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  • I notice men are having a hard time knowing they aren't supposed to comment here - I wonder if the sidebar language is ambiguous. I know it says "Women only", I wonder if something more explicit might help?

    e.g.

    Rules:

    • only women are allowed to post & comment (trans women are included)

    It's possible this wouldn't help at all, but it might be easier to scan and be more explicit in case someone does notice the sidebar?

    Guess I wanted to see what others thought.

    • I often browse Lemmy by All, and can end up commenting on a post without realizing which community it's in, let alone actually navigating to the community and checking their rules. I don't think it's a practical rule, and I abide by the community's decision, but I wouldn't personally have a problem with men posting here in general. Might be easier to have specific posts that are women only so it's written right there in the post. I think the only alternative is to create a bot with an automatic reminder on each post.

      • I get that totally. On the whole people want it to be women only, and the last few days have shown there's sadly a chunk of lemmy men that want to troll and cause issues. If we allow men it'll be hard to stop the trolls and moderation problems will soar. The bots a great idea how do I create it?

      • On the one hand, I am like you and don't have a problem with men posting in general.

        On the other hand, I love the way the rule actually creates a sense of a women's community here, even as a lot of men continue to participate. I like feeling like I can assume the person I'm talking to is a woman too.

    • Yep I've noticed that. Funnily enough lots of the ones that don't realise are hostile, which is a huge coincidence 🙄 . I've added it more visibly on the rules hopefully that helps.

      • I think that unfortunately no amount of tweaking the sidebar or rules will help. People who come here and don't realise the rules are probably jumping straight into individual threads from c/all and reacting without ever even visiting the front page of this community. You would hope that the fact the community is literally called "Women's Stuff" would be enough to make these people reconsider jumping in to attack but here we are. I have a feeling that this is what every women-centric community has had to face on this platform so far.

        Personally, it's something that makes me still feel hesitant about chipping in with anything here, even though you've said non-binary people are welcome. Because there's already enough people invading here and warping the purpose of this community, and it's still early days with not enough activity from women yet as it is.

        You've got something good going here though. And something that Lemmy needs. So I hope that you keep fighting off the riff raff and building this place up. Even just as a lurker, thank you for this space where I can read some good conversations with healthy insights (and pick up tips on dealing with sunscreen woes lol). It is highly appreciated.

      • I personally have experience moderating a community designed for one specific group of people. My advice is use heavy handed moderation, some people may call you a tyrant or a mod abuser but thats whats needed to keep a community like this clean from those who would rather speak over the memebers.

  • Ugh I have a problem responding to threads instead of comments.

    • Ah heck do you know why? I find the app really gitchy

      • I'm using the Sync app, and when looking at the top comment, the reply icon stays on screen, so I just use it without thinking. When I scroll down, that icon disappears, and I use the correct reply button.

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