Are you threatening me?

She should've ended it with "No. I'm going to send you some flowers."
It reads like "cans of soup... for my family"

Not agreeing with the guy, but we are all aware that his last post is sarcasm right

got a ban on reddit for this. Dude was saying Ukraine should give up the stolen land for peace. So i asked him for his address so i could occupy one of his rooms.
he did not like that
- I chuckled at this. Surely a single room is not enough?
  Lebansraum!

The original Bri Larson tweet makes me think of a recent post on lemmy that showed younger men are less and less likely to ask women out in person. Some people in the comments said "hey it's ok to approach women in public just be ok with them saying no" but when I read what women say about being approached in public (like bri larsons tweet here) I get the feeling that I should never approach women in public because I'll make them feel scared.
I'm not talking about the top tweet where a guy is memorizing your address, that is creepy, I understand that, but the guy in the bri Larson tweet wasn't being creepy, just shooting his shot right? Or am I way off here?
- "Approaching in public" can mean so many different things. What most women have a problem with is being approached in a situation where the man has some form of power over her. For example a cashier or server has to be friendly and smile or she will risk her job. Being approached is uncomfortable, because too many men don't understand it when the no comes with a smile. They are also in a position of power, because they can complain about her or make a scene and get her in trouble.
  In this case the TSA agent has some form of power over her and could give her trouble if she refuses. She has no way of knowing if a "no" will be met with understanding or with him holding her up, being insistent, keeping her from passing. That's what makes it especially uncomfortable.
  
  I think even if it's not one of these situations, being approached is uncomfortable unless you are interested in the person. People are way more isolated now and less socially aware, which means half the people who do approach will not understand when the other person isn't interested, and end up making it a bad interaction for both people rather than just a short uncomfortable one.
  Being isolated also makes people act stupid, which makes them ask out their server cashier etc even if they know they shouldn't. They just need someone to be with, and they see a positive interaction and go for it. It's like someone who's starving stealing a lot of your food, it's still their "fault" but it's not really surprising they would do that.
  
  Sounds easier to just stay introverted. Sorry. Forever alone lol
- A large part of it is setting. If you're at a place people gather to be social, like a party or a bar or other social event, people are more open to talking or getting to know each other. If you're just trying to move through your day in public and are probably thinking about all the bullshit you need to deal withnin our daily hellscape of lives, and some random person interupts to interject and make you deal with even more bullshit, that fuckin sucks. Location, location, location.
- "Cold-calling" women for dates in public is kinda sketchy in general.
  Put the effort in to getting to know them first. If you are at a point in your life where asking random strangers for a date is your best game, you need to work on yourself.
  This isn't bashing you for not being handsome/pretty, or fit, or rich. You need to go out and do things that you enjoy, try new things, and find partners who enjoy the same things, then see if they are open to dating.
  Also, mutual friends are the best for getting you a date with someone. It worked for me, and it can work for you!
  
  If you are at a point in your life where asking random strangers for a date is your best game, you need to work on yourself.
  Fuck me. This is the best piece of advice I ever heard that every single person needs to get in their heads.
  
  I mean, a date can be a pretty safe and tame event. It's how you might get to know someone.
  You shouldn't expect anything romantic out of such a date, and certainly makes sense to meet at the venue and the venue be very open and visible. But to say you can't even offer a chance to get to know each other without getting to know each other is a bit over the top.
  Better chances in interest themed events and activities to have a promising match of course, but there has to be some opportunity to get acquainted.
- if youre approached by a tsa agent at their work its harder to say no. its fine to shoot your shot but be aware of the time, place, social dynamic, etc.
- He's at work, be professional at least. He also doesn't know the person, but if he was just some random dude you are still inconveniencing a person slightly. They say no, you are inconvenienced back.
  Your workplace is for work, not for interfering with people trying to use your service. You can become friends with regulars and then ask them out if you desire, but you also involve more of yourself at risk in the question.
  So just don't. Go to public gatherings or places of interest, where people have a common understanding of at least socializing. Having a friend already diffuses the situation or possible tension that an engagement can form.
  
  Here's the thing, work takes up like half your day. If you aren't allowed to be a normal human at work, you're going to be a miserable person. That being said, a normal person doesn't ask for a phone number after a few sentences. They at a minimum have a conversation long enough to establish that having a second conversation would actually be an enjoyable experience. That's probably not gonna happen at a TSA checkpoint and that's fine.
- I think you should try talking a bit before asking for someone's number, at least.
  Don't actually be creepy, but you can never control how people feel about something. Something that's completely fine to someone one day might be the tipping point on some other day.
  If you hit on someone just based on looks they might not take it nicely because they might be getting a lot of that!
- Read this whole thing and tries to shift the focus to himself and how it makes him feel. Amazing. Bear please.
- Imagine if a stranger the size of Shaq asked you to use your cell phone. He could just be a person needing to call someone, or he could be an asshole trying to steal your phone. Whatever the case saying no could potentially put you in a bad situation if they decide to get upset, and saying yes could also potentially put you in a vulnerable situation where you have no power.
  I think most guys forget the power imbalance that just being physically larger creates between the sexes. Im not the size of Shaq, but i am a big dude who is larger than most dudes on a similar scale compared to how most men are bigger than most women. I have to be mindful to be as non threatening and gregarious as possible to not be intimidating, because men are just as easily unsettled by size, it's just the scaling that is different.
  Plus, no one owes you the time in their day. Approaching a complete stranger to propose some sort of relationship only tells a person that you only value them for their physical appearance, or you are the type of person who approaches anyone who they think they have a chance with.

Oh no. Not violence. How awful.
- It's just flowers. Relax. Wink

I thought they were threatening him with flowers? He must be reading too much into it.

Men (especially young boys) are more likely to be victims of random violence.
Women tend to receive violence from friends and family in the home.
For whatever that's worth
- You're missing the context of WHEN THEY ARE the targets. Women are more often on the receiving end for both. Just because one gender gets one type of violence more often, still doesn't mean they receive more instances of it over the other.

How was it called? When people are so close to getting the point it hurts, yet still don't get it? I remember there being a subreddit about it.
- Selfawarewolves
  
  !selfawarewolves@lemmy.world
  
  I miss that subreddit
  
  Yep, that's it. Thank You.

Classic conservative move, they immediately understand the problem when it applies to them but cannot or will not generalise to others
- They simply don't care for the values of the Age of Enlightenment. Kant's Categorical Imperative would unduly inconvenience them.
- You people don't actually think this is a serious response from an actual person, do y'all?
  
  I just say whatever I think is funny, okay?
- Even when presented with the hypocrisy, they still refuse to acknowledge there is a problem.
- That's more of an idiot move.
  
  Who's got the time to tell the difference?
  
  The Venn diagram between those two things is basically a circle at this point.
  
  That's what they said
- Maybe it's safe to assume he's a conservative but you'll be surprised at how many brocialists we have on the left.
  
  brocialists
  Lol
- Can you even imagine his response if a gay man had approached him the same way? Dude would be on the 6 o'clock news crying into the camera while covered in blood.
  
  Sone might fight, but guys like these on socials would get hammered by gay dudes. No pun intended.
- What has this got to do with being conservative?
  It's just someone being an ass, I don't understand how their place on the political spectrum even gets thought about.
  I find this a lot on social media. How there is such venom towards whatever the other side is that it becomes all encompassing.
  Or am I totally missing something here?
  Edit: the American masses don't like their world view being questioned it seemed.
  
  That smells like “not all conservatives”
  
  Edit: the American masses don’t like their world view being questioned it seemed
  When you write something like this, you can't genuinely think it's 100% accurate, right? Like, you have to know it's BS deep down, right?
  
  Lack of empathy, especially towards women, is generally associated with conservatives due to the current political climate. Whether or not that's got any truth to it, I couldn't say.
  
  It's not just "anyone being an ass is conservative!" This type of misogyny is very much a conservative thing. They've made it part of their ethos.
  
  Eh, it's not just americans. Conservatism is very much "rules for thee but not for me".
  
  Women are bleeding to death alone in hospital parking lots after being kicked out by doctors as a direct result of the conservative movement. Have you ever faced a real life-or-death threat? It is only human to fight back with all your might all the time when someone tries to kill you.

he made her point so perfectly well, and yet still can't (and won't ever be able to) see it himself.
- Do you actually think this is real?
  
  What is the purpose of your comment?
  Assuming it's real - then what? A bunch of people hopefully recognize how fucking weird it is to get their address memorized. She shared the experience.
  Assume it's fake - okay? So a bunch of people hopefully recognize how fucking weird it is to get their address memorized?

He would feel threatened if a creepy woman TSA agent did this to him too. It's much more rare, but it's a better argument for these kinds of people. I've seen this response countless times. Banned from r/conservative for "threatening" users lol.
Think of them like children (his debate skills are <6th grader, so he literally is). You have to be gentle.
- creepy woman TSA agent
  No need to even be creepy. If this is a white dude, just have a black agent do the same. I bet he'll be so fucking freaked out that he'll call the cops right then.
- Not everything is a debate. The dude is just an asshole.
  
  Actually if you're a Democrat you have to act perfectly all the time. This guy's a Republican so it's totally fine to be a child.
- Think of them like children (his debate skills are <6th grader, so he literally is). You have to be gentle.
  They're not like children, they're just narcissists.
  It's the attitude of: "If I do something bad to you, you should be flattered. But don't you dare do that to me!"
  
  It could be, or it could be 6th grade debate and communication skills. But we're allowed to be angry and not act perfectly.
- Nah, hit his homophobic ass with the theoretical hyper-masculine leather daddy hitting on him
  
  Satisfying to argue but doesn't work either on these 6th grade debate ability folks. You make a 7th grade argument, not an adult one if you want to help him.
- his debate skills are <6th grader, so he literally is
  Now that's a logical fallacy.
  
  Literally is now just an intensifier in most contexts. We’ve lost the war
  
  He literally might as well be in his capacity to debate and process emotions, which is his only relevant skills here. But the other way was shorter to write.

That went so far over his head, I'm not sure he heard the woosh.

Well, you see. The man has a penis, therefore he is at higher risk of violence than women.
Wait, no. It's the opposite.
- Cis men experience more of every non-sexual form of violence than cis women on average, to the point where they experience more incidents of overall violence.
  
  The fun part is when you start digging into where that violence is coming from....
- A lot of trans women who possess penises are at extreme risk of violence from men.
  
  And trans men experience struggles with an epidemic of both sexual abuse and domestic violence, which is basically not studied at all.
  
  Yes, but they are still women, and I specifically was referring to men with penises.
  Checkmate, atheists.

Reminds me of an episode of "Cheers." Cliff calls a woman and starts heavy breathing into the phone, then he's surprised when she hangs up.
"My mom always laughs when I do it to her!"
- I recently discovered that, at the beginning of Cheers, Cliff was some five years younger than I currently am, and I'm not happy about this AT ALL.
  
  I saw this one posted recently. Two British actors, both 34 in their respective photographs. One is Sean Connery, born in 1960 so the photo was taken in 1964/65, the other is Thomas Brodie Sangster, born in 1990.
  Sean Connery's path to 34 involved a lot more drinking and smoking. Sangster presumably has a skincare routine. But, still, it's striking.
  P.S. That isn't Connery's natural hair.
  
  A while back, someone mentioned Jack Benny, and we all laughed about how he'd always say he was "only 39."
  When we were kids, we wondered how old you had to be to think that 39 was young.
  Now we know!