flicker @ flicker @lemmy.dbzer0.com 帖子 10评论 764加入于 5 mo. ago
It was a term coined by anarchists to describe authoritarians. You don't have to accept a label someone else uses in bad faith.
Hey, I'm a dbzer0 member (I even contribute financially to keep it running) and I'm one of the people who complained about how salty suckers like you come in all the goddamned time to complain about blahaj.
It's not because Ada is doing anything wrong, it's because enough of you don't like what she's doing that you whine and complain every chance you get. And you don't even have the decency to complain about different things!
Waaaah! Ada banned me! But I feel like I wasn't transphobic/I wasn't on blahaj when I said that/but what about free speech/but what about my feelings?
And so it's the same post, over and over. And the community rules the same way, over and over. Surprise! Ada made a safe space for blahaj members! They love what she's doing and thank her for it! No one over there is sad that you're gone! The fediverse is working as intended!
Not only that, every time one of you makes the same tired, self-centered post, it doesn't matter if you're downvoted to oblivion. It doesn't matter if the community hands your ass to you. You linger. And the next prick shows up and complains. And the community gives them the finger. But the first asshole is here still, and he tells the second asshole that they're right! And Ada is a monster! And the community is wrong!
So they linger. And the next prick comes along. And the community tells them to fuck right off. But now two assholes tell them that the community is wrong. Ada is a power tripper. Free speech. You weren't actually transphobic. You're right. Everyone else is wrong.
And now, in this very thread, we have like five assholes who all made posts to YPTB, complaining about Ada. And you're finding each other and you're turning our community into enough assholes that you'll eventually have enough to turn every. Goddamn. Post. Into your little butt-hurt pow-wow.
So not only are you posting the same tired bullshit over and over and over, even though the community has made it clear what they think- you're also using these posts to build a shitbird coalition. So. Why the ruck would anyone intentionally allow that to continue? These "Ada was mean to me" posts add nothing of value, and they empower a bitch element.
Ada and I have never exchanged words (that I remember, fediverse is a big place) and zero blahaj members have ever asked me to complain about people constantly having the same goddamn problem with blahaj. So let me just nip this in the bud right now- dbzer0 is a self-governing instance, and if enough of us think you're being a whiny bitch, no one has to come and try to dictate what is and isn't allowed in our community.
TL;DR I know you feel empowered with your handful of transphobic asshole friends here to upvote you and back you up, but you have been told, over and over, that Ada isn't doing anything wrong. And when dbzer0 community members like me complained that the blahaj posts were the same fucking post over and over, our team fixed it. I get that you don't like that, but this is the fediverse. Make your own instance to bitch about Ada and kindly fuck off.
Yes. Stop asking.
You'd have to give us your address!
The "literally tanks" part is where the word "tankie" comes from. So you do actually understand tankies.
I will never side with authoritarianism, because having supreme control over every aspect of life means that whoever has that control can and will abuse it.
M@te you're on an anarchist instance. Why are you saying "we" for tankies?
Some are, but not most (in my experience).
Way back in the day, the term was used as an insult to describe authoritarian communists. I know anarchists used it.
For today, my understanding is that 'tankie' still means authoritarians, but I've been seeing a bunch of people use 'tankie' as an insult to complain about any leftists.
None of this is at all pertinent to this thread, or to transphobia, or to Ada's action, so it really didn't belong here.
Thanks, I'm often too old to know the cool new thing.
I appreciate it and look forward to using it in the future.
I have ADHD, and one thing that really helped me a lot was to try and build my life and my home around things that encourage the behaviors I want to engage in.
An example; the Clio Greek yogurt bars I've been eating for snacks are expensive, yes. They have wrappers which have to be thrown out, which is terrible. There's a million reasons I hate eating them. But they taste good, and the convenient packaging means that when they're in the house, I eat those instead of cheaper, less healthy candy or cookies or, and I'm very guilty of this- skipping the snack.
I have non-diabetic hypoglycemia. I can't keep skipping my snacks/meals because I'm distracted or don't want to bother with food. My doctor cannot be any clearer about the damage I'm doing to myself.
I had to accept that yes, these have wasteful packaging. Yes, they cost more than other snacks. But I'm almost 40 and I've spent my entire life proving over and over again I can't just will myself to behave differently. I need to accept that this is a medical condition, not a failure, and give myself grace.
There's about a million other things like this, but the vibe is, I will do my best. I will hold myself accountable when I fail. But I will no longer beat myself up for not being a person I've never been.
Forgot to take my vitamins for a few days? Take them now, and move forward. You aren't to blame. They taste delicious and you want to take them, so failing to do so is obviously not your fault. (Setting an alarm to take them only works for a few days before I start dismissing the alarm without actually noticing it.)
These are all things to work around. Not to hate myself for.
I have been working as a caregiver, usually for adults with developmental and intellectual disabilities, for years. If I wouldn't be mad at a person with a disability diagnosis for displaying the symptoms that are out of their control, it's hypocritical of me to do that to myself.
I'd argue it wasn't defederated because of one user, it was defederating because of a fundamental disagreement in moderation policies.
The one user could've been saying anything people could find deplorable. It was that the admin chose to be hands-off about it that pulled the trigger.
Which is a good thing, in that servers are allowed to decide how they want to handle moderation, and other server owners are allowed to decide if they accept that, or if they expect the moderation will lead to continued problems of the same vein down the road. The fediverse working as intended.
I type like I talk, and I work with folks in a caregiving capacity who respond well to someone who doesn't sound clinical, who maybe talks like just another person in the community, and here in the southern US, that's a specific accent and affectation... So...
It's okay you're still my babe!
(Unless you dislike southern US style terms of endearment. In which case you're still my... uh, m@te.)
Oh no, I know it's my fault. You know I have a folksy, colloquial way of speaking, and I type like I speak.
"Can you imagine?" in this context usually is a scoff or an expression of disbelief.
"Doesn't lend well" here means those two things don't mesh.
Of course I was.
Lemon treats! I make lemon chiffon cupcakes with lemon curd inside and a slice of candied lemon, and it's all brightness and citrus and sour and light and just the best thing!
Would you rather live in a small house in a city, or a big sprawling too-much-space house in the country?
I'm not the person you responded to, but I found the strength when I realized I'd rather have a hole where her abuse was, and grieve, than keep having to live the stress and drama over and over and over.
It sucked. Still does, 20 years later. But it was so much healthier for me in the long run.
I like m@tes. I would want to stick with the pirate theme and in lots of the world, "mate" is a friend.
Love the idea of assuming we're all on the same side. Because we are.
Then the circled a is a good reminder.
This is solid stuff, db0.
Anarchists and elitism, can you imagine?
Doesn't lend well.
That's why I said it might have something to do with who you're around.