TIL: the average person has 9 sexual partners in their lifetime
TIL: the average person has 9 sexual partners in their lifetime
I dunno, I thought it would be higher. I guess I'm just a slut surrounded by sluts (positive).
What do you think about the number? Does it surprise you? Does it surprise you that it surprises me? Did you expect it to be lower maybe? If so why?
I just find this interesting. No judgement (unless you want that you dirty little gremlin)
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So if I'm in my 30's and waaaay behind, is there hope I could catch up to the average or am I just gonna be behind forever? lol
well for one, there isn't inherent value to number going up, it doesn't determine your worth, but secondly yeah I mean I'd say chances are probably pretty high of it goin up, especially if you are looking!
for me the low number is from a compete lack of opportunity and a symptom of horrible social problems.
having the option would require my life to have vastly improved, which is what i want and have no delusions or expectations of happening,
yeah, same here @ everything you said.
a symptom of horrible social problems.
For me, it's living at home + no job + no car. Also being really shy due to trauma, and living in a lame place. idk about you.
This thread actually sucks, because the only outcome is it makes people feel like they are not "meeting expectations". I am way below this number but not worried about it in the slightest. The number itself is meaningless. "Catching up" seems like it's an expectation or obligation, when really everyone does relationships differently. Please don't feel like you need to reach this number, or even try. But if you do want a sexual partner, that's totally fine too! Just don't feel like you are a failure for not having more partners.
I'd say chances are probably pretty high of it goin up, especially if you are looking!
well I've been looking my whole adult life, and still no dice. At this point I have to conclude I'm too broken for anyone to be interested in me, even if only for a FWB or fling or whatever.
Absolutely. I think the takeaway here should be that 9 partners isn't really a big deal. Like, if you star t having sex between 15-20 and settle down around 25-30 it's just 1-2 people a year. It dosn't take much to get there if you're mentally well, somewhat socially adjusted. And if you're not comfortable in yourself yet but become that later in life, it's a high probability that you'll "catch up" too.
There's a bunch of cultural and generational aspects of this too of course, but assuming you live in "the west" and go to social gatherings and you're not a nazi, sex-pest or expecting "porn sex" it shouldn't be a problem. Remember that the bar is incredibly low at this point, at least for men. Like, if you're in your 30s, brush your own teeth, wash your ass with soap, you're basically above average.
you're not a nazi, sex-pest or expecting "porn sex" it shouldn't be a problem. Remember that the bar is incredibly low at this point, at least for men. Like, if you're in your 30s, brush your own teeth, wash your ass with soap, you're basically above average.
Stop repeating this shit. "Bad people are fucking. If you aren't, it must be because you're worse than the bad people," is just virgin shaming.
Bigger number doesn't equal better number. But in my experience I received more interest from people when I weren't looking to hook up, probably because it allowed me to interact with them in a personable non horny way.
I've had some good times using hinge too, but I live in a big city with good public transport, so my life is probably different from yours.
I know lots of old people who just started to hit their "hoe phase" and I know swinger clubs aren't really for the young and pretty most of the time.It doesn't really change your quality of life to have had sex with more different people. I mean maybe it helps one's self-esteem a little, but there are plenty of sexual partners I've had that could have been replaced with a more longterm-enriching experience by watching a good movie.