How many dates is it customary to wait to tell someone you're dating about Hexbear?

My girlfriend of 6 months asked “what’s Hexbear” and I immediately changed the subject
- Muddy the waters by making counter accusations. Call them a tankie

none. you don't need a date first to tell people about hexbear. the fact that you're not just shouting about us on street corners is revisionary
- Instead of a scarlet letter I just wear a sandwich board that says "i use hexbear" and ring a bell. Accomplishes the same thing.
  
  Sandwich board with a giant PPB on it
- I changed my name to Hexbear so I'd have an excuse to bring it up to everyone I ever meet, anyone who hasn't done this is a
  
  Mine is still Chapo Dot Chat, unfortunately
  
  finally! we've found the one real leftist on this site
- The first thing I tell anyone I meet is
  . Second is hexbear.

was waiting until my tenth wedding anniversary but I've put it off until the twentieth
- Wise bear. They might just be deep undercover.

I don't use my name on tinder, I use my fucking Hexbear handle and PFP
- https://tinder.com/@Ho_Chi_Chungus
  
  I'm sorry, I didn't commit to the bit that hard. I am an inferior poster

i told my partner about it a few months ago and now they bully me for being terminally online so proceed with caution
- Twist ending, your partner is also on Hexbear but they know not to tell anyone
  
  And they're bullying you here too.
- Based partner

If you aren’t bringing up Hexbear struggle sessions on the first date, you’re a :LIB:
- Okay so about a year ago now, maybe like 8 months, this one user made a post about why you shouldn't disturb rocks in rivers and creekbeds because it's bad for small animals that rely on them to spawn and it got out of control into this wild struggle session about fucking rocks. It was funnier than the Dave Saga. Oh, who's Dave? Shit, I guess I never told you about him, so anyway this user called Shitbird; He types like a bird on the computer covered in shit, it's great, anyway, he had this shitty job one day
  
  asking my prospective romantic partner if they're more of Shrek or a shitbird
- no more half measures walter

Hexbear posters disdain to conceal their views and aims. They openly declare that their ends can be attained only by the forcible elimination of all existing outdoor cats.

Get it out there immediately. It's in my tinder profile. I quiz my date on hexbear struggle sessions by text while traveling to the location of the date. If they fail then I just go home and get back to posting. Not gonna waste my time on
s

this would not be a problem if you were true to your oath

I would never date someone who would like using this website. The people here, myself included, are insufferable enough without me waking up next to one so they can shout slogans at me and pretend to have read things.
- I was yelling "State and Revolution" while having sex with my wife and she kicked me out of bed for thinking it was a slogan and not knowing it was a book. Now she's spending a lot of time at her boyfriend's house.
  
  Moron, you should’ve had your wife pull out State and Revolution from your bookshelf and ask you to read a one-liner from it that you will become famous for repeating 10 years later.
- Revisonism, pure revisionism. Worse than revisionism.

I don't even tell my communist friends about Hexbear and one of them has taught me about transmaxxers and /tttt/
That's right, I consider Hexbear to be more taboo than transmaxxers and /tttt/ even to other communists
- come on, gotta get those transgenders addicted to bear juice
  
  those transgenders
  Go ahead, say it. You know you want to
- transmaxxers and /tttt/
  
  That was a rabbit hole and a half
  
  These “transmaxxers,” an online “community of men who consider themselves involuntarily celibate, or ‘incels,’ are transitioning to the opposite sex to escape sexual rejection and improve their lives.”
  Ohhh boy
- Okay, I know about /tttt/ because ContraPoints talked about it in her video on incels, but...dare I ask what transmaxxers are?
  
  Transphobic lesbian transfem incels who tell themselves they're only transitioning so that they can get laid because they can't get any bitches as a male presenting person
- /tttt/ is disturbingly influential, almost every 20 something trans woman I know understands the terminology at least.
  
  Learning about transfem internet a few weeks ago broke my heart a little I'm ngl
  
  Literally
  
  It's the only culturally dynamic segment of 4chan left. Every other board is just 30-to-50-year olds accusing each other of being trans and trading the ugliest Wojack edits you've ever seen back and forth forever.
- ...what if i do both

If you're a Hexbear user, you have to let them know on the first date and definitely before doing anything physical with them or else you're tricking them

Really depends on their political leanings and how online they are. The person I'm interested in has complained about tankies a couple times so if I ever reference something from here it's "This message board I use sometimes."
- "This message board I use sometimes."
  Imagine reddit but without the fascists.
  
  reddit but without the fascists.

During orgasm it is customary to shout "Hexbear!"

The comments on this post is filled with cowardly libs, anytime I meet a new person I open with "Hello my name is Ram_The_Manparts and I'm a proud user of hexbear.net" because I keep. It. Real.
Do better!
- You guys don't impress ladies with your most upbeared posts??

I hope you're not thinking about violating your volcel pledge

You have to be upfront about it to give them the chance to make an informed choice about what risks they are and are not comfortable taking. If you wait too long to tell your partner that you’re a Hexbear user, it could feel like a betrayal.

You don't tell them, they find out and you apologize but then don't change your behavior

My friend works for Vanity Fair and she had to pass on my ChapoMod tell-all expose. Don't see her much anymore for some reason.

I'm dating an actual communist and I still haven't told him that I spend hours out of my day on a reddit clone for former fans of a soc-dem howard stern ripoff.
- Ive been with the same person for nearly ten years, and we're way past the mystery phase of dating. She's always like "oh so what's going on on Hexbear?"
  
  That's actually beautiful. All the best to you two.
  
  Hee hee, glad to not be the only one in this sich

Like bring up Hexbear unprompted? Do you think they would like Hexbear?

I actually use Hexbear as a dating app and only date people from Hexbear so they already know

They already know

IDK, all my dates come from horny posting on Hexbear. Meeting people in real life is reactionary.
- Unrelated, any [she/her], [she/her, they/them], or various femme types out there?

I told a couple friends but I don't know if I would tell a partner unless they were a communist

I don't really use the other major social media sites. I browse a few niche subreddits but I haven't been on Facebook in forever. I don't use tiktok or Instagram. I am a fuddy duddy old man, I can't be bothered with that bullshit.

You never tell them lol

idk was with my bf for like 10 years before i told him about hexbear (when it was made) so

when you show them a post, reference one of our memes in conversation, or say something so batshit it only makes sense here. I call it "some website," "a forum," "a leftist forum," or "my communist forum" depending on who I'm talking to.
- Outdoor cat discussion forum.
  
  they have to research that on their own, I'm not sharing that shit.

"hey babe check out this post, this one's doing the numbers" (57 upbears)

- Do we have merch? I think there's an opportunity there.
  
  I remember we decided not to cause of the security concerns (having people's addresses)

The Hexbear users disdain to conceal their posting history

Related question: If two Hexbear.net users meet, whom should announce first? I try to practice Safe, Sane and Chapo.
- Normal edicate is that the federal agent goes first.
  
  if they're both federal agents, whoever has seniority goes first

Coming (regretfully) from LL/ETI I'm used to tabbing away in shame as my partner asks "are you browsing that hexagonal site again?".

You have already failed your mission by not leading with your conviction! You should have screened your partner for
before considering them!
Serious answer: Idk, whenever it feels natural. Truthfully, it isn't something that has to be on your sleeve in "real life" even though it influences you. They don't necessarily have to know. I wouldn't consider it that serious.
- I think you should mention it to a partner at some point. This place inherently ties into my opinions on world events and politics, and also gender, sexuality, and feminism, so I think I would need to share this part of my life if a relationship was really cooking. But I agree it's not the only thing that features in those, and isn't the most important thing in my life.
  
  I see it as mostly harmless to disclose when it comes down to it. It's just an internet forum that their partner would have to look into more thoroughly to decide whether it is good or bad. I don't consider it anywhere near as bad or toxic as some right wing spaces, so it isn't like you are showing your partner you love going to /pol/.