2d ago

It's coming.

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Turned 40 last month and to be honest I'm kinda struggling with depression right now
- Time for a mid life crisis then
  
  Wish I could afford a midlife crisis
  
  You can always pick up excessive running, just because you get a midlife crisis doesn't mean it has to involve a Porsche.
- This is going to sound stupid, but during college, I took a lot of different types of math and history classes.
  As humans, we invented years, and ages. Then we made milestones for what they represented. We said, there are 7 days in the week. We said, there are 52 weeks in a year. Some other BS happen and then culturally we said things like by age 30, you should be married. By age 40, you should have a family.
  But imagine if we actually made a week 10 days? Or there's 30 weeks in a year? Suddenly, this is all BS numbers. Back to culturally, why is 30 a specific number? Or 40? Or any of these numbers?
  For me, 40 is just a made-up number. It means nothing. The expectations around the number, bullshit. My friend is 55, and we went bar hopping. I hung out with a 70 and played Frisbee. I pitched go-karts and dressing up like Mario Kart to my 60yo neighbors.
  Just made up numbers.
  Of course, don't get weird and and try to shoehorn underage relationships. That's not the intent here.
  
  Sure, to an individual, the milestones seem stupid but they're the common milestones the average reach. Most people by 30 are married. Most by 40 have an established career and family. But to agree, who cares? We have one life and there's plenty of worry's to go around, so don't add keeping up with the Jones to the list.
- At 38, 2 walks a day is helping, but I'm bouncing between anxiety and depressive symptoms. It beats drinking or meds!
  Working out is also helping, but not as much as the sunshine. Good luck, fellow old fart :).
- You age a day everyday, how you choose to group those ~14600 is up to you.
- Have you considered eating an entire large pizza and drinking a case of beer about it?
  
  That just sounds like a Tuesday

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