Welcome to Plural@lemm.ee

This is a community for those who are never alone. Whether you have DID, OSDD, tulpas, soulbonds, are part of the plurality umbrella, or know that you are never alone, you are more than welcome here! We also encourage those who are curious about plurality and want to learn more about it, as well as those who are questioning.

But before you participate, be sure to follow our community rules.

Rules

01. Follow lemm.ee general rules

As this community is hosted on lemm.ee, you should probably follow its rules. Some of these rules are expanded further for this specific community, but in general, the rules are:

No Abusive Language
This includes slurs and harmful jokes targeted at any particular users or group.
No Bigotry
Such as homophobia, transphobia, sexism, ageism, ableism, and any other forms of bigotry. This also includes jokes and trolls with bigoted content/intent.
No Advertising
No Pornography

02. All plural identities are valid

No single type or source of plurality is any more correct, real, or valid than any other. Soulbonds, tulpas, endogenic systems, non-traumagenic origins, non-dissociative plurality are all valid. We operate on the idea that any good faith self identification are valid-- afterall, you don't know what's inside someone's head better than the person itself.

We will allow discussions about labels and what they mean. But, disputing whether someone or a certain system is valid, calling out someone as trenders or fakers, or any other word which imply someone is invalid may result in disciplinary action, especially if such behavior also breaks lemm.ee no abusive language/bigotry rules.

03. Don't pressure questioning people

Pressuring users on plurality or any other identities are not allowed. Even if you're certain that someone is plural, you shouldn't pressure them into identifying in any particular way. Let people decide themselves whether they're plural or not. This also applies to any other decisions involving identity, such as coming out.

You can still give people advices, informations, or opinions, just don't frame it as definite (i.e: it's fine to tell someone that their experiences may be related/similar to plurality, but it's not fine to tell them directly that they're plural).

04. We are not therapists or professionals

This community is not created, maintained, or participated by a professional in mental health or otherwise. This community is not a substitute for professional help if you need them.

Also, we can not guarantee the quality of any users, posts, comments, or responses made in this community. While we hope and do our best to ensure everything is helpful, there is no guarantee. As with everywhere else on the internet, please excercise caution and skepticism to any advice or information you see here.

05. Be mindful of what you post here

Be mindful when posting content which may trigger, offend, or affect many people negatively. For example: negative experiences, sysmed encounters, etc.

Of course, with so many possible triggers, we can't really disallow possible triggers-- or else there won't be contents to post. Lemmy also lacks support for content warnings, so for now:

If you want to post potentially triggering contents, try to place content warnings within your post title. For example:
[TW: sysmed] Insert your post title.

06. All rules apply regardless of who is using an account

Any rule violations or issues made by an account will be counted towards that account, regardless of who is using it. Yes, even if the trouble was made by your other selves. As with real life, you are responsible for what your other selves may do.

07. Regarding identity terms

Unless you speak in clinical terms, no word belongs to any group exclusively. Though some words may be considered derogatory, people can use whatever words they want for themselves in good faith. If a word offends you, you may ask them not to use it to refer to you, but you may not insist for them not to use it for themself if it's done respectfully.

You also may not insist for someone not to use a term for themself just because you feel it is wrong. Some prefer alter over headmate for their own, respect their choice.

TLDR for the Rules

1. Follow lemm.ee general rules: no abusive language, no bigotry, no advertising, no pornography.
2. All plural identities are valid; do not dispute the validity of anyone.
3. Don't pressure questioning people; let people decide whether they're plural or not.
4. We are not therapist or professionals; this community is not a substitute for professional help.
5. Be mindful of what you post here; put trigger warning in the post title for negative and/or triggering contents.
6. All rules apply regardless of who is using an account; as with real life, you are responsible for what your other selves may do.
7. Do not insist anyone to stop using a term they prefer to refer to themselves.

We will continue to revise the rules as time went by. We hope you have a great time within our community!