I installed x11vnc on Mint and it works fine as long as I have a monitor plugged into the server. I want to run the server without a monitor though. That apparently doesn't work with Cinnamon. I already bought a dummy plug to simulate a monitor but that seems clunky. Is there a better way? I'm also open to using a different VNC server or even a different distro (as long as it's not Ubuntu or Arch).
According to The arch wiki, x11vnc operates differently than some other servers and is not capable of going headless. You'd need the dummy plug.
On that same page, though, it lists the alternative to x11vnc as Xvnc, and links to TigerVNC which is capable of going headless, and has an example config for going headless.
I haven't tested tigerVNC specifically, but it's known, so I expect this is the solution to your problem.
Using a dummy plug is perfectly normal for a lot of use cases, even in the enterprise. Generally if you can’t do virtual rendering (like RDP) then using a dummy plug is totally fine
that's because x11vnc is an extension to an Xserver. what you need is either a standalone vncserver or a framebuffer Xserver that runs headless with x11vnc.
oh. i don't have mint, so i don't know the specifics, but usually you would install tigervnc (or tightvnc), set up a password, allow users, set up a per user startup file (containing a desktop environment or window manager to start) and start the systemd service (maybe you have to create a textfile service definition if mint didn't install one automatically).