2d ago

Resentfully done

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Seeing the people that are happy to ruin someone else's life because they were bullied by them a decade ago...goes to show you no one can ever forgive. Just animals the lot of ya....people change, maybe give them a chance.
- Yeah it's cool to keep letting shity people get away with being shitty right? Along as your not like them right? An qdeye for an eye would leave the whole world blind right. So it makes sense to just only have one guy miss his eye because revenge would be wrong. People change their hobbies, interests, clothes. Not shitty attitudes and behaviors. *
  
  This would only work if they made the connection between their shitty behaviour and their mortgage application being rejected years later, which they won’t. They won’t even know who rejected it.
- Probably less of an issue with a person's capability for forgiveness as much as the continuous tormenting of a child in their developmental stages will have a disproportionately heavy impact in their psyche.
  The bullying may have also played a large role in building the bullied's sense of justice, and seizing on an opportunity to "do a solid" for that young defenseless and miserable child within you could go a long way to closing the circle on fundamental issues you have with the ability for any form of justice, civil or vigilante, to carry through and provide consequences.
- I had my college plans plans ruined because of "uncooperative" guidance counselors. I recently found out that I actually tested advance proficient for science, but was refused higher then remedial classes. They didn't gain anything by doing that. I would absolutely "pass it forward."
- Also this is against a former teacher, maybe he was a terrible kid and the teacher got mad at him for a reason.
- As someone who was bullied, and who still has flashbacks and triggers from it... Yeah I would try to forgive them, but I'm not going to feel bad about delivering some consequences.
  Like I'm glad that you grew as a person but the injured party should decide if the person who inflicted the injury gets a free pass. And either way they're 100% correct.
  
  But I guess whoever bullied you was another kid doing it over and over? Not a teache that made you cry during a school trip one day.
  
  No you just have a light taste of revenge in your heart and are trying to justify it any way you can. I was bullied too up until my sophomore year of highschool starting in kindergarten so I'm no stranger to being bullied. All because of a disease I had.
- That banker guy should not have a position of authority at all. He still thinks like a child.
  
  How the fuck do you know that regardless of who was looking at the mortgage application they would have been rejected anyways due to not being able to meet the criteria? And op had the privilege of being the one who said no.
  Now who thinks like a fucking child, you fucking dork.
- I suspect the story in the tweet is fake so probably don't need to worry about the wellbeing of this hypothetical teacher.
- There's a mixing context though. If they're unapologetic (before needing something) about it? Fuck em. If they've made amends and then you just do happen to be in a position of power? _That's_when forgiveness is appropriate.
- Animals forgive
  
  My cat certainly seems to have forgiven me for all the times I made him move, at least.
  
  He's playing the long game, he'll feast on your corpse after he suffocates you in your sleep.
- Some people deserve forgiveness, some do not.
  I think we all cheer because we interject the ones we know that do not deserve forgiveness.

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