Would you work in a workplace in which someone you are attracted to also works if you were in a relationship?

You'll meet a bunch of attractive (to you) people through work. You won't be able to avoid it forever. I suggest you to work on yourself to avoid professional problems in the future.

If I cheated everytime I worked with someone I find attractive I would have cheated dozens of times. Cheating isn't something you have to do, just... Don't do it. Also as others have said, start working in yourself, positive directions, self improvement..if you need to chat, message me.

At the end of the day, you're in control of your actions. You can catch feelings with as many people as you'd like but the only thing that really matters is which one of them you've put in the work with, and who you're willing to do the hard work of building a relationship with.

If your girlfriend is the most important person in the world to you, you don't have anything else to worry about. I wouldn't pass up a job I was excited for over something like this.

On the inverse - are you maybe having these thoughts because you're not as secure in your relationship as you should be? It's something to consider. You might find that you have repressed feelings that are unresolved, or you might become even more confident in your current relationship.

It’s pretty easy to be attracted to someone and just… keep it professional?

Like I have had colleagues I find attractive but tbh even flirting let alone asking someone out on a date at work is a bright red line for me. Women deserve to be treated as professionals at the work place and not sexualized. Plenty of fish in the sea and hey, you’ve already got one

Yes, but we seem to be very different people. I'm gonna guess you're younger and this is one of your first jobs? I would never give up a job because I was worried about being surrounded by attractive people, in fact it will likely make your job more pleasant. You need to have a struggle session with yourself and dissect where these fears are coming from like others have said.

One sign of maturity is coming to terms that attractive people are normal people too, and that you need to delineate legitimately wanting to change partners, and just feeling horny lol. If you are worried about self-control, set boundaries and be mindful of your behaviour, especially if you are under the influence.

I would. Attractive people are everywhere, it is unavoidable. The solution isn't to avoid the job, but rather to respect that person, your significant other, and your own values enough to maintain appropriate boundaries. Don't flirt and don't respond to flirtatious behavior if the other person initiates. Stay professional and tactful.

Well, I'm poly, so I'd just discuss it with my girlfriend. Idk how monogamous people deal with these issues. In my experience, my attraction to people wanes pretty quick when I focus on interests/ideas they have that I don't like or disagree with, things that would bother me if we lived together, sexual compatibility, etc. Suck the wind out of infatuation's sails by doing a pragmatic analysis of what a potential relationship might look like. It also helps you appreciate your partner(s) more, because you already have compatibility and comfort there.

But I would still take the job, yeah.

I think you have to learn how to do the right thing, and that looks like a great exercise in understanding different forms of relationships with people. It's clear what's in and out of bounds, given the professional context, and your personal relationships.

I don't think there's too much to be afraid of, and being aware of your weaknesses gives you an edge to go in there in relative safety.

Do you trust yourself to conduct yourself in an ethical manner if you did work there? If so, then I'd probably work there. If not then that is something you should probably consider. If it's the former, do not hang out with this coworker and keep things strictly professional.

Are you incapable of being weird about it? Then... maybe its best for everybody to find some other place to work.

If you're aware of your attraction and can keep things socially acceptable and professional, there's no reason not to.

I had been working at a place with about 100 employees for quite a while. I'm not a super social person but, given the interactive nature of the work environment and the years spent there, I had developed a few casual work friendships. It took me by surprise when I realized I, a married guy close to 10 years older than the person in question, had a huge crush on one of the work friends. Once I realized what was happening, I slowly backed off interacting with them as often to let my feelings cool down.

Polyamory?