ADHD memes don't have the same quality of info as my psych degree, but I swear the picture didn't hang together nearly as well until I saw enough of them.
That's why the 3 neurotypical psychiatrists I talked with sounded like "but did you consider depression/anxiety?" on loop, but when I found the one psychiatrist in my area that also has adhd we clicked immediately and I finally felt listened to
It's a vicious cycle - you never actually reach mellow, you're grasping at it, but the mental nagging is constant, so you're never actually in the mellow state, just needing a break from that nagging to get there, but it never stops..