What gifts that you received for Christmas this year are already in the trash?
What gifts that you received for Christmas this year are already in the trash?
For me, there were several dollar store trinkets that already broke, and one toy for my kids that was a huge sparkly styrofoam mess waiting to happen, so I threw it out rather than curse anyone else with it.
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We have an old bamboo cutting board that my wife bought and it’s been through Hell. It also bears no known emotional or sentimental value (which we’ll get to). Now, it’s all scarred up and soaked in all the odors and stains from years of abuse and neglect. It was also too small, and I always wished it was bigger.
I received a new, XL bamboo cutting board, which was at the top of my wishlist. It was perfect! I bought a fancy oil for it and everything. Then, I tried to lay down some ground rules with the wife for proper use and care of the board to prolong its usefulness by years.
My wife took it as a personal attack that everything she does is wrong. The replacement of the old board was emotionally taken as a replacement of some part of her. Then, she cried. The matter remains unresolved and the board will eventually make its way to either the trash or a new home because it’s now associated with some level of perceived scorn. All I wanted was something nice and to keep it nice. Fuck me, right?
Now, I want to cry.
Sounds like yall need some counselling.
There is a thing called marriage counseling, put that on your wishlist
Let her fuck it up. It's XL, you can sand and refinish. It's also just a board. You replaced the old tool due to mistakes probably made by both of you over time, intentionally or accidentally. In 1 year the new board will have similar scars, and the trivial nature of said scars will also haunt your own memories of past strife taken too seriously.
Spoken from personal exp
We can't tell how OP broached the topic with their wife, so maybe they came across as condescending and accusatory, but I see nothing wrong with taking the old cutting board as the lesson learned and trying to do better at taking care of the new one.
Sounds like OP is prioritizing their relationship over the piece of kitchenware, but let them vent over it a bit! Definitely an overreaction on the wife's part.
Nows your chance to upgrade to a hardwood board with no maintenance requirements. Eliminate strife on both ends.
Be aware the delete function doesn't.
We have an old bamboo cutting board that my wife bought and it’s been through Hell. It also bears no known emotional or sentimental value (which we’ll get to). Now, it’s all scarred up and soaked in all the odors and stains from years of abuse and neglect. It was also too small, and I always wished it was bigger.
I received a new, XL bamboo cutting board, which was at the top of my wishlist. It was perfect! I bought a fancy oil for it and everything. Then, I tried to lay down some ground rules with the wife for proper use and care of the board to prolong its usefulness by years.
My wife took it as a personal attack that everything she does is wrong. The replacement of the old board was emotionally taken as a replacement of some part of her. Then, she cried. The matter remains unresolved and the board will eventually make its way to either the trash or a new home because it’s now associated with some level of perceived scorn. All I wanted was something nice and to keep it nice. Fuck me, right?
Now, I want to cry.
It's related to something else. Unless a fear of large cutting boards is involved.
It always is, isn't it?!
(ps i go around copy pasting people's DELETED comments to bring awareness to the fact you CANNOT DELETE COMMENTS)
Those damn onions. Ruining the cutting board!
Why do this?
Awareness is better as ignorance. The workaround is to edit first, then delete.
Always the combination lemmy.world + some shit like 'the wife' ... guys you have heard that your partners are actual persons, not some abstract, always present, overly emotionally behaved construct like 'the wife'?
Mine is also at times very unrational.
lemm.ee is lemmy.world's mysogynist bro in spirit, I know. Guys you are aware that y'all can get divorces and turn gay, right?
What will my mom say. O never mind... She'll probably be happy for me. What will the people on the street think? (like I care) errrrrr I'm deleting this comment (lemmy doesn't let you delete comments at all....)