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  • There's a lot of bro-science in here ("Your body metabolizes sugar to basically fat", no, it doesn't, sugar is just a simple, easily metabolized carbohydrate, and as long as you aren't exceeding your caloric intake regularly, it's fine).

    You can loose weight by exercise alone, but it's a challenge; most people tend to start eating more (consciously or not) once they're exercising. Exercise is only have of the equation. Diet is the other part. Most people are very, very resistant to changing their diet, because they have an emotional connection with food. Think about that; is what you eat more important to you than how you feel? Are you willing to make life-long changes, or are you just trying to have a beach body? "Dieting" is setting yourself up for failure; you want to be changing your entire lifestyle and relationship with food and movement.

    So, let's start off with something super-important: talk to a registered dietician. Don't make radical changes to your diet without consulting a professional that's qualified to give answers to YOU.

    Second: spot fat reduction is not a thing, unless you want to go the surgical route. You need to reduce body fat all over in order to reduce fat on your neck and waist.

    Third: do a resting metabolic rate test, and find out how many calories you burn just existing. That gives you an idea of what you need to eat to maintain your weight, what you need to your macros (daily carbohydrate, protein, and fat intake), and where you need to be as far as exercising. At one time you could get them done at certain Lifetime Fitness locations, and they were a couple hundred bucks. Without knowing this, dieting and exercise is being done blindly.

    Fourth: Once you know your metabolic rate, and you've consulted with a dietician, start keeping track of everything that goes in your mouth in a day. Start by just taking a photo, and get used to that. (And yes, everything; every drink that isn't plain water, every single thing you swallow.) Once you've gotten used to that, then start writing it down. Once you can reliably write everything down, start measuring everything. How many ounces of Cheerios go in your bowl in the morning, how much milk, and how many eggs are you scrambling? Once you've got that? then start comparing that to your macros. How many grams of carbs, protein, and fats are in your Cheerios, milk, and scrambled eggs (and don't forget to count the butter that goes in the pan before you scramble your eggs!)? That tells you where you are, and where you need to add, and where you need to cut.

    While you're doing that:

    Start with cardio, just to get in the habit of moving. I would suggest buying a heart rate monitor (I have a Garmin Instinct). Figure out your maximum heart rate (220 minus your age), and generally work at 60-80% of that, for 30-60 minutes at a time. Working above 80% increases your aerobic threshold, staying below 50% isn't going to give you a significant benefit.

    Weight training should be your bread and butter. Cardio burns calories now, weight training burns calories for up to 3-4 hours after you're done in the gym, and muscle burns more calories just existing than fat does. If you have never done weight training before, I would strongly suggest that you hire a personal trainer. Look for a trainer that has at least a BS in exercise science or kinesiology, and a training certification from ASCM (American College of Sport Medicine) or the NSCA (National Strength and Conditioning Assoc.). Other physical trainer certifications are worth about as much as the paper they're printed on, and I say this as someone that was certified through NASM. ASCM and NSCA have a very strong science-based approach that other certifying bodies lack. DO NOT sign up for months and months of training, unless you simply can't motivate yourself, or are unable to replicate training prompts on your own; you want someone that will create a program for you to follow for several months that isn't just trendy, bullshit exercises (see also: fitness "influencers"), and coach you through the proper way to complete the motion so that you can do it safely and effectively. Unless you have significant movement deficiencies, your goal should be to use freeweights and for almost everything. A trainer should be able to tailor your programming to your goals; there's no one-size-fits-all. Generally speaking, if you've never lifted weights before, 30 minutes of fairly intense work is about all you'll be able to manage.

    Finally: Best case, with perfect diet and exercise, you should be losing no more than 1-2 pounds of fat per week. That's the most that will be sustainable. Don't worry about raw weight; worry about measurements, and body composition.

    Is this a lot? Yeah, it is. And it's barely scratching the surface.

    But everyone starts on the ground floor.

  • I'm not agym.go-er or a trainer.. aerobic workouts. I lost 30kg over 12months just by walking 10000 purposeful steps a day and doing 2 rounds of interval training (HIIT) a night. Once my fitness came back/got some fitness, I started introducing weights... and more importantly, I watched what I ate. Specifically, i stopped all sometimes foods and stopped eating bread. This worked for me. But you can't go from little to no exercise tomall the exercise. Work up to it

  • Take it easy, patience is key for sustainable weight loss. As a beginner 3x workouts a week are good.

    Be sure to make a training plan you can use for orientation. Cardio is great for burning calories, but don't underestimate the power of muscle training. Building muscles will help shape your body and you'll lose a lot of calories on the long term. Do not be afraid of gaining "too much muscles", that is not happening within a couple of months.

    Best would be a full body workout, splitting muscle groups is not recommended for beginners who work out 3x a week. Start with the machines, they are relatively easy to use and to adjust, there is less danger of wrong movements.
    Challenge yourself, but don't overdo it, otherwise you can hurt yourself seriously (joints etc.).
    Do not forget a warm-up, 10-15 minutes of whatever machine you like (bike, treadmill etc.). Finish with a 30 minutes cardio session if you are serious.

    That's the part in the gym.

    For weight loss the most important thing is your diet. No need for protein shakes or meat the whole day, just don't eat over your budget. Maybe you have already tried this and you are frustrated because it didn't have the effects you expected - don't worry, the gym will accelerate this. Eat something not too heavy after workout, ideally protein/fats instead of carbs.

    The third aspect is sleep. Your body will regenerate during your sleep so it is super important. Try do get your 8 hours or whatever amount you need.

    Last advice is again patience. Success will only come from continuity, not 2 weeks but several months. 1-2 pounds per week is already great and sutainable and if you watch out for workout, nutrition, sleep, it will for sure happen.

    You got this!

    Edit: As others have said, you cannot target a region for weight loss. However in my experience there are regions where you first start to gain weight and also lose weight. For people born as biological man this is often face and belly.

  • Don't bother with the gym, it will almost certainly just be a waste of money and a source of stress.

    Instead, learn how to eat healthily (good start is eating less in general and eating more greens) and start easing yourself into getting more exercise.
    The key to weight loss is making changes that you can maintain for the rest of your life, otherwise you will inevitably rebound and be sad.

    If you can, probably the single most effective way to lose weight for most people is to start biking or walking to work, this is a trivial way to burn tons of calories compared to driving.

    Also important is to fully expect it to take a year before you notice a difference, this is going to be a lifestyle change so you have to commit, and it's better to be positively surprised to see a difference early, than the opposite.

  • Fuck yea, nail it. But promise yourself one thing. That you're not going to quit. And I don't mean you're not going to stop at some point. We all do. But don't quit. It took me multiple kicks at the can. And the results will come, slowly at first. Even slower later on. But the way you feel better will grow with each work out. Each kick at the can you'll realize you still remember all the stuff you learned last time and now you're just adding to your knowledge base.

    What you should do is do what feels right. Lots of options. But get comfortable just chilling at the gym and making it a place to hang. I started with just walking on treadmills listening to podcasts. Then like 6 months later weights. Then running. Then a mix of running and weights. Eventually I went full home gym. Have fun, treat it like a hobby. Be as consistent as you can and you'll reach your goals.

    One cool thing j learned late, running and walking burn the same calories if you go the same distance. So for me, I can walk an hour or run 20 minutes. Same calories burned for. But I can walk everyday, I can't run everyday. Tricks like that help in cutting weight. But keep in mind that's like a cheeseburger burned, it ain't much. True weight loss occurs in the kitchen.

    Please dont feel like you need to try to do everything at once. But when you're ready get a calorie counting app like my fitness and start tracking calories for a few weeks, see what you're taking in. Over time you'll get a feel for what amount of food you can. eat in a day to lose, maintain, gain weight. It takes time but it can get fun when you see the results. It can get frustrating when you realize some gains/lose are just shadows or a full bladder lol. But most important thing is just doing something.

  • Losing weight is at a minimum 75% about your diet, so don’t forget to focus on that. Eating protein helps keep you full and also pairs great with recovery for exercise; try to cut out as many sugars from your diet as you can, they’re worthless calories.

  • According to the video below, exercising doesn’t actually cause you to burn more calories as your body just chooses to delay non-essential stuff for another time.

    https://youtu.be/seDmwOQtazU?si=cLPFuF_6grASR93C

    As I understand it, if you increase your muscle, your body will burn more calories n a daily basis whereas cardio just burns calories in the current moment.

    So focus on eating less calories than you burn (really helps to just cut out the crap and eat “whole food” rather than ultra processed crap - read “ultra processed people” for more info on this). Consume more protein to help muscle growth.

    You unfortunately can’t target specific areas for fat burning, it’s pretty random.

  • Sweat, make yourself love it. Train your mind to enjoy it when your body makes sweat.

    Be consistent, do not lose hope or motivation after a week, or s month. Try to keep at it for at least a couple of months

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