Asklemmy @lemmy.ml LachlanUnchained @lemmyunchained.net 1 yr. ago

Shower Sitters, Are You Out There?

I’m curious, does anybody else sit down in the shower. (That’s right not a typo. Sitters, not shitters)

This started for me when I was younger, usually when I was nursing a gnarly hangover. The warm water beating down on me was a solace and sitting just made it feel all the more comforting. Though I’m sure it’s not the most hygienic.

Over the years, it's evolved into a ritual, now my preferred way to unwind and relax. So much so, I’m building a concrete bench seat in the shower, with a custom shower head above it, as part of our bathroom renovations. (Similar to the pic)

I'm curious if anyone else has a similar routine. Do you find it therapeutic too? Any particular reason why you started?

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Since I was a kid. You’re the first person I’ve ever heard talk about it. I guess I always thought it was super weird so i never told anyone.
- Yeh. I’m Shocked here tbh. I feel like I’ve found my people. I was always told it was super weird too!
  
  There are dozens of us!
  
  Edit: Damn it, scrolled down and saw someone beat me to this. There are clearly too many of us.
- I used to straight up nap in the shower as a kid. My parents thought I was jerking off but I was legitimately just taking a power nap.
  
  Dude. Same. I would sometimes make a little sleep mask out of a wash cloth.
  
  I just let my parents think that. Somehow, yanking it seemed less weird.
I had an ex-gf that would sit down for showers when possible, and sometimes fall asleep lol
- Me too haha
Sometimes when everything gets too overwhelming I'll sit in the shower

It's relaxing but I lose track of time pretty easy and the amount of hot water I have is pretty limited
- I get about 40min in winter before it runs out.
  
  Oh man, at my apartment I get about 12-15 minutes over the year.
  
  It blows
Yeah I shi- Oh shower sitters. Uh yeah I sit in the shower sometimes, when life is just hard.
There are dozens of us! Dozens!

I just sit right on the bathroom floor. Don't even care. I'm the one who cleans that bathroom, I know that shits clean, yanno?
- I too sit on the floor. Legs crossed.
  
  I don’t want to clean the floor.
  Them chemicals getting all up inside me!
  
  I’d worry they will burn haha.
When my nerve pain rose to the point that I lost the use of my leg, I invested in a shower chair.

Now that I'm rehabilitated, I still use the shower chair because it's absolutely delightful to just chill with good posture in the warm shower.
- I broke my hip and was touch-weight bearing for nine months. The NHS provided a shower stool but after a few months I just hopped into the shower, I found standing on one leg preferrable to sitting down.
Lemmy needs a hide option. I am not a shower sitter but I do not want to downvote to get it off my feed. You guys will now live at the top of my feed out of respect for your life choices.
- Thankyou for the honour. 🙏
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I used to do it a lot, but now that I share my shower with my roommate, I think it’s kind of gross, so I stopped. But it was nice, I really enjoyed it, especially with some good music.

I also did it while I was in Japan, since the bathroom layouts over there allow for showering while sitting and then simmering in the bath tub.
People don't do this sometimes??? I enjoy doing this as often as possible. I started doing it when I had some headaches and didn't feel like bending backwards (tall guy problems in a small shower) so I would just sit and let the water flow over me like I was being blessed by the water gods of headache removal. Haven't looked back since, it's so damn soothing!
Yeah, I do it occasionally. Bad headache or hangover. That'll usually do the trick.
- Exactly the same. Usually standing up, but if it's a really bad morning I sit down.
  
  More often than not I also close the drain so it becomes a bath and suddenly I'm stewing in my own shame and regret.
You don't want to know how I misread that title. 😶
Jeez I read shower SHITTERS and came to laugh at all of the weirdos. Thankfully I don't have to write off humanity as early as usual this morning.
- Give it time.
I always sit down in the shower. Always. Pretty good feeling. In fact, I just did it, 5-10 minutes ago.
- I’m doing it right now. 💛
  
  Lemmy-ing in the shower? Good one.
It’s like the best combination of a shower and a bath! I also started when I was younger… I had to get up really early in the morning and the only way I could get myself out of bed was to lay down and basically sleep in the shower. It was soo relaxing but eventually woke me up enough for the day. I still do it sometimes when I really want to relax or am very tired.
- Yeh. I’m thinking I might like saunas too. Haven’t really tried one properly.
Best way to unwind. Best way to get over a headache or hangover. I like to go from as hot as I can handle down to as cold as I can handle & alternate for as long as I feel I need. Magic.
- Yeh. I get horrible migraines. A few a month. Definitely plays a big role in that behaviour too.
  
  I always try to finish on the cold. Seems to be better. But I hate being cold.
  
  I recently bought one of those gel skull ice pack things. Actually really helpful.
  
  Or freezing cold can of coke and 3 aspirin.
Sometimes you just gotta sit, it’s relaxing, it’s not quite a full bath scenario but not quite a shower, a nice middle
Sitting in the shower is my daily decompression ritual after work. I have no idea when it started but it usually leads me to waste a lot of water.
- It’s not a waste. It’s medicine for your mental health.
Yes. Often. I love it, it feels…. Safe? Same as you, started doing at as a part of the hangover ritual; now I do it a couple times a week. It’s relaxing. Head hanging down, warm water dripping down my nose. Comfy.
Only when I need a good cry
- Been there ✌️💛
The place I moved into recently has a seat built into the shower.
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- Who is Alex Goldman? I tried googling. Nothing stuck out.
  
  He used to host an awesome podcast called Reply All. See https://gimletmedia.com/amp/shows/reply-all/gmhr36.
  
  ALEX GOLDMAN: Sitting in the shower is the best thing in the world. PJ: You just sit down in the shower? ALEX GOLDMAN: Yeah, criss cross applesauce. ALEX BLUMBERG & PJ: (laughing)
Generally only when I'm hungover.
Yup, it's like meditation for me. Helps me unwind.
I haven’t done it in a while but when I did it was a way to relax and unwind a bit.

Now though I haven’t had the luxury of time to do so.
- I recommend taking a moment to do it today ! Give yourself the pleasure.
  
  I’d love to, but I don’t have the time to do so in my morning shower. If I tried I’d be late to work.
In the gym the shower has a seat. It's so nice to sit in and relax.

However my home shower is way to small for a seat.
- Maybe you need to work on your flexibility at that gym haha. 🧘‍♂️
Both my knees need replacing and my left hip is shot at too I have a shower seat so that I can shower when they hurt. I do find it's relaxing and many a time I've been close to falling asleep
- I’ve fallen asleep too often. I always worry I’d drown. But hasn’t happened yet. 🤷‍♂️
I had a real nasty shower in the house I lived in as a kid. It changed the way I see showers. The thought of sitting down in one. Ehh, it sends shivers down my spine. But you do you. If you like it you like. Also, I first misread the title as shower shitters and, the first line of the description made me think you were going to talk about dropping a log down the drain pipe.
- That’s my next post.
Yes, but it's a rare ocfurance for me. I want to keep it special
- Shower monk.
I would but I don't think I'll fit on the floor in a sitting position. Our shower is too small
- Wouldn’t matter how small. I’d make it work haha. 🧘‍♀️
If I'm sitting in the shower I'm probably in a depression spiral
- :(
  
  Try it when your feeling good. ✌️💛
Love it! I’ve never done it unless I’m feeling really sick or really sad, but it’s so nice—why not every day?
It seems like it would be calming. Though I feel the tub gets a bit gross for this.

Any chair recommendations for tubs? What about shower heads that work best to not drown you?
- Don’t know chairs. I just sit cross legged on the floor. Madly the shouter head backs me to the side, find a sweet spot. And all good.
I used to. More of a kneeling kind of position though. No idea why I did it... Just did it once, must have liked it, did it the next day, and repeat.
- Kneeling hey? That sounds painful!
  
  I couldn't think of the word I was looking for when I wrote this. More of a crouch. IDK why I said kneel.
I bought a nice shower seat for my spouse several years back so she didn't have to balance awkwardly on one foot to wash the other. I've used it on occasion when I'm not feeling super great and oh damn does it make a the shower that much more relaxing, at least if I can get the showerhead aimed so I'm not being pelted in the face.
- I’ve got the perfect aim so it runs down my back and body, keeps me warm. And my left arm is free to use my phone.
I‘m too fat and clumsy to comfortably sit down now, but before life fucked me this hard I definitely used to do that as well. Just really comfy somehow. Like sitting out in the rain, which I enjoy as well.
- In the rain? Seems cold haha
- When I was growing up in Jakarta, the downstairs shower was partially open at the top, so when it would rain (often) you could just shower in the rain. It was absolutely lovely and the tile work was well done so sometimes I would just lay naked on the floor in the rain and bliss out. I still (when possible) will just lay down in the rain.
Sure, best way to cry in the shower is in a heap in the tub.
Only when I'm sick, really.
AFAIK people in Japan shower sitting, maybe other nations as well
- You can add Australia to that list 👍
I've not but I really want to try it now!
- It will change your life.

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