Both. Currently she wants help deciding how long to stay in which places, and wants help picking and booking hotels. So she's trying to wait until I'm ready to plan, but I'm basically never ready to plan until it's right before the trip and I need to rush to make up for lost time.
I have ADHD and my partner does not. When we were planning our wedding it was really difficult because she would do most of the planning (because I wasn't doing it and someone had to and she loves planning), but when we needed to plan anything together it was like pulling teeth for me. I wanted to help out but it was always so difficult to get myself to actually do anything.
The same thing happens with vacation planning. Even planning a trip to somewhere I want to go can feel about as fun as doing taxes. We're currently trying to plan a trip overseas that's just in a few months, and my partner really wants to book hotels (I totally agree) but any amount of planning feels like I'm being punished, and I don't know why. I don't have any fun and my mood tanks and I just get quiet and a little irritable.
Anyone else experience this and have any suggestions? I hate leaving all of the planning to my partner, but planning on my schedule has lead to us missing things in the past.
Random thoughts, feel free to ignore: I wonder if it's partly because it's not urgent (as in what we could plan today could just as easily be planned tomorrow) vs importance thing? If we planned on "my schedule" we'd be doing things way too close to the actual date. If we set a date to vacation plan, when it comes I just treat it like a todo list item I just need to finish up so I can get back to whatever I want to do instead.
I've been suuuuper lazy troubleshooting this so it's been a few weeks, but I talked to WD support, they said to run a full extended S.M.A.R.T. test on the drive, it passed with no issues.
Reconnected it to my server using a different SATA cable on a different port on the motherboard, with a different power connector. It resilvered with no problems, and a zpool scrub returned no errors this time so hopefully I'm in the clear!
I have a script that runs once a week that does a scrub then sends the output of zpool status to a Discord channel. When this first started it had read errors (as mentioned in the post), then checksum errors two weeks later. With there being a couple different errors before troubleshooting, and now with no errors after a scrub I'm hoping this means everything's fine now.
I always thought it was nuts that people don't remember, then I turned 30 and got married to someone who has a birthday less than a year before mine. Now I have two ages to remember (that are sometimes the same) and it takes a second for me to remember which is me when asked.
Wow that's pretty substantial, thanks for the tips! Wow yeah Backblaze does seem pretty affordable.
Thanks, I'll try some of those things out and see if a second scrub says the same.
That being said I have pretty good backups
Out of curiosity, what do you do for backups? The initial cost of 3x12TB drives was enough to make me not want to spend a bunch more money on backup stuff at the time, but now that I'm seeing errors I'm willing to spend a bit of money again and should look into my options.
Thanks, I will start a backup now. I don't have any extra automated backups so I guess this is my wake-up call to figure something out.
My weekly zpool scrub came back with this:
``` pool: blackhole state: DEGRADED status: One or more devices are faulted in response to persistent errors. Sufficient replicas exist for the pool to continue functioning in a degraded state. action: Replace the faulted device, or use 'zpool clear' to mark the device repaired. scan: scrub repaired 0B in 02:01:59 with 0 errors on Tue Jul 11 04:02:09 2023 config:
NAME STATE READ WRITE CKSUM blackhole DEGRADED 0 0 0 raidz1-0 DEGRADED 0 0 0 ata-WDC_WD120EDAZ-11F3RA0_5PG8DYKC ONLINE 0 0 0 ata-WDC_WD120EFBX-68B0EN0_5QKJ6M8B ONLINE 0 0 0 ata-WDC_WD120EFBX-68B0EN0_5QKJTT8B FAULTED 51 0 0 too many errors
errors: No known data errors ```
I only got the drive 6 months ago, well within WD's 3 year warranty so I opened a support case, but do errors like this basically always mean the drive is its way out or is it possible to have false positives?
Judging by what this video by Vsauce about how many holes a human has it should be one in a straw. A straw is basically just a long doughnut and there's one hole in those.
A feature I slept on for way too long are adding custom search engines and assigning shortcuts to search engines for sites I use frequently. Some Firefox support articles explaining: add a search engine from the address bar and how to assign shortcuts to search engines. A ton of sites have search engines so it's really easy to set up.
For the Oldschool Runescape wiki I have an rs keyword so I can just hit Ctrl+l (hotkey that focuses the address bar) then search for something like "rs rune scimitar" and it'll take me straight to the wiki page for it. I'm also using it for Google Maps, Youtube, MDN, and NPM and have 1-3 character keywords for each, though those all go to a search results page it still saves me some time!