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  • He is immunocompromised and his doctors warned him that if he got sick again, it may complicate his autoimmune disease.

    She talks about him the entire article as if the fear is all in his head and that it’s just a matter of balancing his fear with her ennui. She doesn’t have the same risks by compromising that he does, so you can’t just both-sides the situation.

  • Next NPR article: My husband is divorcing me for demonstrably caring so little about his health I wrote an article about it

    • Can you imagine? I would pack my bags and leave the second i saw this. It's so cruel, so callous, so utterly lacking respect to shame your partner like this in front of the entire world.

  • Yeah, this attitude is why it's disgustingly common for people who become disabled to end up abandoned by friends and family.

    • It's really got me thinking of the horrific statistics of how many people, especially men, ditch their spouses when their spouse becomes terminally ill.

  • All this leaves me feeling torn between two emotions. I want to keep my husband safe and healthy. But I also want our old life back.

    It's her husband, what the hell happened to "in sickness and in health", did she forget about that vow? Does marriage even mean anything to people anymore? Her "old life" is not going to come back anytime soon, he husband is immunocompromised. That's never going to change. Support your life partner, as you promised to do so on the day you got married. Those vows are supposed to mean something, they're not supposed to be empty words. You're supposed to stick together and support each other through the good and the bad, in sickness and in health as I already said.

    But my feelings as his spouse are valid too, says James C. Jackson, a neuropsychologist at Vanderbilt University and author of Clearing the Fog: From Surviving to Thriving with Long COVID, A Practical Guide.

    Okay the rest of the article, which is the vast majority of it, is just promotion of this guy's book and methods, the article is not worth reading, it's extremely basic relationship advice such as compromising with your partner, and not to gaslight your partner about long COVID. Again, basic empathetic human behaviour.

    In January, we flew halfway across the world to visit family in Dubai. At first, I thought that the stringent COVID precautions he was taking to protect himself on the airplane were over the top. In addition to wearing an N95 mask for 13 straight hours, he kept a personal air purifier at his seat at all times. But now I can see those actions for what they are. He was doing everything he could to make the trip work. In his way, he wanted to see me happy.

    Stick to those last few sentences and ignore the rest. The guy is doing the best he can to try to make things work. This isn't some malicious thing. Recognise that and continue to try to make things work together.

    All in all, this is a clickbait article to advertise some phycologist's book and methods, and the wife is not as bad as the introduction makes it seem. Don't know how such blatant promotion is allowed on NPR though, isn't that meant to be state funded media?

  • In January, we flew halfway across the world to visit family in Dubai.

    There it is. Why are your family members living in a semi-slave state? The class distinctions reveal themselves.

    • Dude spent 13 hours in the plague tube, protected only by an N95, for her. But that's not enough. I wear a full face respirator now if I can't avoid flying. Total coverage, P100 filters, and a big fucking Hamsa sticker because I know all those assholes are giving me the evil eye and I am armored by my absolute contempt for them.

    • Before coming to NPR in 2015, Gharib worked at the Malala Fund, a global education charity founded by Malala Yousafzai, and the ONE Campaign, an anti-poverty advocacy group founded by Bono. She graduated from Syracuse University with a dual degree in journalism and marketing.

      NGO shitlib imperialism once again.

  • Seems obvious to me that this married couple should be neither married nor a couple. He doesn't want to die of COVID, she wants to party which is her prerogative. Just divorce and move on.

  • This shit has been my life since 2020. I have an autoimmune disorder that is with me for good; there is no cure. I used to go to weekly tabletop game nights, competitions. I used to go to the gym three times a week and played tennis, go running and biking. I used to enjoy the company of friends. None of that happens anymore because everyone- everyone- is this woman. My only friend through all of this is my amazing wife, who has always been supportive and militant with me. It is not even a second thought to her. Forgive me if my sympathies for whatever "struggle" it is to "deal with me" as a medically vulnerable person are nonexistent. I have zero patience anymore for people like this.

  • She is a disgusting human being. If either of my partners were immunocompromised, I would go the fuck out of my way to ensure that they would have the most minimized risk of catching COVID. The fact that she's selfish enough to write an article like this tells me volumes about who she is.

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