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Feelings? Nah
  • I think that maybe a different way to look at it would be to ask: why is vulnerability a bad thing? Everyone has emotions. Everyone is impacted and affected by things. To use your situation as an example - your partner betrayed you. You SHOULD be vulnerable to that. The fact that they can't fathom having that level of vulnerability, to the point that they claimed you were trying to manipulate them, is the problem. That kind of emotional invulnerability is what leads people to do the kinds of things they did.

    I truly believe that being vulnerable in front of someone, especially when they have hurt you so much, is strength. Showing someone how much they hurt you is really hard. Find people you can be vulnerable with. They're out there.

  • I still don’t think companies serve you ads based on spying through your microphone
  • In September, I was using reddit, had an iPhone, etc. I was generally aware of digital privacy, probably moreso than the average person, but by no means was I knowledgeable.

    I was running a beta on my iPhone at the time, for context. I had a short conversation with my roommate while my phone was in my pocket. I took it out to text my partner and pressed the dictation button. My phone proceeded to type out the majority of the conversation I had had maybe five minutes earlier with my roommate. Literally ruined my ignorance is bliss and now I have a Pixel with grapheneos and use almost exclusively open source software with a major focus on privacy. Obviously this is an anecdote from some idiot online and I can't verify what I'm saying at all, but the experience definitely shook me.

  • Feelings? Nah
  • My friend, I am so sorry you went through that. I understand it is incredibly hard to get over a betrayal coupled with an attack like that, but I know you can do it. Let yourself breathe and take your time but when you're ready, there is a whole world of love out there for you.

    There are so many people who will cherish the exact part of you that she took for granted. It is easy to go through something like that and come to the conclusion that you should stop feeling. I hope you don't.

    As for people saying you're an incel... I literally have no advice other than no longer talking to them. There are people in marriages who are "involuntarily celibate". This could become a rant about the awful nature of even the term "incel" but I think that would be a waste.

    I hope you continue to show your strength by refusing to hide your vulnerability.

  • What's the best psychology trick you know?
  • I have no idea why but this happens with most people in my family and we can even trace it back to my great grandma.

    I think it does come down to listening actively, but also by sharing a sense of openness and vulnerability. When you're honest about yourself with others, they're more likely to be honest with you.

  • Pretty interesting when you really think about it.
  • You're totally right about this. I find it frustrating in a different way that the ability to travel is easier and possible, which hasn't been the case for the majority of humanity, but (generally) artificial restrictions prevent it from happening.

    I'm from Canada and my partner was born in Europe. When I hear how easily she was able to travel by train and plane, it makes me sad that we don't have a similar system. Even airfare is significantly cheaper there because trains are a worthy competitor.

    A friend of mine who has relatives in China has talked about how people my age (university age) have been using the new train system to see so much of their country than they otherwise would be able to.

    I hope that eventually there will be a similar transit system in Canada that allows poor people to see the country they live in. And I understand that by even living in Canada I don't really count amongst the global impoverished population. I understand the privilege.

  • Revolut, McDonald's, and Authy have banned the use of GrapheneOS.
  • I switched to grapheneos on pixel 9 straight from iPhone. The only reason I have any google stuff on the phone is because of RCS messaging. There is literally nothing I have any issues with on this phone, software or hardware. It has been a very smooth and comfortable transition. I very much recommend giving it a try. I think you'd be surprised how little google (exclusively) gives, compared to how much they take.

  • Donald Trump’s New Admin Weighs ‘How Much Should We Invade Mexico?’
  • I hate to admit it, but somehow Ben Shapiro was right. He wrote about this in his terrible, awful, no good, very bad book True Allegiance. Although the reason why that invasion started was due to border crossings. And it wasn't started by the president but by the governor of Texas.

    The book is awful but I recommend listening to Behind the Bastards' (a podcast) reading of it because it is enlightening.

  • Microsoft tries to convince Windows 10 users to buy a new PC with full-screen prompts
  • I use Linux at home but my work computer uses windows. Work just bought me a new laptop with windows 11 pre-installed and I got ads to upgrade to a new "AI capable computer" on the login screen. This computer is maybe 3 months old and there are already ads telling me I need to get a new one.

  • Reminder for Windows 10 users who can't upgrade to Windows 11
  • I started on mint a couple months ago and so far I've tried as many distros as I could find. I liked manjaro but then found out about their controversies so I'm currently on endeavour os. Half of the fun for me has been experimenting with different desktops and whatnot, which has gotten me back into computer stuff.

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