So I recently decided to officially convert to Unitarianism (in the UK, not affiliated with UUism, no hate at all btw, just stating the difference because it's different here), which has been a huge boon for my life.

I'm very happy with my newfound faith, especially because of the Unitarian history of radical social progressivism even when such views were unpopular.

It makes me feel like I've finally found a faith I align with completely that I'm proud to associate with and be active in the community of.

But as a trans woman I have a lot of friends and community who aren't Christian and/or have trauma relating to Christianity, most are Jewish/Muslim/pagan/atheist who have had to live with regressive bullying and abuse in the name of Christ.

And I don't want to make them feel afraid of the possibility I might hold hostile attitudes towards them or make them relive that trauma because I call myself Christian.

I want to cultivate a comfortable space with the people around me and I don't want to cause any lingering fears or trigger anybody, and show how Jesus Christ's teachings, when lived truthfully rather than according to dogmatic antiquated literal interpretations, are actually very supportive, radically progressive and filled with nothing but love and kindness for others.

It's nothing to do with shame.

I don't feel ashamed to live my truth.

I simply want to make sure I live that truth without ignoring the sensibilities of people who have been made afraid of this identity, because it isn't their fault they feel that fear and in some cases they are right to hold it, and I love them dearly, and do not want to cause them any further pain.

I know that the people who know me well know that I am not like this, so I can assume that I live a life that shows that, but it's a different matter with introductions and first impressions, like a profile bio or an early conversation about activities around my faith.

I was wondering if any of you had any advice on how I can present myself in this sort of way?

One that doesn't compromise on myself or my faith, but also doesn't just give people reason to dismiss me or feel anxious about the kind of person I am.

And I know that some might say this isn't my problem, but if I'm making people feel unloved in my community because of common experiences that were out of their control, I feel that is my problem to address in the way I communicate and present.

So I would very much appreciate guidance or help on this matter.

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