Dare I ask what the man vs bear meme is all about and why it seems to be upsetting men so much? [CW: sexism]
Dare I ask what the man vs bear meme is all about and why it seems to be upsetting men so much? [CW: sexism]
I don't go on social media so I don't really get it but I have seen memes here and there of women getting mauled by bears presented in a "heh, serves her right" kind of way.
So weird that dudes complain that they can't get women when the message they put out there is they hate women and make images of them being brutally mauled. 
EDIT: I did not expect to see people I trust minimise SA here. I'm disappointed, that's something I expect from a random chud blowing in from another instance, not you guys. Most of you were extremely cool in your answers, but to the one or two that weren't. Do fucking better.
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okay let's talk about what you should actually do about this. you are presenting hella masc, women are more afraid of you than a bear. you're on a forest path. if you flee from the forest path, that will look worse. do you turn around acting like you forgot something? use your AGGRESSIVE HYPERMASC STOMP to mime going back for your phone? do you say hello as you pass them? do you completely ignore them?
generally when I am on trails alone I just start jogging again if I spot someone way up ahead, but isn't that like charging at them? I just want to make sure we don't interact with each other. because silently ignoring people feels rude when I do it, I am happy to discover people might have thought I was a Netflix serial killer
look, I promise I know what to do in actual social situations. well, I know of SOME things to do. but stuff like this, I don't know.
Seem pretty obvious to me that you just ignore them or just give a brief nod and a "hi" like you would anyone else.
It seemed obvious to me until I learned this morning that I have in fact been terrorizing people by doing so, and they would prefer a bear. 😔
Oh, eat shit. "Women be misreading normal behaviour as creepy." Is the oldest sexist gaslighting in the book.
It's pretty obvious that's not what women are talking about, learn to read.
it's pretty obvious what women are talking about
what?? when do you meet people in the woods but not on a path?? so people are only talking about the times they run into a guy in the woods that AREN'T the times it actually happens to them? i haven't even seen this discourse. you're not actually taking a meme about prefering a bear to seeing a guy seriously?
how did you get the impression i am trying to infringe on people's boundaries from my spiel about how when i'm jogging i'd rather see a bear than anyone else because that way i don't have to figure this kind of stuff out?
are YOU gaslighting me?
you eat shit, you literal shitbird!
Wreckers will always be incredibly defensive, they are always the victim in all circumstances, but not just due to misunderstandings, they will always claim maliciousness on the part of others as a means to try and turn the community against each other and encourage paranoia.
We can see this here with this 2 week old account insisting that a long time, well respected member of the community is "gaslighting" them, when all Dirt_Owl is doing is calling them out on their misogyny.
Remember DARVO, this is the most common way people like this operate:
Deny
Attack
Reverse
Victim and
Offender.
I'm sure you can all spot this pattern in this person's comments in this thread(EDIT: Well, not now that their comments are deleted). This is how all manner of abusive and manipulative people can stay under the radar and get away with their behaviour.
The only gaslighting Dirt Owl does is when they eat too many beans while carrying a flashlight.
❤️ thank you.
surely you can explain to me when people are talking about running into a guy in the woods that isn't literally running into a guy in the woods, running?
You're probably banned but I hope you die slowly
I don't think people are imagining being on a path here.
Oh just like the forest dweller? That sounds terrifying
More like, imagining being lost.
But also, there's still ambiguity. If the man is clearly a park ranger, or part of a search party, or something like that, I think most would rather see the man there.
Oh well you can get lost on some paths without literally wandering through the brush around here or through taking side paths which have just kinda developed so I was just kinda thinking about it that way. That sounds like guys getting mad about a x (formerly known as twitter )thread like "even if i was doing a survivorman esque challenge got lost and had been missing for days i would rather see a bear than a stinky boy"
what is there to do about something like this? what are people asking for men to do?