I think you're confusing us with Redditors. We're chad af over here. We're all programmer sock-wearing Linux users who love Star Trek and 15 year old memes. What makes you think we're not getting any? 👉😏👉
True. I'm 27 now and if people ask what I like or hobbies I have I tell them games, books movies/shows and I especially love fantasy or RPGs. When I was a teenager I never would have answered with that as I was insecure for being an introvert and having "geeky" interests.
I also really hate the meme of nerds not having sex or relationships. I'm a software dev that works with the nerdiest people I've ever met. The vast majority of my coworkers are married or in long term relationships. I'm active in the kink community and have a number of coworkers I see there too. My experience is that nerds are very common in the kink community. I mostly date and fuck fellow nerds and as far as I can tell, they're mostly doing alright, too.
The stereotype from the meme is just self deprecation bordering on toxicity and incel-ness. The only place where "nerd" is still an insult or bad thing is in Disney channel movies, which are eternally stuck in 90s stereotypes, where people nerds are supposed to remove their glasses and let their hair down if they want to be found hot (ps: that is a terrible trope, because glasses are extremely hot).
Uhh. It’s a joke homie. But I have noticed Lemmy users tend to skew older and in IT jobs, with many of us having significant others, unlike Reddit that seemed to be mostly single 19 year olds