be as open and loving and supportive as I can be and I am so lucky to have the Young Seagoons, they are really good people.
- That's the one blessing isn't it. We're working hard to make sure our kids don't ever have to feel that.
This seems like their failing, not yours.

Thank you for your kind words, I really appreciate the kind words and support! And I am saddened to learn that there are more people here whose parents were/are very lacking, I'm sending you all my good vibes and love 💜

Here is Mickey as thank you as to bring food* luck to you all

*Meant to say "good luck", but I'll leave it as is and channel the luck into your cooking and baking

hugs
and hi back from Ted
- Better warn mick that ted doesn't so much hug or say hi as he does bite (bums).
  So bums against the wall mickey!
- Sweet sweet ted, he can bite my bum any day 😂 I love his face so much!
You're amazing!! 🫶🫶🫶
- 💜💜💜🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
My fluff is melting.... is there a correlation between shitty parents and cat ownership?
- I think cats are special in their self-domestication. When they choose to lay on us or keep us close company, they know we need their love the most and it's feels so utterly special and genuine. I truly believe if there is a reason humans evolved the way we did, it's so we can be the guardians of life on Earth - pack bonding with animals and plants and objects is just what we do and when they love us back? It makes it all so worth it!
  So fluffy! I want to kiss their belly so much!

The doughnut fries helped a little...

I got this from one of the guys I manage. Thought it was really sweet:

Aww we should all be like Simon and Matt.
My last manager would've ended it with 'and that's why I'm giving you more work'. lol :(

I dreamt I was attacked by flying prawns. They bit me on the thigh.

🦐🫦🦵
Have you ever watched the tv show The Good Place? There is a dream flying prawn scene!

Migraine. No trip.

Fuck this

nooooo
Oh shit noooooo, I’m so sorry
I hope you feel better soon. :(

Good morning

Car just broke down at the dump.. That means I get to leave it here, right?

Gooooood morning DT. Today is the first day of the rest of my life and I've characteristically started it off with a good old sleep-in. I am starting to realise that having the blinds completely down is good for falling asleep, but really bad for my overall circadian rhythm because that severe lack of morning sun in winter gets the rest of the day out of whack.

Cleaning trip to aunt's place got kyboshed at the last minute by their horrifically incompetent son (long story), but I am still going to drop by aunt's temporary digs for the promised food 🤩

I'm going to draw up a list of some things I've been putting off. And plot out what I might do with the grand plan to end my lease soon, dump everything in storage and go hang out with family in WA for a month or so. Some of it will be shaped by the chat I have with work on Monday - whether I can do some remote work while I'm away, timing, etc.

On one hand, moving out is a pain and part of me wants to be lazy and doomscroll. OTOH, this is the perfect time to start afresh in many ways. A very big part of me wants CHANGE! Close that chapter properly!!!

I sleep with the blinds open and a good sleeping mask on. I get the good deep sleep from being in the dark, and the natural light as soon as I wake up. It works for me.
When I was away my Airbnb had motorised blinds in the bedroom. Opening with the push of a button. Game changer for getting up quickly. Seriously want for my bedroom as I am also blinds down dark bedroom person.
- I really want this too. I always have trouble falling asleep if the room isn't completely dark

I'm buying myself doughnut fries as a consolation for missing out on the trip.

Take that healthy eating.

So bummed that you've missed out, enjoy those fries!!

It's pizza night 🍕

Here too.
Enjoy! I'm pretending I'm in Italy by having an aperitivo - martini and some Taralli, and definitely some Aussie pizza to follow!
What's your pizza order of choice?
- Hawaiian and garlic & cheese

Accidental nap in sun. Off to tropical soup tomorrow for a break so much move and pack and clean. And this place is a bit feral after being sick. Also last day with kitty. I don't want to have a full time pet but it was very nice. And nice to know I can have a car here - just in case the universe conspires to give me one.

What floof!! Maybe the Cat Distribution Services will grace you soon. Safe travels!
Such a cute house guest!
KITTEH! I agree there is something lovely about having a feline companion but not necessarily full time. Enjoy the soup! Really tempted to go somewhere warm but maybe not my tropical soup...
- I can't wait! It's my tropical soup so some family time but some quiet beach time too. Sun get in MAH VIEINS

One of thooooose days

in de basement cleaning up more mortar dust, got my big pink filters on and a little bonnet

...vacuum won't start. Completely out of the blue. No. Nooo. My sweet cheese, my goodtime boy, my old reliable whaaat. Do some diags, ok, we shall get a cheap one to finish the job while i repair my bubbe

get in car to bunnings!

..why does the car smell like metho

check exhaust since we had some hooning dickheads last night if some cunt has gone for our catalytic i will be VERY PISSED nope ok all good i'm fine

..remember husband doesn't know shit about cars and has adhd. Pop hood with trepidation.

...yup, the coolant tank is full balls empty YEET

The wok burner on the stove does a great job, and the rangehood was also great at removing all of the smoke. There was a brief issue when I realised I had not unpacked any of my starches, but I managed to track down the cornflour and tapioca starch without too much trouble, and also managed to locate the Chinese cooking wine.

Not unpacking straight away has been very good for working out which things are most important. I'm slowly building a collection of things to get rid of as I realise they don't add enough value to my life to be worth finding a place for. I'm thinking of getting rid of most of my measuring jugs, when I eventually locate them. I haven't bothered to look for them because I had some mason jars on hand which have worked well and fit in the dishwasher better. Plus the numbers have been washing off the jugs, whereas mason jars have measurements moulded into the glass. I just need to make sure I keep the little jug I mix my pancake batter in so it's got the spout for pouring. Or maybe I should try the jar first and see if that works - as an added bonus I could shake to mix.

Plans with aunt changed at the last minute and I ended up going to their temporary place digs 'round the corner from Chaddy. It's got Muji and Macpac in one convenient location, open till 9pm - great, I think.

45 minutes of car park shenanigans later... I remember that it is never that convenient at that hellish place. I also spent a disproportionate amount of time at Muji ogling all the muted earthy everything (made with exploited labour and unethical materials no doubt but very visually appealing nonetheless)...

But no, I shan't accumulate — just bought the flannel shirt for work and more importantly, a second pair of comfy pants. Between that and two brand new FXD pants from earlier today to replace my threadbare, well-loved pair, I have all the comfy pants I need!

Over to RSEA tomoz for a hi viz jumper and windproof jacket and I'll be set. Wallet looking dire until I get reimbursed/tax return tho. Better get everything ready to file asap on 1 July.

I was at RESA recently looking for a decent high viz hoodie and they didn't have anything that I liked. I went with "Bisley Taped Hi Vis Fleece Hoodie (BK6819T)" offa ebay for about $60.
- I'm looking for something that can fit certain tools in the front pockets, and I know one of the Eleven hoodies does (an ex colleague has it), so I might try them on anyway, but if not I'll try the Bisley ones available at the shop near my place (that sadly isn't open Sundays). Work will reimburse these ones so I'm not too fussed.

Thoughts?

I agree the onus needs to be on the prosecution, but I don't believe there is reasonable doubt that she didn't intend to do it, what has made this case so fascinating is how bad she was at hiding her intentions.
- Everytime I listen to the ABC mushroom daily podcast, I flip flop between "she's so guilty" to "hm well maybe not?"
  She certainly fucked up somewhere, being an internationally followed court case
Thoughts: The judge being so comprehensive with the jury instructions is actually intended to reduce a "jury misdirected" avenue for appeal. He's not doing the defence's job, he's shoring up the verdict, especially if it is a guilty verdict.
I've been following along daily and anyone who thinks Justice Beale is doing the defence's job for them is just upset that there is room for reasonable doubt. I think they're angry that there's a chance she'll won't be found guilty. That sub is fascinating, but definitely an echo chamber of "SHE'S GUILTY".
The jury must just be exhausted by this point.
- I can't imagine doing jury duty for a case like this, ugh!!
  And yeah, there is so little nuance to the discussions on that subreddit. If someone tries to explain reasonable doubt they're downvoted. Way too much of an echo chamber.
  Still though, where is Phone A!? 😭
My thought is that average people underestimate how stupid average people are
or that stupid people can have other personal faults as well, like being a defensive liar
so yeah, she could have made a terrible mistake and then did a whole bunch of stupid things and lied as well
the fact that those family members were all cunts doesn't mean she would kill them either
or that she was a plain middle aged woman in a country town , which makes her a "low status" easy target of hate
and my thoughts is that people judging Erin deny how sexist they are, how sadistic they are, and I reckon a lot of them are just trolls who know very well about justice, innocence and doubt

good night everyworms

sweet dreams 😘

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Bowl of porridge please, with pears and maple syrup.
And some tea
- 🌾🥣🍐🍁🍯☕️
Can I please an english breakfast tea, and a fish n chip buttie please
- ☕️🐟🍟🥪

Interesting read :)

https://www.abc.net.au/news/2025-06-28/bushranger-ned-kelly-glenrowan-siege-145th-anniversary/105442598

In between shopping and travelling on the train and doing housework and listening to podcasts and eating I have been reading some papers on cone shells of Victoria. The upshot is they haven't been properly studied and no one really knows how many species there are. So my reference is still up to date even tho it's 70 years old. The work just hasn't been done, too many species and not enough universities or museums to do studies.

So I took a pic of my reference book with my new shell and took a pic of a small part of my collection of Victorian shells.

These are limpets.

sorry they are sideways, I have tried editing 3 times on my phone , lemmy just keeps turning them up again

Sun is out, and it's time for my first grass mowing session at the new house. Also time to poison a few weeds, mostly stuff growing in the gravel also a couple of nasty looking thorny things I don't like the look of. If I can find the gardening tools I might pull a few weeds out of the garden beds too.

Saw this article saying many Year 9s write at a Year 4 level.

This is really disappointing.

in the English syllabus writing wasn't actually included until the last syllabus change a couple of years ago.
What the hell?! That explains lot of emails ....

Melbcat has begun punishing me with farts.

Get up and disturb her by pulling the jacket corner she’s got trapped? Toot. Paying attention to vidya? She walks over the keyboard and crop dusts right under my nose.

She’s my cat alright

🐈💨

Alfie goes absolutely nuts when I get home from the pool. I live close by, so just hop out, rinse off and chuck my poncho towel on and come home and shower. As soon as I get through the door, he's desperately trying to lick me, I picked him up and he fully tried to chow down on my hair. Little weirdo.

Apparently cats are attracted to bleach so it might be the chlorine smell

Heading in the general direction of Marvel Stadium. First dinner, then foomptball

It was an absolutely beautiful day to be outside mowing. The self propelled mower was definitely appreciated, the ground is quite lumpy and it makes pushing a bit more effort, combined with patchy clumps of grass rather than a proper lawn. I didn't do any edges, that can be a next time thing (and hopefully I'll have found all the batteries and charges and things I'll need by then!)

It's not exactly hot, but it is warm enough I've turned on the ducted cooling fan to push a bit of fresh air through the house. It's nice having that bit of air movement, I don't think the layout of the house would work to create much airflow even with windows open.

Good morning. 😊

anyone home?

Good morning 🌞
- 🎵 the world says hello 🎶

Spent today bingeing season 3 of Squid Game. Managed to avoid spoilers so I was not prepared for that ending!

Oooh I don't think I was interested in watching, but now you've said this...!!
- It's very sad in a lot of ways (what happens to my favourite characters is something I'm still thinking about 😕) but it's worth it for closure.

I'm going to the market. Is there anything I can get youse guys?

Fresh donuts! I have not found a decent fresh jam donut in Perth. The closest I have found didn't have jam and were like $4ea.
I miss the Preston Market.
I'll get a ham and cheese croissant please!

I went to Brunnie to shop for some extra jumpers and walking past the NQR window I noticed boxes of packets of Beef Flavoured Instant Porridge . It has no meat, only meat flavour. Indeed. That's called Gruel. They are now selling gruel on Sydney road. 🫴🥣

Across the road they're playing Achy Breaky Heart club mix.

Its a cappella, but you'd never know just by listening
They got the cheese factor just perfeckly!
- No. Just no.

I can hear the raucous, obnoxious Saturday night doof doof and associated vibrations, and I am renewed in my desire to gtfo from here and never live this close to the city ever again...

E: tonight is particularly bad. It's coming from at least two of the houses/units around here. It is unprecedentedly loud. I want to stab someone. Aaaaarghghgh

I haven't been to the beach in ages. I shall go when I'm done with all my crap. Winter beach (no swim because cold) hits.

Even just being near water is a form of therapy for me.
- same 😊
the beach is calling you, Low, Low, come to the beach and relax