I do appreciate that recent versions of Android (and iOS, I think?) allow granular control over permissions, so you can gleefully shout "fuck you" as you fail to grant notification permission to some game.
I don't know much about iOS, since I haven't used an iPhone since 2010, but I do enjoy that granular control on android as well. Along side with Do Not Disturb mode, these are major quality of life feature that is far more beneficial than a nicer camera or a 120hz display could ever be.
I only have it enabled for social apps when someone actually is talking to me, but I just don't understand why there are notifications for these recommendations or suggestions from some algorithm.
These notifications are there so you will spend more time scrolling through their app, so they will occupy more of your limited mental space and social interactions, and serve you more ads/harvest more data about you to sell to info brokers and advertisrs.
I normally have my phone constantly in the "Alarms only" disturb mode. This has the disadvantage that it may take days, until I decide to check if anyone attempted to contact me.