WIBTA if I told my husband he needs to stop being a glutton and get his eating under control?

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The original was posted on /r/amitheasshole by /u/Ok_Salt7607 on 2023-07-27 16:03:06+00:00.

Reposting my deleted post from a few minutes ago, rewording my question .

I’m using a throwaway account for this. I (F28) and married to my husband (M33) with whom I’ve recently had a baby with. We have 4 kids in total. My husband is currently off work while I am on maternity leave the baby, and I don’t think I can handle being around him constantly due to his gluttony and greed.

I don’t know if my husband was always this bad but if he was it’s only become very apparent since we’ve been spending 24/7 together.

Every single time I buy food for kids or for the household in general, he immediately gets ‘dibs’. E.g, oreo ice creams were on sale so I bought a 4 pack (I give up my ice cream for one of my kids so I don’t have to buy two boxes). He tells me I should have bought 2 boxes to feed everyone because he immediately gets 2 ice creams to himself. I also purchased a box of crackers for our eldest’s school lunch, he told me he gets dibs because he likes those particular crackers and I should’ve bought two. I get a water from the fridge to drink while I’m breastfeeding our newborn, he’ll drink it all when I’m not looking. I baked a batch of cookies for our kids to eat/take to school and I had to beg him not to eat all 12 so it’s fair on the kids and he said that’s too much of a challenge (jokingly, I guess) and ended up eating 4 in a row the night they were made, then the majority of them the next day. I end up having to make another batch for my kids.

And finally, every single day we have been home together, he has demanded a lunch off DoorDash because he’s ‘starving’ by the time I wake up around 10/11am with the baby. Half of the time I have to pay for these delivered lunches. He will not settle for a sandwich or salad or something basic for lunch, it has to be something fried or a burger combo of some sort.

I can’t take it anymore. I feel ashamed that I’m turned off by the sight of my husband due to what I think is pure gluttony and unfairness to myself and our kids. He’s been trying to make a move on me lately and not a single bit of me wants to be loving to him. WIBTA for telling he’s being a glutton and needs to go get some help to get his eating under control?