What's something that turns you on, but isn't necessarily sexual itself?
I, for example, am very turned on by contrasts. So noticeable height differences, size differences (individual body parts or the whole package), skin tone, shapes, etc.
I kinda wish my wife (who's very pale) were bi because I would love to see her have sex with a dark skinned woman that's a similar height and weight as her, or a short, petite woman (she's also tall for a woman).
Both me and my husband are basically, eyes face, and for me bum, for him, boobs.
Nothing else for me I think, I like deep voices, but more so, I find high pitched and scratchy voices a turn off.
But then him, being outwitted. He is stupidly smart, he has a PhD and 2 Masters, and finds someone outwitting him or outsmarting him actually a turn on. It's weird. The odd times I do it, prove him wrong, he almost instantly jumps my bones, he can't control himself.