Opening Lemmy in the morning and seeing dozens of unread comments in your inbox makes you think: what the heck did I say yesterday?

I know what I said, y'all's angst feeds me.
This would all be easier if you all just agreed with me, the always correct person.
- I might not always be right, but I'm never wrong

I assume the right-wing propaganda planners have decided they need to counter something I said

I'm too scared to check tbh. Somebody tell me if I am getting downvoted because I see 150 unreads

My first thought is always "Must be Nicole the Fediverse chick again" 😂
- I just got her message this morning! 😂

HAVE YOU EVER BEEN BENT OVER BY BIGFOOT WHEN EXPLORING THE WOOD AND MISTAKEN FOR A MATE. THEN LEFT THERE LAYING OUT LIKE A WET SPAGHETTI NOODLE! THIS IS HOW IT FEELS DRIVING A FORD F150!

Most of the time I know exactly what I'm getting if I see more than maybe 3+ comments. Usually it's me saying something anti-communist, something on brand enough for me.

Normally people just hardcore virtue signaling.

Me is, how stoned was I.

At least unlike reddit people aren’t directly insulting you.
- We have very different lemmy experiences
- Bet

Usually means you got featured on hexbear
- what's hexbear
  
  Since there's no serious answer: hexbear is a highly toxic instance that has been defederated by most other instances. However, their users will keep tabs on what's said on other instances, and they'll occasionally show up en masse with alt accounts to attack something that particularly enraged them.
  Many of them are...not quite mentally stable.
  They're probably the single largest base of tankie support. For them, America = bad, and anyone opposed to America = good. They pretend to care about communism etc but they're really just anti-American. Saying anything negative about China gets you instantly banned.
  
  If you don't know, count yourself hella lucky and move on with your day.
  
  A fictional entity used by right wingers on Lemmy to victimize themselves.
  
  When you had hex with a bear last night but can't remember.

Immediately go to my comments to see whats getting downvoted to hell.

I just assume I said something factually wrong and now dozens of helpful people are lining up to correct me.
- Ah, I see you’ve developed a humiliation fetish as well
- Uhm, acshually... ☝️

And then all of them are "Nicole".
- The Polish Partier.
  
  i have a different pic in my inbox. do i suppose to collect them all? i want a rare Nicole now
  
  Oh she's using a new picture now?
  I'll probably get it in my inbox sooner or later
  
  Aww, I don't feel special anymore.
- I got a message from nicole with a pic. I thought it was a scammer or something. Just a one off thing. Is that not the case? Is Nicole a lemmy thing?
  
  Nope, your first instinct is right, it’s a spammer. But it’s one of the few specific spammers that almost everyone has run into on lemmy, so it’s just a joke. Like saying you met a Nigerian prince who offered you a huge sum of money.
- I just got mine today, like some tribal initiation
  
  Still haven't gotten one. Guess the bots don't like me.
- I guess I'm not special enough, Nicole doesn't want to talk to me.
- sql
  
  update private_message set deleted = true from person where person.id = private_message.creator_id and person.actor_id in ('https://lemmy.cafe/u/nicole');
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- Gods please don't let this be a trend...

Is it normal for people to regret what they said on here? Because I tend not to change my mind from downvotes and dumb responses. I do block people though
- I don’t want to deal with arguing especially since half the responses clearly only read the first sentence of my comment. I don’t have the energy for it. So I’m on an instance with downvotes disabled and rarely check my inbox.
  If people like my contribution they can upvote, if they don’t like it they can downvote or argue back, but I don’t have the energy to give to that, so I probably won’t see it.
- My only regrets are having to read stupid responses that completely missed the point of what I said because they want to argue with what they think I said.
  Occasionally I learn something new from responses, which changes my perspective.
  
  I agree - A lot of people seem so prepared for someone to disagree with them that they seem to misfire on people they agree with. I try to avoid this by starting my comments with "I agree" 😊 ... though even then some people still get confused 🫠
  
  the best is when the response is about the first or last sentence of what I wrote and their response is addressed in the rest of it.
- Downvotes sometimes make me want to clarify what I wrote on the assumption that it got misinterpreted.
  
  Has that ever worked for you?
  I do it a lot and can't think of a single time it worked.
- My thought was more "which of the things I wrote triggered such a reaction?" I'm often surprised.
- I mean well, and I want to have hope for the future, but I'm depressed and have untreated ADHD and a desperate need for therapy, and I do worry that I'm letting all that influence how I talk to strangers online.
  I'm probably too harsh sometimes, or not harsh enough, or dumb, or stupid, etc, more often than I'd like.
  So yeah, I generally regret or worry over everything I say to everyone at some point or another. I suck xD But I'm too lonely to switch off and not talk to anyone entirely, so here we are.
- My own experience with this was posting a shower thoughts thread while quite inebriated, forgetting I'd done it then waking up with a fairly full inbox so nothing controversial or argumentative.
  
  My experience is that I reply to a lot of things, and post very few, and in no case do I have even a vague notion about how many comments what I write will generate. I can guess the vector magnitude of up/down votes, but never the amount of interaction, where people take time to reply.
- Absolutely, it is only human to make mistakes. Of course there are time where someone gives a stupid reply but there are also times where that is not the case. If it were the assumption would be that I am right about everything, which is asinine
- I I do actually second thought what I said. As I can be as wrong as any. And if I'm wrong I'm ought to change my mind.

Often followed by, "I said that?"
- Then you read your original comment and, no, you didn't say that; someone's just trying to gaslight you or they're straw manning.
  
  Or they keep explaining what you already said because they don't understand nuance or context.

If your in for a wild ride, you can post something like "Steam sucks", or ask anything about "Hexbear". If you just want positive attention, go with "What's the best distro for.....?"
- Steam does suck though? It's hard to use, and most things are better boiled/blanched or fried.
  
  You wouldn't boil a crab
  
  Looks like we have a noob that wouldn't survive 10 minutes in a kitchen lobby here. Everybody serious knows that cooking with steam preserves nutrients, enhances flavor, and retains the natural texture of food.
- If you just want positive attention, go with “What’s the best distro for…?”
  Clearly the best distro is Windows 10!
  
  [Insert angry rant about Windows]
  
  Got me.

Lmao yeah sometimes. Since I mostly shitpost I just assume that the posts have had the intended effect of either making people laugh or working them up a little about something they care about. Just enough to make them share some stuff they're really passionate about. I like hearing people's unfiltered opinions.

O, i know the feeling

True dat mate.

it amazes me with what gets the most attention.

The biggest responses I've ever gotten by far have all been asking for alternatives to popular tech. 😏
- on Lemmy that's just karma farming.

Usually there's enough context and it's recent enough I sort of remember. I haven't had a lot of ancient replies here, but Reddit was great for that, and that's exactly what I would think. What the hell are they talking about? What was really surreal was rereading what I wrote and vaguely remembering it, but sometimes the wording being a bit different than what I might say now. Not necessarily the point, just how I said it, as people do change with age. I don't regret anything I've every said though, it's why I've left my Reddit account alone, that plus it would probably be undeleted anyway and I've moved on.
- Yeah, I was thinking more about seeing the count: my client shows the inbox unread count at the bottom. 4 is not unusual, but when I see over 12, much less 24, my first thought is: "oh, shit. What did I say??"
  Once I open the inbox, it becomes clear pretty quickly, that's true.

Did you criticize the left?
- "I think nano is the premier terminal text editor."
  
  Spicy!

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