South Park has been making offensive crass comedy for a zillion years. Chapelle says whatever he wants about marginalized groups and still has an audience and plenty of cash. Where is the harm? I don't see standup comics making trans and gay people the butt of jokes as much anymore. Is this negative to you?
"If I tell rape jokes at a funeral of a beloved community member who was brutally murdered and raped everyone should laugh. Because it is comedy it is justified."
If you disagree does this mean "nothing is OK to make fun of"
Or should we admit that context applies?
"Ah I only meant in comedy clubs"
Come to Atlanta and say the n-word and find out.
"Why are you attacking me? It was a joke"
Hmm, either you are wrong or everyone who hates the n-word. Guess which I think it is?
Reading the room means tailoring your material and performance to what is getting laughs, but you need to get some laughs before you can start the read.
I agree with you, at least in principle, but once you start making edits because of votes, you lose ground. Restate, explain, whatever, but just don't bring votes into it. All that does is create an adversarial situation that may well not happen otherwise.
You take the downs votes and the up votes as they come, and deal with them without referencing them. You'll have a much better experience if you stick to that, I promise.