No no, they didn't go behind my back. I knew it was in the works. It's more that there was no clear communication about the plans, so I only found out specifics after they'd been made public.
Then maybe when you are talking to people in the future about this, you can talk about the differences in moderation styles in an objective way, talking about the types of things we disagree on, without loading it with terms like "over moderation" and "moderating by vibes" etc.
My moderation style hasn't changed, and predates 196. If it doesn't gel with your team, you can say that without making it my fault.
I thought this was meant to be on good terms? What about your post is fostering good will? It's nothing but trashing on me...
To be clear, every post and user I removed was due to queerphobia, transphobia, trolling or spam, issues that broke the instances rules. Some of that bigotry was was implicit rather than explicit, like dog whistles, tone policing etc. Some of it was the "just asking questions" transphobia that pervades most corporate owned social media spaces.
This is the way I have moderated this instance from before the time I handed this community to moss. When lemmy was just taking off, I asked for people to mod the 196 community after it was abandoned by its original creators, and passed it over to moss when she raised her hand.
So if the goal is for this to be civil, maybe don't paint me as the bad guy for moderating in a way I have done from before your community was created here. What feels like "moderating by vibes" to you, is lengthy experience with community development, and a decade navigating queer and gender diverse communities, and knowing what I want from them. As moss said, this is ideological differences in how low grade transphobia and queerphobia should be dealt with. moss is ok with community pushback for the low grade stuff rather than moderation, whereas I'll just remove it.
That's what I wouldn't compromise on, and that has been the way the instance has run for years now.
It feels like every time I extend 196 a hand, you bite it. I gave the community to moss and started this whole thing. I told another instance admin no when they asked 196 to remove their banner. moss then went and leaked the DMs from said admin, forcing me to remove the post, and then had a public complaint session about me for removing the post.
I have asked 196 for years now to have an active blahaj.zone mod so that someone can deal with the blahaj.zone reports that constantly come through and build up, but still, the best we got were mods with alt accounts that get checked every couple of days, leaving me to deal with the build up of reports on 196. Sometimes they would hang around there for days while I waited for a 196 mod to log in and look at them. And because you don't like the way I deal with them, you drag me over the coals for my moderation style, despite no one from 196 stepping up to deal with those reports on a regular basis.
I was told that you were thinking about moving to another instance. I offered my support if you decided to stay or to leave. And that was the last I heard of it, until one of your mods (possibly you if I remember correctly) told the community you were organising something with lemmy.world, and I had to hear that second hand. And then, when things were finalised and the decision to move was locked in, once more, I heard about it second hand, after your team made a public post, because no one from 196 could be bothered to tell me before posting.
So no, you don't get to paint me as the unreasonable admin who moderates by "vibes". If you want to point the finger at me, at least own your own mistakes, rather than asking for good will and civility and then dumping on me when the chance presents itself.
I'm particular about this, because I'm Adaline, not Adeline :)
No ill will! I just don't want people thinking I was defacto moderating 196
Mod choices are rarely, if ever, checked by my team
To be clear, the only moderation I do is for content or users that are breaking our instance guidelines, not 196 rules. If it didn't break instance guidelines, I didn't touch it, and if it did, it was bigger than 196. In neither case was running it past 196 mods an appropriate step
There are upsides and downsides to such an approach.
We admin several instances for example, because we are trying to create safe spaces for queer folk and want to foster those communities. We pay out of our own pockets to do so.
I've got no interest in running a generic piece of network infrastructure that can be used by bigots just as readily as the people that they harass.
The people that do want to run that are "free" speech types, which is how you end up with nostr
It's Adaline, not Adeline!
Ok, can you give me some links of stuff that you can't find here? I found all of the older posts mentioned in this discussion, which means they're federating fine. However, it could have been my search for them that triggered the federation. In which case, it might be worth just unsubscribing from the group and re-subscribing. Lemmy federation doesn't send content for groups with no subscribers on that instance, so if you're the only subscriber and that subscription request got lost back when you first subscribed (when lemmy federation was less developed), that could explain it.
Yep, that was pretty much me. In my case, I bought a new PC, and I decided I just didn't want to put windows on it. I've been on linux ever since. And yeah, that was after a couple of decades of trying to do that and failing :)
Are you subscribed to that community with your blahaj account? If so, when did you subscribe?
If I could give people the option to choose to turn on downvotes for just themselves, I would do that, or if I could block downvotes from remote instances, but allow them from our users, I would do that. But I can't. The only option is enabled our disabled. So the downvotes stay off so that they don't get used against the openly queer instance.
Another thing is that I noticed there's a Truscum community here
Have a closer look :) It's an anti gatekeeping community that is very much anti truscum.
Unless there is a community I don't know about it. If so, please let me know which community it is, and I'll ban it with great joy.
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1: is lemmy good for macro blogging? Like how you'd use something like Tumblr or the like.
No. You're looking for Mastodon/Sharkey/Misskey/Friendica or kbin for that! Lemmy is more the federated equivalent of a site like reddit.
2: when you create a community for yourself and post in it, does it reach other people or is it only if they actively search for it? Is it common here to create a community just for yourself to post blogs and the like? Can you even do that?
There is no such thing as a community for yourself. Every community is either visible to everyone, or you can lock it down to just people on the same instance as you. But you can't ever make it just for you. You can make it so that no one else can post to it, but you can't stop them reading it.
3: how does the federation thing work exactly? I'm from an instance that has downvotes disabled, so what happens when someone tries to downvote me?
Basically, the instance just ignores downvotes that it receives. Other instances don't. So that means that the timeline you see will be different to the timeline someone on a different instance sees, because their timeline will factor in downvotes and yours won't.
4: is lemmy safe from AI scrapping or nah?
Nothing that is publicly visible or searchable is safe from AI scraping.
Is this platform good for artists compared to something like mastodon, twitter, or bluesky?
Different things.
Lemmy is "reddit like". Mastodon and Bluesky are "twitter like". On lemmy, you subscribe to and follow communities. On mastodon, you subscribe to and follow users.
So it really depends on what you're looking for.
5: is there search engine crawling on lemmy? Are all posts on here possible to show up in search engines or nah? How do things work on that front?
Yep, it can and is crawled. If you don't want that, lemmy isn't going to be great, as it's impossible to avoid.
You do have more control over that on mastodon, as you can lock posts down to be more private, but even then, it's imperfect.
6: how's development? Is lemmy going to continue to build and improve or are things gonna stay as they are for the foreseeable future?
Active and ongoing, with a couple of competing alternatives that are also actively developed
7: how privacy friendly and secure is lemmy really? I'm guessing a lot better then reddit, but just curious.
Admins have full access to the database, and in theory, can pull out pretty much anything. Which is just the same as reddit. Your best bet for privacy is anonymity
8: are there normal people or communities here? From what I'm seeing all of lemmy seems primarily focused on politics and tech, am not seeing much beyond that.
Lots of meme communities too! It's a size thing. Not as many lemmy users as there are reddit users, and the ones that are here tend to be more tech oriented.
Lots of queer communities our instance!
Having no to few peers is isolating no matter how compassionate you are.
Healing factor - always-on healing.
Don't we already have that?
Great way to feel lonely and isolated! It's already an issue "gifted" folk struggle with, and the more "gifted" you are, the more isolated you tend to be
I've seen AI spam bots. Does that count?
We will upgrade, but I don't have a specific time frame for you. It will depend on real life pressures, and there isn't much to require a quick upgrade in 0.19.8
I figured I'd put myself through a huge challenge of cutting over completely to LInux without a secondary backup drive with Win 10 on it.
Exactly how I did it coming up on a year ago. Still going strong!
Interestingly, I'd be forced to take this deal if wiping my memory of it was a side effect of rejecting it.
And when I took it? Yeah, the money would influence me and self interest would shape some of my decisions, but at the end of the day, I have to live with myself. If my decisions aren't also shaped by empathy and compassion for others, then I'd have lost myself.
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