The good thing is one can block entire communities without issue in order to personalize the experience. It was already vital in Reddit for me, so I'm happy to do it from the start here. I don't hate meme subs or anything and I'm glad they're having fun, it's just not what I want of this site. Or outrage bait subs.... or sports subs... or gacha games subs... or cringe-focused subs... or -you get the drill. Happily blocking is easy and harmless to them.
Atleast the second point on your ‘missed’ list is generally instance related (atleast in my experience).
True, and I am aware of that. But just speaking of the user experience, it is a pain point that I'm currently experiencing that I wasn't when using Reddit (aside from the occasional "You Broke Reddit" outage periods).
That's not a criticism of Lemmy, I mean I lived through Friendster's cripplingly poor performance, Twitter's failwhale, and the bad early days of Reddit. Performance issues with new, growing social media sites is to be expected. But for the time being, I do miss being on a more stable platform.
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