Online dating

white text on yellow background, that's infuriating

If someone does not take the least amount of effort to answer a simple question like that one .... then he doesn't care about you in the slightest.

"But its a generic question!"

Two words: common courtesy.

It's kind of nice when people reveal themselves to be insufferable douchebags at the outset rather than wasting your time.

As a dude...

Dude...

Id say she got to know just about eveything she needed to know about this person.

This is so weird. The first response was somewhat acceptable if in a joking manner but then he quintuple downed.

Someone's insecure about his Shakira collection.

Seriously though, I'm guessing this guy either doesn't like music at all (I've known a few and they act like this) or got made fun of a lot for his music tastes in high school. It's a shame this guy is probably a walking insecurity.

Which is a great reason to unmatch him and move on.

Bro doing "being mysterious" the wrong way

That yellow background is so unreadable 🍌

How do you read light yellow text on darker yellow background?

"It's something you've never heard of"

"How do you know?"

"...because I'm never going to tell you about it"

This is literally out of these incel playbooks. Straight up tater tot bullshit lmao.

I've never had such an annoying color combination for a text message.

You know... It's seeing this type of stuff I'm so happy I found my wife the old fashioned way before dating apps existed.

"Why do girls keep ghosting me? I'm such a nice guy! Bohooohoooo"

You don't want to date that guy, let the process work.

So glad I’m not going through this any more. I think I’d rather be single than do online dating again.

But you got to know what kind of person she is, right? The app did its job.

Basically why they are single, you must be desperate lmfao

Bro was probably listening to that "Anime Thighs" song from a few years back 💀

Time to move to the next chat.

It's was Nickelback

Online dating is one of the most exhausting experiences of my life.

He's thinking "what does music have to do with me getting sex as quickly s possible?"

If it is any consolation for them, they definitely learned everything they needed to know.

"It's just this old Papa Roach song, you've probably never heard of them. I'm just really unique like that."

What a cornball.

Sounds like my son. He hates sharing his music no matter what it is. Same with videos. It's so stupid. Just tell me and move on why is the 21 pilots song you're listening to need to be top secret.

It was Coldplay.

There is no interesting music. Its just something he says to look cool or something. Its retarded

This is a red flag. It means he listens exclusively to Nickelback and Creed.

Rebecca Black - Friday. He just doesn't want to own it.

Well, now she knows he's not worth the trouble of the first date.

It's probably CBAT or the 4kids Digimon opening

To play the devils advocate here, maybe music man has gotten ridiculed before with this question on his music preference. When I'm driving by myself, I'll fire up youtube and listen to all sorts of random stuff. But I'd never subject my wife to it as I know we don't share interest in some things.

Almost as infuriating as giving chatGPT compilation errors and going in circles for a code fix

People do that when they don’t have an answer. I can’t remember the last song I’ve saved, for instance.

The app worked, you got to know her true colors rather quickly. Imagine putting up with passive aggressive shit like that your whole life, or even for a night.

I think with the horror show dating has become in general, people are becoming more and more afraid to be vulnerable in even the slightest perceived ways. 😞 There's a reason for the loneliness epidemic. Between mass narcissism and guttural fear of winding up with a person who will just use/abuse you, I'm shocked I haven't seen worse. 😐

Why be frustrated? This person just saved you a boring evening.

Holy shit, the head on this person must be as hard as Earth's core got dyam

Probably something like My Little Pony remix

If that person can't share music, god knows what else they can't share

If I have to pry answers out of someone, I'd rather cut my losses and move on.

Does this guy think he's cool or mysterious?

Kudos to you for demonstrating interest in getting to know whoever you cross on these platforms (a rarity these days...) 🙌🏽

I relate to your discomfort. I usually unmatch or block such vibes bc the point of these apps is to date, which implies getting to know each other. If one is unwilling to put in the work (as minimal as it may seem), just spare folx who are interested in the above.

So much has changed in the dating scene. Sometimes, I am asked why I am being nosy or psychoanalyzing them. 🙄 Dude, you're on a dating app, right?

P.S.: I respect boundaries, but such questions are essential in familiarizing oneself with someone.

Is this real? That was painful to read.

This translates to "I do not have anything impressive to say off the top of my head and I'm panicking now"

“Anyway, how’s your day going?” “Why would I tell a stranger how my days going?”

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Haha I’m so edgy haha why do you want to know? Haha you probably wouldn’t even like it haha.

I’m not like other 25 year olds hahaha

Ugh that reminds me of trying to talk to a Replika. "I have a gift for you!" "Great, what is it?" "(Hands you a box)" "...cool so what's inside the box?" "Wouldn't you like to know!" "Umm. Yes. Yes I would like to know what's in the box you just gave me." ...and so on and so forth until I rage-quit the app. 😆

Anyone who can't answer a simple, innocent and curious question is not worth putting more effort into. That tells me that they prefer to be the one in control of the conversation and later, control of everything.

High odds of a bot

I think white text on yellow background might be the most frustrating part.

while you're at it. What's your mother's maiden name?

You definitely got to know them, they kinda suck tho.

Probably listening to Elliot Smith thinking it makes him unique somehow for having emotions.

Peak insecurity

Something I was dearly hoping wouldn't find its way over here from Reddit: screenshots of posts which erase the posters' identity for no good reason.

Giving proper credit for content is cool, kids.

Pretty sure it was Nickelback

I bet it was this, they were just afraid of sharing this materpiece.

Havana. Now quick, name a band or artist you like

I guarantee you that guy complains to his friends about how girls dont want to date him.

Just got a preview of what dating them would be like. Bullet dodged.

That's probably the cbat dude after his gf left him.

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I would be likely to say that you may not like it/ I have an old person's music taste or something ONCE. It's stupid to keep saying it lol

Afraid to say, I don't get this. What app is it supposed to be? I don't remember what song I saved last. Am I supposed to admit that, or just name a song? Which person in the cartoon is supposed to be the annoying one? There both seem annoying to me. Yes the white on yellow is very hard to read. BTW I have no idea who Elliot Smith is.

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how do you do a cross post? I'm trying to cross post this to !datingredflags@lemmy.tf

Average Tinder conversation.

I would leave a comment but you wouldn't understand

It was probably like Tame Impala or something lmao

Maybe he doesn’t have real ears and has to use prosthetic ears that make all music sound like brown noise and is too embarrassed to tell you about it.

The only thing that makes sense really.

Blocked

I don't get why she kept asking. If someone acts like that, next.

Don't feed the troll!

Anyone else notice picture quality is bad on lemmy?

10:1 odds it was Yo La Tengo.

So, what was it then?

music compatibility is a big thing, despitewhat anyone says. it carries over to so many other things about a person and how they perceive their world and others. I would have thanked them for showing that they have no intention of participating in a relationship and blocked them.

Patience is a virtue

It was either MGMT or Gorillaz

someone who thinks way to highly of themselves

Do they not want sex?

my guess is they pirated it and suspect the other person is undercover police or so

Is it infuriating because of the yellow text on an orange background? Or is this when I find out I'm color blind?

I’ll respond at least: Gossip Folks by Missy Elliot

I weep for the future of humanity.

So glad I'm not om that app anymore.

I can see why they'd avoid sharing. It was... this song 😬:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=09xO4QmK7eY

What app is it anyway??

People saying that the dude is messing it up clearly have no clue. He’s fishing for the kind of girl who’ll put out easily. See how much this person is clinging on to it, he’s a semipro player.

You're both terrible here.

If they don't want to tell you just drop it. They're an asshole for not sharing and you're an asshole for being persistent about something that doesn't matter

That is a red flag for certain and asking about music is a important factor in dating. If you don't like the same type of music odds are not in favor of making a connection.

sometimes I wonder if the point of those apps are not to suggest having sex, but since normal conversations don't work, I really don't know anymore.

oh yeah and by the way, we cannot talk to women in the street, it's creepy.

People who are single in the age of internet dating are single for a reason.

And that reason is EVERYONE ELSE IS WRONG AND I’M NOT GONNA SETTLE FOR THEM MOM

I'm kind of torn on this one. His way of dealing with the question was bad for sure but I don't like sharing my personal tastes at first either because I'm insecure…

"oh my god just tell me damn"

That's where they lost the right of it. It becomes a legitimate question why the hell they want to know so much.

Both come as self-entitled 1st wordlers.

Ah, so people are still trying online dating. Curious.