Would you want to be a girl in nonsexual situations? When driving to work or sitting alone, would it still be fun to be feminine? You can definitely live as a man and have sex as woman, but would you be disappointed if that's all it is?
I'm comfortable living as a man, and before I imagined myself as a woman in sexual situations I had never thought about it. I think I'm a bit ignorant as to what affect gender has on nonsexual situations. Like how does having boobs or not change anything when you're just sitting alone?
I just don't think I care that much about my body either way.
For me, I just feel more comfortable existing in the world as a woman. There's no logic behind it; it just is. I feel depressed when I feel like a man in any situation, but I didn't know that for most of my life. I just thought being miserable was normal. I didn't even think I would even want to be a girl until I was an adult. I had to experiment to figure that out.
I liked myself as a woman in sexual situations, but it turned out that I wanted to be a woman in all situations. As terrifying as upending my sense of self was, I'm finally happy.
Like I said, there is literally nothing wrong with having a fem kink. Kinks have been incorrectly demonized by science due to cultural biases against sexuality. Unless it hurts you or someone else, there's nothing pathological about it. It also doesn't mean you have to commit to a gender that isn't right for you. Do what makes you happy! ❤