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Drag is trans, and uses person-independent neopronouns. These can be confusing for some people. But drag is patient, and with the vast majority of people is not pushy with drag's pronouns at all. In return, the vast majority of people tend to take no issue with drag. However, some people decide to invent a problem because they see drag using drag's pronouns, and it makes them angry.

Drag has a problem with one of these people, a pawb.social user called Draconic_NEO. Drag would normally just send a report, and drag is in the process of doing that, but the level of harassment has elevated to abuse of mod powers, and drag feels the need to inform the pawb.social admins of this user, as well as giving full context to the issue.

A week ago, drag created a thread on the db0 instance regarding a wrongful ban. Here is the context of drag's comments which lead to the ban:

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Drag has used HTML to restore the deleted comments in the thread to save you time checking the modlog. As you can see, someone insults drag for drag's style of talking, and drag merely explains what is going on. Some people are unfamiliar with first person neopronouns, and drag patiently explains. The first removed comment is actually drag answering a direct question from another user. A moderator of the community decided that a trans person explaining their pronouns is rulebreaking behaviour, and drag posted about it on db0's "power tripping bastards" community. Drag didn't choose the name of that community, it's just the only place to complain about bad mod decisions.

Here is Draconic_NEO's take on the original ban:

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Please understand that drag did not pivot the conversation to dragself, or display any aggression in the thread. Someone insulted drag for using neopronouns, and drag patiently explained. Draconic_NEO is, in this comment, inventing a narrative that a trans person's pronouns are an attack on others for the sake of attention-seeking. This is a transphobic cliche. The complaint that drag's use of neopronouns somehow makes drag similar to some troll is... nonsense? Drag doesn't get it, but it seems to be a core part of Draconic_NEO's argument that someone else was apparently a neopronoun user in the past, and now everyone else has a license to hate neopronoun users.

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And here is Draconic_NEO in the same thread, attacking the entire concept of nounself pronouns. Here are some resources on nounself pronouns, which are an established part of queer culture and what drag's pronouns would probably fall under:

https://nonbinary.wiki/wiki/Nounself_pronouns https://pronoun.fandom.com/wiki/Nounself_Pronouns https://www.dictionary.com/browse/nounself-pronoun https://edition.cnn.com/us/neopronouns-explained-xe-xyr-wellness-cec/index.html

> For someone who uses the nounself pronoun “leaf,” that may look like: “I hope leaf knows how proud we are that leaf is getting to know leafself better!” or “Leaf arrived at the coffee shop before me; I was mortified to have been late to meet leaf.”

As you can see, nounself pronouns are prominent enough in the queer culture to be referenced on CNN and even dictionary.com. Attacks on the idea of nounself pronouns are, in a word, transphobic.

Drag will stop posting excerpts from the thread here, because the reason this post isn't just a report, is that drag can't report all of Draconic_NEO's harassment.

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All four of these communities are moderated by Draconic_NEO, with nobody above them but the admins to tell: Drag has never posted or commented on or even seen these communities before. Drag didn't know they existed. Lemmy UI doesn't even have a button to do that. You have to manually make an HTTP request yourself in order to do it. This took effort, this took work. And the only possible reason to do it, is to create a record across all of Lemmy of a single user's grievances that anyone will see when they search that particular user.

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And it's already happened. People look at modlogs, and they trust moderaters. The barrier to entry to becoming moderator of a dozen no-name communities is zero, but the authority of being able to create a permanent record on which to tell whatever lies you like and be believed by many people, is powerful. And drag can't report these modlog decisions to the admins. Drag can't reason with somebody who has a basic hostility towards trans people who use nounself pronouns, and who invents stories about imagined violence by trans people.

Transphobia is against the rules on pawb.social. Harassment is against the rules. Spreading misinformation is against the rules. Drag wants all of this to stop, please.

When I replied to a comment, nothing seemed to happen except a 502 error with a flash banner in the corner that said "toastify is awesome". Assuming the comment didn't get posted, I tried again and had the same result. Refreshing the page showed all attempts at posting the comment were successful. This was on the standard desktop interface. @crashdoom@pawb.social

Just thought I would mention over here that Wander just announced the termination/archival of yiffit at the end of the year. I guess this will no longer be my backup account.

Kind of falls under the 'Too Afraid to Ask' category, I guess, but I've been curious about this for a while. Did something actually happen at some point, or was this just a procedural thing that wasn't ever followed up on?

It's mildly annoying given how large they are.

Edit: It's possible that this isn't a federation problem at all (as discussion is bringing to light) but something else entirely. Regardless, though, something is going on.

It's also possible that the site I link below is out of date, so maybe don't take that as gospel. I bookmarked it a year ago and just hit it up to check on this a few minutes before posting, so I haven't been keeping up with it.

Doing a little more digging in light of the above, it's possible this is related to this issue, and there's just an extremely long delay before we get content from lemmy.world. Weirdly, though, it doesn't seem to be the case with other instances - maybe because of their size? Either way, looking at the same posts on our instance and 3 or 4 others, we seem to be the only ones not getting the replies. So something's fucked, maybe.

If you're on lemmy.world and happen to see this, drop a reply in here, maybe - I'd be curious to see how long it takes for us to see it (or if we can at all).

I recently saw a couple posts on techtakes and holy shit their members are, well, awful. Is this some kinda metajoke or running gag? Their members tend to have positive comment scores despite being massive assholes. That seems out of character for Lemmy which is why I'm confused and wondering if there's some kinda running gag I missed.

Is anycritter else unable to stay logged in? Every new page I go to (a post, a community, a user) shows me logged out. I can log back in, but only for that page.

If it's on my end, advice would be nice ':3 Thankies squeek 🐭

Edit: Switching to Floorp seems to have fixed it 😅 Idunno if it's specific to this browser or I had some specific issue with how I had Firefox configured ooorrrr 🤷 That squeaked, apparently the adminicritters around here are updating to a fresh Lemmy version that deals with this issue. Neat! :3

One of many chat communities around lemmy but this one is furry. alright its mainly random thoughts and question of mine currently, but you are welcome to change that. !chat@yiffit.net Seeing some new faces would be welcome.

Hey! I was thinking now.... As I have some stuff to keep posting and I don't see that big posting activity in furry community I don't want to flood the timeline with my stuff. Would you recommend me a prudential time between posts?

Thought I should do a quick introduction of myself.

I'm Alyx, but you can call me Ashcat. It's an old slang term from the steam engine era from the time to talk about the person that put the coals into the engine itself.

I'm from around Pittsburgh, been to anthrcon and wpafa. i'm trans and disabled.

I'm bluesky, mastodon, matrix, and reddit as well as cohost. will gladly give links out if asked.

I've been wondering about this since I joined lol.