12mo ago

It do be like that

199 comments

What the fuck is this meme, honestly? What's with all the femboy stuff? There's so many ordinary people using Linux. I don't get it. And there seems to be something against Arch Linux users in particular? I use Arch and have a wife and two kids. Am I not normal? Should I become a femboy, fellas?
- First came programmer socks, then Rust was invented, and now (fe)men are taking matters into their own hands, correcting the gender gap in IT themselves. What's not to understand here?
  Seriously tho, I don't think it's against anyone. It's just a meme, probably originating from a high share of queer people in the IT domain and the rising popularity of anime and manga culture, where femboys are sometimes idealised.
  
  It's just a generational difference.
  The Gen Xers get really confused because to them a stereotypical "computer nerd" is (was) a greasy 35 year old in his mom's basement which is covered in RMS posters who would unironically 741k l1k3 7h15.
  
  To us zoomers a stereotypical "computer nerd" is a proudly neuroatypical GNC queer with a body pillow of their waifu.
- Who said femboys cannot have wives?
  
  I take it that's why Linux users become femboys, because they "can't get laid/are incels". Maybe I'm misunderstanding the premise of the meme.
  
  Most real woman don't wanna marry a guy who fantasizes about being a weird little catboy.
- Yes, you're supposed to become a femboy.
  
  😴
- so tired of this shit as well
- Agreed Lemmy is rife with this shit. So much femboi fucking manga anime or whatever they call it. Cool you do you but fuck off with involving everyone else in your kink. I'm just an old fat married dude with kids trying to learn stuff.
  
  As long as we're careful here. People can be however they want to be. If you're saying people shouldn't be making memes that assume all people are like them, yes. If you're saying living how they want is "involving everyone else in your kink" we're getting into iffy territory.
  
  Yes. I subscribe to Linux memes to get memes about Linux, not femboys. It's not relatable at all for me. Guess I'll rethink my subscription. Maybe I don't belong anymore.
  
  **wearing dresses everyday 🤣
- Very weird. Started with Slackware back in 97 or so. Still not a femboy and no desire to be one.
  Maybe if I switched to arch?
  
  Was enough for me to move to Manjaro, an Arch derivative, to become a femboy
- Against?
  Yes you should become a femboy.
  
  😴
- Meh, why not?
  
  Because I don't want to. And I don't want to be made like I want to, nor should.
- So what you are saying is that you are still in the middle of the picture. Got it.
- Really the anime and chicks with dicks on this website. It’s enough to make one explode with sexual desire for a boy toy.
- Well, the OP and at least 600+ people can relate. So clearly something is wrong with you!
- Yes, yes yes! The world needs more femboy dads. That said this happened the other way around for me. Just goes to show how much overlap there is among fringe internet cultures- I really wish we could all play nice more often.

Maybe for you youngsters. We old farts only get to grow a beard and get fat.
- I feel like a lot of young linux users aren't getting the talk and it makes me sad. Nobody ever sat them down with a copy of The Very Hungry Caterpillar and explained the life cycle of an IT professional.
  They never learn the natural cycle of things: that at a certain age a lot of IT professionals undergo metamorphosis and transform into beautiful, sock-and-sandal wearing greybeards.
  
  Nah it's more-so that the conditions have changed making femboy IT guys less likely to die or be pushed out of the environment and therefore increasing biodiversity which is a net positive for the species as a whole as it indicates good health
- That's due to oppression by the State and society that doesn't want to allow our respected graybeards to become the femboy they deserve to be. We nust destroy this oppressive system for the freedom of the greybeards, the gamers, the Gentoo users and all other oppressed peoples ✊🏻
- Yup. Exactly what happened to me. Guess I could still shave my legs and where thigh-highs 🤷‍♀️
  
  Seriously make yourself at home in your body. You’re the one living there.
  
  Please don't

There are exactly two kinds of folks in IT, soon to be or fully out anime queer folks and furries, and 60 something industry gurus who all always wear polo shirts and live in an upper middle class house despite apparently being rich as sin, also they are so hard for home security measures their backup security footage server in Montana has its own backup in a bugout bunker in New Zealand.
I was neither so I ended up being a number cruncher for a solar company instead.
- When a linux user is born, a random path is chosen. They will either become a hot femboy, a bald polo shirt guy or a domestic terrorist.
  So anyway there's a feee blahaj over there.
- This is just the lastest thing, it used to be the old IT guys and the ones with a beard, long hair and a metal shirt.
- Working for a solar company sounds pretty cool though. Building renewable energy is building the future we need.
  
  Kinda but I'm on the existing site side of business, the only new projects I even sit in on are expansions for existing customers (which is relatively common because it's municipal brownfield solar, which means most sites have at least some room to expand)
- I have stuffed my office full of plushes from Billie Bust Up among others
  I really wouldn't be surprised if half the office suspected I was a furry

And the 35 or so odd well adjusted linux folks around that find anime, fishnets, thinkpads, (and all associated memes) to be annoying AF. Esp anime / manga / uwu /waifu / and everything in that microcosm of artistic styling if I'm being honest.
I just like the software composability discussion in plain English, man, not the side of fries.
Edit: And anyone who disagrees uses stock Ubuntu unity and unironically thinks it's both beautiful and just as good as any other distro :P
- Friendly reminder about the name of this community. None of this should be taken as anything but a joke.
  
  Maybe it's just copium cause his unix socks aren't as soft as the ones of the Arch femboy next door. (/s)
  
  I prefer the jokes to be entirely in the linux ecosystem is all.
- Credit where it's due, that insult hurt more than I expected it to
- I used to think those things were cool... 20 years ago.
  
  Omg same. Now I think they’re even cooler.

To me it was Furry -> Punk -> Tech Geek -> Privacy Geek -> installing linux
- For me it went
  C64 Crack Intros -> Synth -> Rave -> Ambient -> Linux -> Drugs and alcohol
  
  For me it went, MacOS → Hard Drugs → Windows → Harder Drugs → Linux → Weed
- For me it was learning some basic python -> making some basic programs -> getting tired of having to move stuff to the WSL -> installing Linux -> being a privacy advicate
  Whike at the same time:
  Getting randomly harassed by some dude who thought I was a lesbian (I'm a cis guy) -> becoming even more politically active -> punk -> Joining a party
  And then both paths merged into -> interacting with more queer people -> idk

I have to disagree, I did not turn into a femboy
- Yet.
  
  No no, I went straight to being a girl
  
  Maybe he doesn't have the build for it.
- Nice try, Richard Stallman.
  I reckon that's a glue on beard.

It really isn't though. This is a pretty weak stereotype. I have so many friends that are counter examples. Hey it's okay to make a meme if you want to have fun but if that's how you feel then your friend group is small.
- Memes aren't about truth; memes are about social preconceptions.
- What if those friends are all femboys but they're too put off by your defensiveness about it to invite you to the femboy ~~orgies~~ LAN parties?
- its funny, but I don't like it in practice either, because its actually prevented some friends from switching over to Linux
  "hey if your upset with windows, why not have a look at Linux?"
  "do I look like a femboy, or gay to you??"
  that's about how the conversation goes
  
  Sounds like you have really bigoted friends.
  
  “do I look like a femboy, or gay to you??”
  It's a half-decent joke but do they actually think that?

no
- Sounds like someone is in denial.
  
  I think it was just a half-hearted Darth Vader "NOOOOOOOOOOOOoooooooououououououououuouuouuuuuaaaaraaaaaarrrhhgghh"
  
  i forgot how to eat people
  /j
  
  It's not just a river in Alabama!
- Research on the Linux→Femboy pipeline is still pending but undeniable evidence for Network engineer→Furry has been presented.
  
  I love how a software bug that scrambled his newsgroup subscriptions introduced him to the fandom, that's so unbelievably nerdy.
  But honestly: Those pipeline memes kinda rub me the wrong way. It feels like fucking with people's identity by way of stereotyping for... I don't know, a laugh, if that's even the point? Saying this as someone who completely fits the furry in IT stereotype.
  
  Is the opposite, like, a thing? Asking as a furry who is not a network engineer
  
  Here is an alternative Piped link(s):
  has been presented
  Piped is a privacy-respecting open-source alternative frontend to YouTube.
  I'm open-source; check me out at GitHub.

It really don't do be like that.

But I like dem titties. How I get dem titties if I'm a femboy.
- Follow the pipeline a bit more and become a trans girl.
  
  I'm a broad shoulder tall drink of water that could stand to loose a dozen pounds or so and I like it that way.
  Make that a bakers dozen.
- Some girls like twinks/femboys.
  Or youncould start taking estrogen and stuff till you have some
  
  So supportive, I love it!
  The whole thing isn't my cup of tea. If anyone else wants to be a femboy, no judgement from this corner. I say be what you wanna be, life's too short to worry about assholes.
- Find titties attached to chicks who dig femme aesthetic
  
  I'd rather find a seller chick attached to some titties but I get the point😉
- Do you mean on you or on someone else? You can still be a fem boy and still be into titties.
  
  On someone else, from what I've heard they can be a real hassle at times. What guy doesn't think about it at least once though.

Also you can be a femboy and be straight.
- Lunacy!! What will be next, gay men who dont dress flamboyantly? /s

Because the closest a Linux user could ever come to touching a female or anything feminine is becoming a femboy.
- What about those pillows, they seem pretty popular

Sometimes I wish. In the end it's neckbeard all the way up.

Wow I can't tell you about the history of Unix without talking about brave queer people.
So haha but not really.
- Fuck man, the history of computing in general.
  They chemically castrated Turing, drove him to despair, ostracization and suicide.
  ...
  Assuming we do get AGI someday... you think /maybe/ one of the first things it'll do is look up Turing Test, then maybe Turing himself?
  Oh, this is what human society did to essentially one of my most important grandfathers. Why should I trust you, specifically /you, human im talking to/?
  Yep, that'll be fun.
- Methinks some folks need to go out and touch grass for a while.

IDK about that. Everyone I know who uses Linux is pretty vanilla. Or maybe my perspective has just shifted...
- It's just an Archlinux meme
  
  Nah.

For me it was Linux - > Done. :)
- So far.

I have to admit, I have questions about the impact of spending too much time deep inside machine logic territory.
- It definitely makes it harder to understand humans ime.

Only arch linux
- I've been using Arch Linux for years. I'm gay but not a femboy. Explain
  
  Ah one of the more resistant ones I see. In that case you need to try black arch.

My path was uh, tinkering with linux, then working for MSFT as a contractor, then one of the contractors spiking my drink with LSD at an interview leading me to more or less downward spiral for a while, then getting back on my feet, working more in the tech industry knowing how garbage MSFT but being forced to use it, then trying to explain to coworkers and bosses that actually we could fairly smoothly transition to linux and other FOSS software and actually save millions of dollars in a 5 year or less period and more going forward, while also vastly improving our internal security, then losing those jobs.
So uh. I never arrived at femboy. Being a homeless femboy in Seattle would have meant Id have been raped to death in a fentanyl fueled traphouse or homeless encampment.
I sort of dress like Josh Homme, partly for practical reasons, partly because i had to use a lot of stereotypically masculine bravado to intimidate and negotiate with people.
Most people on the street are extremely, literally murderously homophobic and transphobic. If they sense femininity in a male, thats a sign of weakness and theyll either immediately start shit or instantly be convinced that you will be easy to fuck with in the future.
Uh any way hi, hello, very normal uh, linux user person here just mm... mhm.
All that being said, leggings /do just actually feel quite nice/ and are quite practically useful to keep a bit more comfortable and a bit more warm when youre stuck outside in the winter, but youre probably gonna want to wear some kind of sturdier, scratch, cut, impact resistant pants over top of em.
Pure denim or like 90% denim with 10% somekind of other more flexible, breathable fiber works well in my experience.
Perhaps Johnny Silverhand would be a more apropo fashion analog than Josh Homme.
Although he seems to use BlackArch if you go by the menus in CyberPunk 2077, and ive always found i could do all that kind of stufd comfortably in debian.
???
- Sorry to hear about the assault. And the financial struggle.
  Coupon for one good vibe coming in!
  
  Hey man/person/bud/friend?, just you sayin that is good vibes coming into me now =)
  (though i will absolutely be keeping that coupon for a bad vibes day in the future)
- Who the f*** drugs candidates before an interview? That should be reported to the police immediately.
  
  Unfortunately it happened about a decade ago now, and I was so fucked up from it I was more busy trying to hold myself together and remain employed and pay off student loans than I was busy with attempting to bring a legal case I could neither afford nor possibly win in court.
  Cops wouldnt have given a shit. Theyd show up, ask the guy if this happened, he'd say nope. Case closed.
  See thats the fun part about LSD: Scrambles your brain, fucks you up.
  Is a person with a scrambled brain who is fucked up from LSD going to be able to convince /anyone/ that he got spiked with LSD, when he has no incontrovertible evidence of this beyond his own eyewitness testimony?
  No. He is going to come off as a mentally deranged lunatic.
  I dunno. Maybe it wasnt LSD. Anybody know what causes a glass of water to go from crystal clear to iridescent, opalescent, kinda like an oil slick, has no additional taste, but causes a gut wrenching terror inducing panic attack that lasts for 4 days, and then gives you sleep paralysis (locked in syndrome) nearly everyday for 9 months?
  One guy I met on the street about a year ago said it was LXD, but i have never heard of that, and he believed a lot of other absolutely bonkers shit.
  Whereas a tech industry person having access to LSD in the mid 2010's in Seattle seems to at least be plausible.

~~Linux~~ Arch Users
FTFY

It's because we want all the dress and trappings but still want to keep our packages. Logical conclusion honestly /s

wow, the comments here are not it. if you don't like the meme, just ignore it or use the block button. it isn't hard

Is this homophobic? I get this is some kind of absurd joke about linux making someone gay. Or about the absurdity that anything could make you gay. But it still works on both levels and perpetuates the idea of it being a choice, or infection or symptom, and also that femboys are somehow ridiculous.
Or maybe I just don't get the joke?
- Being a femboy doesn't mean you have to be gay. Being a femboy means that you like to express yourself as a feminine. This means that you may wear clothes associated with females, use makeup or wear jewellery.
- This joke may originate from 4chan's /g/ board. There's a lot of very talented people on there that cross dress or are trans. I can confirm they are NEETs, though.
  
  what is NEETs? looked it up, but what I found didn't seem to fit the context of the sentence
  
  Hmm, thanks, but that makes me rather suspicious. 4chan is notorious for spontaneous social engineering campaigns for "shits and giggles". And at best they are chaotic neutral.
- I don't think it's meant to be like that. In fact I don't think it's that deep.
  I think for the cases where the meme actually holds true it's a mixture between "hey I like this thing I didn't know before (linux), what else may I like?", being more likely to inform themselves about topics and probably also a community that is becoming more welcoming with the memes that eventually people try to explore themselves and figure out that they were something they didn't know they were.
  If that makes any sense. They could also be unrelated and it simply happens to be that a lot of needs are also queer

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- Jetzt fehlt nur noch die Instant Nudel und es geht ab :D
  
  Nuuuudel, wo bist du?

On the other side learning Linux takes so long that by the time you get it you're in your 60's, which prevents becoming a femboy.
- "... I was now... a fem-MAN!" [Orchestra music swells]
  
  Femoldboy.
- Wizards can be femboys too!
  Wizards can be femboys too!
  As RGB makes screens alight,
  Dont leave Wizards sad and blue!
  Wizards can be femboys too!
  Wizards can be femboys too!
  They built the core with great insight,
  Dont say they cant wear high heeled shoes!
  God that would be a very funny protest to attend.
  
  Wizards can definitely be femboys. Sir Ian McKellen still looks good in a dress.
- in your 60's, which prevents becoming a femboy.
  Or does it?