(I don’t need advice, I’m already broken up with her, so I’m kinda just ranting).

Of course, everyone has had that one (or more) crazy/bad ex. As a bi girl, mine was with Rosalie, who I dated around two years ago, so I’m already much broken up with her.

We don’t talk much anymore, but Rosalie seems pretty nice now and I think she’s getting help, thankfully.

When we first met, Rosalie and I were friends. Eventually, she started to continuously joke-flirt with me, and I would flirt back.

Due to the attention she gave me, I started to actually catch feelings for her.

After a while, Rosalie confessed that she had genuine feelings for me and asked if I’d like to go out with her.

I, of course, said yes, and that I liked her too.

The relationship started out in the “honeymoon stage” where we were pretty nice and flirty to each other, but she got more distant as the relationship went on.

She started becoming really dry with her texts and spending more time with her friends than with me. Then, it was her other partner Kate (since we were in an open relationship). However, she also had a crush at school: Ben.

She also apparently hit Ben and gave him a black eye because “she loved him” and stuff like that (which I found out after I found out she was rude) so I probably shouldn’t be surprised.

Anyway, Rosalie always acted really upset with everything, but when I’d ask why, she’d say she was fine.

I gave her some space for a little while, checking on her occasionally.

Rosalie started to go from depressed to passive-aggressive and rude.

This worried me, so I spent as much time away from her as I could. Sometimes, she would be outwardly rude, like calling me a disgusting creep and told me to “shut up”. I stopped talking to her.

On public servers to her online friends, she would even talk behind my back when she apparently thought I wasn’t in the server.

In servers where she was a mod, she would specifically report/delete all my posts for no reason.

It wasn’t so much that I was mad at her being upset, but how she was acting towards me for it. I understood that she had a lot of mental issues, as well as an abusive family. That, I felt bad for, but it didn’t really give her the right to be rude towards me.

Rosalie would switch a lot, though. Sometimes, she would be sweet as can be, telling everyone about her “amazing” partner, who she loved very much. She would tell jokes to me. She would flirt with me, say she loved me. Expressed affection a lot, before going right back to how she was before.

Every bad thing that happened, she got mad at me for and blamed me for it. She would blow things completely out of proportion and believed that everyone was trying to attack her.

Upset at her rude behavior, I would vent about her to my friend Ana and ask her for advice.

After some time passed, I was still going without contact with Rosalie, so I asked the girl who was either her online friend or older sister how she was doing. She told me Rosalie was okay, but was probably going through stuff.

Rosalie then confronted me and told me she knew I was talking bad about her behind her back, and that made me a horrible partner, even though all I asked was if she was okay. I didn’t want to ask her herself for obvious reasons, especially when she told me not to talk to her because I was disgusting.

We were together for nine months. Kate and Rosalie lied that I abused them in every way (disgusting), so I went fully without contact and left every server and group chat after that.

After a while, Rosalie and Kate both apologized and told me they were getting help and that they were in a really bad mental state, and that “2022 was not their year”.

I rejoined a group chat of theirs, which had old chats saying that my being autistic was weird, that I made everyone uncomfortable, and that Rosalie probably dated a creep, etc.

However, I excused this since they posted that around five months ago and never brought it up again.

They welcomed me with open arms and said they missed me, and that they said that because they were very petty 13 & 14-year-olds, but they were never mad at me now.

Rosalie, now 16, I talk to occasionally, and she seems to be getting better. Kate, also now 16, seems to be getting better too, and she’s my girlfriend now. I decided to give her another try since Rosalie did most of it and Kate just tagged along. Both seem really sorry, but I’m ranting about it just to share, and see if anyone else has similar stories.

My BF Jay hardly ever responds to my texts anymore (we are long distance, sadly). He hardly ever expresses affection for me, and our relationship feels more platonic.

He has a list of people who he's grateful for and people he appreciates, etc. I'm never on there, since he always "forgets". I don't want him to feel obligated to, though, so I've learned to ignore it.

He doesn't mention me to anyone, though I excused it as him being private.

He speaks romantically about other girls but not me, as if I'm just his best friend. Eventually, I found on some posts and on his bio that he's been with two girls he didn't tell me about, while simultaneously dating me.

Now, we are in an open relationship, but the deal was we could only date if either of us knew about it. I did not. He's apparently been with these girls for months.

He broke up with Mae, who he dated without my knowledge, then dated Sara. He talks a little about Sara to me now sometimes, but now he says Sara is just his friend.

Not only did he not tell me about either girl, but he, of course, never mentioned me to them, and proceeded to ask them out as if he was single.

IDK how to feel anymore...

Edit: We talked it out :)

:)

I've noticed that when I wake up, the alter that usually cofronts is still asleep. This normally would be fine with me, except for the fact that I often have to get up early, and our body can't function well unless every alter in front is active.

Has this ever happened to you? Do I just go to the headspace and shake him awake somehow?

So, my friend Ana and I are cool now, but I’ve been thinking about this one situation, since I can’t really forget what she said to me. It honestly scared me...

It was around the time that girls our age were getting boyfriends, and I (~14F at the time) told my friends about Austin (my BF at the time, almost 15M). Anyway, at the same time, my friend Ana (14F) went on her first middle-school date with her BF Jake.

Excited, she wanted me to be there to tell our friend group the news due to her excitement.

I was there to tell our one friend Steph, but for the rest of her friends, I wasn’t there, and Ana told them alone.

When I got home, I received an angry text from Ana, angrily spamming my name in all caps and calling me a bitch.

I asked what happened. She told me I was playing dumb and that I knew exactly what happened: that I was a gossip who told Steph about Jake, and that it was my fault that Steph didn’t respond excitedly. It was my fault, apparently, that Steph just said “That’s amazing!” and nothing more.

Ana then told me to “clean up [her] mess, bitch” and that I was a horrible friend for telling Steph the news, and that I “should be ashamed of myself”.

Not a long time after, Jake broke up with her, as he apparently found her romantically with another guy.

She blamed me for this and said that I lied to him when I didn’t tell Jake anything, as I don’t know the guy, which I told her. Ana told Steph that Jake broke up because he lost feelings for her, but Steph then replied, “That’s not what HE told me.”

Ana apologized for all the insults she called me after she settled things straight with Jake, Steph, and me, and while I forgive her and we’re friends again, I still can’t forget what she did. Was I overreacting to block her until she calmed down, and is it “sensitive” of me to not trust her as much as I once did?

She also said that she shouldn’t have pulled me into things and just should’ve told Steph herself.

Would it be rude to say no the next time she asks me to do something?

Some people, of course, answer questions respectfully, which I’m grateful about. However, there are many people who just respond with stuff like “What a stupid question. I hope you die you fat bitch. Of course it’s people like you who ask stupid questions like this. You don’t know anything, shut up and die.”

If you ask anything about politics, for example, someone will say something like “I hope you die, liberal. You don’t know anything about politics, stop assuming shit you fat bitch. Liberals are stupid and so are you.”

Answers like these aren’t at ALL relevant to the question, a lot of them who say not to assume things are ironically assuming things about the person who asked. I’ve also noticed that a lot of people with such responses often have the most responses and show up as people to ask on that topic, as well as a few of them having on their bio “I’m so smart”. Sure, but your responses do not make you sound that way.

Don’t get me wrong, not everyone is like this, and I will get a respectful response or two, but 80% of the answers are stuff like this. I’ve seen quite a few responses from these assholes saying that women are the Devil’s spawn and whatnot, so I’m gonna assume these are trolls, but when they make up so much of the responses, it’s annoying as hell.

And no, people on Quora, I’m not just upset with people who disagree with me. The problem isn’t that they disagree, it’s that they’re being assholes.

If I mention my friend's boyfriend once, I'm obsessed with her dating life.

If I send a "gotta go" text to someone, which takes a few seconds, I'm suddenly wasting time and always on my phone.

If I calmly tell my grandma that her statement is not true, she says I'm easily offended and being a snowflake.

If I say the name of a TV show, they think I'm unhealthily obsessed with it.

I'm yelled at if I'm not the ideal, quiet girl. Is this normal? How can I let them get to know me like they want to do?

My friend Abby texted the group chat one day. She said that our friend Ella's mom texted Abby and told her that Ella passed out and still hasn’t woken up.

Of course, for hours, we were worried sick about her. Abby told us she hasn’t received any more news about Ella. I vented to my family about it, and they said they were sorry that happened to Ella and I’d just have to wait and see if she gets better.

Ella also has a boyfriend, Michael. Michael and I eventually found out from Ella that it was a prank, and she had just turned her phone off. I was worried about her, and Michael was pissed to find out that she did that.

Ella thought it wouldn’t get a reaction, so she did that because she was bored and didn’t know what to do.

I'm not sure where to put this. Just... it worried me so badly, since Ella's a friend and I care about her. Why would someone even do this?

This girl, Abby texted the group chat to tell us something bad happened to our friend Ella, that her mom sent a message saying she collapsed and fainted.

It had been several hours, and Abby said Ella hasn't woken up yet, according to her mother.

I was worried, vented to my family about it, and tried calling her number. It appeared her phone had been turned off.

Later, Ella told me and her BF Michael that it was a prank and that her phone was off because she was on a plane. She was bored and thought no one would care if she was in an actual coma.

I was relieved and Michael was rightfully pissed.

I'm sorry to gush, but he's so quiet and peaceful that I want to hug him. It's honestly so relaxing to see him asleep, although sometimes I accidentally get pushed behind which leads to the body getting sleepy.

Every time I talk to my family about something, and my grandma happens to be in the room (almost always), I could bring up something such as school friends (since my family will ask if anything exciting happened), and I’ll bring up something ONCE like: “I’m so happy for my friend Ella. She’s liked this dude, Michael, for a long time, and now they’re finally together!”

Suddenly, my grandma will say “You know, it’s so WEIRD that you’re obsessed with Ella’s dating life? Why are you being so WEIRD?”

I’ll calmly respond with, “I’m just happy for her. I’m talking about things that happened at school.”

She’ll tell me that I get offended too easily and that I’m oppressing her, that she can’t say ANYTHING without me getting offended.

When I told my family that I just got diagnosed with a disorder and was trying to process it, she told me I was obsessed with “being mentally ill and making it my whole personality”, when I only mentioned being tested for it a few times.

She frequently makes comments when I say anything about a topic, and then when I calmly tell her that her comment isn’t true, she thinks that I’m upset with her and stuff.

How do I deal with the comments? I live with her, BTW.

cross-posted from: https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/post/20684850

> My friend Ana (15F) is generally a nice person, but she can be a little weird with some things, specifically Gym. Ana does not like taking accountability for her own mistakes, nor does she seem to believe/accept that she can be wrong sometimes. > > Ana constantly blames others (like me) for things like her serving the volleyball behind herself instead of over the net, for example. > > When I pass to someone and they end up missing in basketball, she blames me for passing to them and not her. > > If I end up winning a point, she sarcastically slow claps and says “Wow. You finally did something useful for once.” > > She gets mad at me for setting or spiking a volleyball that’s too high for me to bump as well, saying she’s better than everyone, that everyone is useless, and that I was actually supposed to bump it down low. > > She makes sure to remind people how terrible they are and how she’s better than them, too. Ana has anger issues (she says it’s because of her parents) and while she acts like nothing happened/apologizes in the next period, she does the same things again and again since around 12 years old. I like Ana as a friend but I hate when she yells at me and others for everything.

Has anyone ever woken up one morning to realize that the alter in front with them hasn't woken up yet? It's very weird and even sometimes leads to sleep paralysis for me.

This is mod Almond. If you're 13-19 years old and seeking advice, whether it's about a crush, partner, or even possibly spouse if you're old enough to marry. I acknowledge that teens need different advice from adults sometimes.