I absolutely agree with you. I phrased myself badly. Women solely being people with vaginas is her view, that's why I said it that way. She boils being a woman down to what you were born with, so when she employs "women" that's what she means. I was (still am) very tired. I'm sorry. Trans women are women, genitals do not determine what you are.
I should have said it differently. I obviously understand that genitals do not equal gender. I'm rather tired today, and was thinking of it as like, she thinks women are people with vaginas, so when she says women(/in the case also mothers), she's just hiding behind her genitals. I hope I explained that okay.
Sorry to hear that, I didn't want to discomfort you!
It's nice to have a space where transphobic comments have no place, and I didn't want to assume bad intentions. Maybe I'm overly afraid of rhetoric like that sneaking in as jokes, as it happened often on the internet.
It's okay, your comment was fine. I just worry about things. I don't think you are overly afraid of that at all, it's scary out there for trans people and I wouldn't want that coming here.