Sexism Story @NASA: brilliant, talented women is hired, only with the intent to marry male NASA engineer so that they don't change to jobs with higher pay

Doctors can be some of the most discriminatory people, I swear. Diagnosed with anxiety? It's anxiety. Diagnosed with Autism? You wouldn't understand what it is. Are you a woman? It's nothing big.

It took us years of doctor visits until we finally found a doctor outside of our insurance network who spent the time of day to come to the conclusion that my partner's pain and medical issues was most likely a severe case of endometriosis.

Our favorite doctor during that period was one who said they were "in the prime of their womanhood" and that pain is normal. Dang, if it only goes downhill from here, then might as well end it now.

Anyway, I wish all doctors could be like the one who actually spent time to take us seriously and investigate what was going on. It would have saved a lot of money, stress, and pain.

The church did the opposite with priests, they forbade marriage sobthey could easily relocate the priest as they deployed new churches, they didn't want a family holding him to a place

This is horrifying to hear. How long ago was this? Of course it could be "just last week" given how these same issues persist today. A lot of what you mentioned resonates with me on how women struggle (especially women of color) to be taken seriously for how talented they are. I'm currently working with one who is a scientist as well, whose manager refuses to compensate her for her time at events representing the organization. Worse, we have a telecommuting policy that is organization wide, but she has yet to be allowed to work from home once, while our new hire in our team was able to do so right away and is of 'lower rank' than her. It makes no sense that we still have constant double standards in operation. When I mentioned to my scientist colleague that her time is valuable and that she should be compensated for event time, she cried. I'm the type of person that stubbornly ensures that I'm not played by double standards when I can identify them, but she's the type that doesn't want to make waves. I'm trying to find a way to help her without making her work life more complicated but it's a struggle.

Thank you for sharing this story, and I'm sorry for your losing such an incredibly talented co-worker.