That's right!

Not to mention GFs '15 - '24.

Lmao

Let her get a boyfriend and maybe it'll all work out?

Get a boyfriend instead. Problem solved. 🤷‍♂️

Damn, sorry to hear you lost your girlfriend

Same lmfao 2016 (mid at best) and 2024 (extra good)

Introvert here. I met my now introvert wife at speed dating.

If you haven't done it before, you are in a room (usually a rented out restaurant so its just for this event) with lots of tables. At each table is a woman. As a man, you are directed to sit at a specific numbered table where there is a woman seated (all the other men do the same to the individual table they are directed to). A bell rings. You have 5 minutes to talk to each other and learn as much as you can about each other. After 5 minutes, the bell rings, and the woman stay seated, and the man moves to the next higher numbered table. You have a card with the woman's name on it and you should REALLY make notes, because you won't remember which things you thought with each person. The women do the same with their cards.

In under 2 hours each person now talked to 14-18 potential mates. At the end of the night you go online and mark which of the women you're interested in hearing more from. If any of the women you mark also mark you on their side, you're given an in-app communications channel and you can choose to share personal contact information from there.

When you're sitting at the table talking with a woman sometimes it seems like that bell rings as soon as you sit down and you wish you had more time. Those are the ones you mark on your card to talk more with. Sometimes, you're 1 minute in and you're dreading waiting though the next 4 min. Those you do not mark.

I'd recommend you give Speed Dating a try.

Like, I'm in that position too, except I have a touch of the 'tism to go along with it. Not so much that I can't function, but enough to the point that socializing is exhausting. I get nothing but bots when I try online dating, and going out mostly just results in people asking me why I'm always just standing in a corner by myself.

Really, I just need a wingman, but I don't know anybody who would be willing or able to do it; my brother and both of my closest friends live an hour-and-a-half away and my BIL has very young kids.

I'm at a point where I'm not sure if it's ever gonna happen.

I met my girlfriend at a meetup for the local area discord. You could look for a local reddit/discord that has meetups, or a local meetup.com group.

There was an episode of Ted Lasso that referred to a dating app with no pics. I thought it was a great idea.

This is me but with jobhunting

I think it's far better to find someone you can relate to via their personality first. Everyone has their flaws, so if you're weeding people out first from appearance and then trying to find the person inside to match, that's killing your odds a lot. That being said, you can hit it off seeing someone first and then learning more about them, but I think that's more true in real life where you can pick up other signals that online visuals just aren't going to do, and those subtle signs will filter your image of them, whereas if you had a picture of them online you might skip over.

However I have no experience in the dating game and am biased as I found my wife of 35 years online back in 1985. Rather she found me in randomly looking for someone to chat with and things went from there.

at least you are self aware enough to potentially fix this self hatred you have for yourself. people go on their entire lives living like this, its a vicious cycle. good luck!

Same. I know my red flags, you don't. If I were a used car I'd strongly recommend against getting it.

Same, unfortunately. ;-;

Exclusivity in a romantic relationship is a social construct. Look into ENM. It might not fit you or it just might.

As a straight male, I could settle for half that.

Did you get the kind that can also make dinner? Wait, am I thinking of a microwave?

That's okay. The GF actually stands for gayfriend.

Daisy Ridley. You've seen her in star wars.

She’s all the jedi

What if I were to tell you you're supposed to get some of that back in a relationship as it moves towards becoming a partnership?

Or that hanging out with them, aka a date, is supposed to be fun?