I'm slowly moving into the self hosted mindset specially for privacy, security and sailing the high seas. This community has been invaluable but I'd like to know which routers you use that fit well with this and plays nice with the services we're hosting.
I'm mostly thinking about wifi support, openwrt, vpn (not a hard requirement), vlans, etc. I know probably a networking community would be a better place for this question, but I think this might be useful for other "self-hosters"
I use Mikrotik RB5009 because it's easy and very powerful. It has zerotier and wireguard built in. I'm slowly getting into OPNSense, but I'm not too familiar with it yet.
I also run ubiquiti wifi, but am planning on changing to another system in the future.
My core switch is a unifi 24 enterprise. It's the only affordable and semi quiet switch that is multigig, POE, and semi layer 3.
I currently run 6 vlans. Users, servers, management, IoT, LAN only, and DMZ.
Can only agree on Mikrotik routers. All are using RouterOS, which works the same on all their devices, from routers to switches and access points.
They are relatively cheap for the capabilites you're getting. They have their own scripting language, two APIs (their new one is REST-based).
GUI (winbox is recommended, and plays nice with wine. Wouldn't recommend web interface, just cumbersome) and CLI exists.
They have a lot of builtin functionality, like DHCP server, DNS server with static configuration, and even file sharing. Some models are powerful enough to run Docker images on (yes, that's builtin...).
We're running a couple of hundred and don't have much problem with them.
Yes, but a caveat is that not all of their switches can run RouterOS. Some can only run SwitchOS, which I've heard is on its way out... So avoid that hardware.
You are completely right about SwitchOS, and it is even more exciting that some models sells in two versions, with the only difference being called CSS* for SwitchOS, or CRS* for RouterOS. And the SwitchOS-enabled model is much cheaper, so customers ordering for themselves almost always pick the wrong one (that is, SwitchOS, which we can't manage properly in our automations and other software solutions).