Bruh, I had a colleague who transitioned FTM and he would talk about this all the time. Constantly being told the most basic shit over and over really fucked with the guy before he transitioned, he said not having to deal with it felt like a breath of fresh air.
Those people don't exist, we all know that people with severe ADHD walk into the forest at 29 and become trees. Let's go back to pretending ADHD is not a problem for adults.
You seem troubled. If you're ever in Amsterdam, let me know and I'll buy you a beer and you can tell me about what's bothering you.