What's the deal with male loneliness?
What's the deal with male loneliness?
Like, why is it so widespread, what causes it, what solutions are available, etc. I don't really know how to ask this question so I hope I'm making sense
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This is part of man culture that we men need to change one step at a time. Instead we bully each other over it.
No we don't. That's a feminist lie. The women whose political power depends on maintaining a perpetual state of victimhood by blaming every single thing on men would have you believe that.
Men will have conversations like this:
"Tiffany left me."
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"Really?"
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swig of beer
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"Yeah. Said I'm not 'available enough.'"
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swig of beer
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"Shit dude."
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"Yeah."
Enough information is shared for one man to put himself in the other's shoes, think about what he went through, and arrive at the same place for himself. That need women have to put their feelings into words to yap at each other is just a symptom of their abject inability to empathize with their fellow sentient beings.
You know what doesn't occur to men to share with other men? "Breaking news, this just in from our correspondants in the field: Nothing continues to happen." In fact I'm going to go post that to the Dull Men's Club community and see what comments that attracts.
No, the people who will destroy you for being anything other than fine are the women in your life. Your mother, your sisters, your daughters, whatever name your sexual partner(s) insist on being called. They're the ones who will kick you the hardest when you're down. You will never be more alone than when you're surrounded by women.
As someone who had very different experiences with women and prefers opening up to them over men, I can assure you that there is a healthier way of living out there and I hope you can let go of your bitterness some day.
Just reading that makes it sound like you hate women. I’m sure you don’t…but if you’re giving off that kind of feeling / vibe whatever you want to call it, then maybe that’s why you feel alone when you’re surrounded by women. People can pick up on cues like that and avoid people like that.
Also,
menpeople need to talk more than in your example. This is the exact kind of behavior and thinking that contributes to male loneliness.Enough information is shared for one man to put himself in the other's shoes, think about what he went through, and arrive at the same place for himself.
You just created an example where you imply it’s not okay for men to need more than this. That’s not healthy for you or anyone dude.
Women have worked pretty hard to earn my apathy, so why should I deny them the prize they so vehemently seek? They're not on my side, as an intentional consequence I am not on theirs.
Your name definitely checks out bro...
Yes. It does.
Seems like the common denominator is you. I hope you can work through that.
You've never heard men say "dude, just suck it up and get over it already. Don't be a wuss." about similar issues to other men?
I am reminded of a book called Good To Go by Harry Constance, a US Navy SEAL who served in Vietnam. The exact line of the book it reminds me of is "No swimming."
I've once heard it said that men insult their friends but don't really mean it, women compliment their friends but they don't mean it either. I'll take "Come on, walk it off you're alright" over faked sympathy every day for 37 more years.
Seems like everyone in your life treats you terribly. Is it possible that the problem might lie with the common factor here? Consider finding a therapist to help you through these thoughts.
What are you?
Internet stranger who grew up in the same world. I grew up not being seen or feeling valued. So i can see how you've come to feel how you have.
There really are good people out there. I hope you can find better people, and when you do, that you can meet them ready to reciprocate their kindness and vulnerability.
Just a fucking heap of work it takes to get there though...
There really are good people out there
There are enough lies on the internet, no need to add more.
You're free to live on thinking that way i guess. Just don't make it other people's problem.
About relationship stuff I can honestly say that I haven't ever seen that. Other than like "hey I know you're hurting but why don't you come out with us and we'll try to help you get back on the horse". Which I think is pretty positive.