What profound statement has stuck with you over the years?
What profound statement has stuck with you over the years?
What profound statement has stuck with you over the years?
Not my circus, not my monkeys.
Used this against my controlling mother, who liked to lay BS at my feet and make me think it was my responsibility to fix. When it was HER that caused the whole thing. The look on her face when I hit her with that phrase and just turned around and left was priceless.
There a LOT of things that are just flat not your problem, even if someone else tries to make it yours.
"You are not obligated to complete the work, but neither are you free to desist from it." Pirkei Avot (2:21)
While I’m not religious, this Jewish quote resonates with me. The “work” is never truly finished, we can all do more to make things better, both for ourselves and our community.
This has influenced my entire idea of spending money:
“The reason that the rich were so rich, Vimes reasoned, was because they managed to spend less money.
Take boots, for example. He earned thirty-eight dollars a month plus allowances. A really good pair of leather boots cost fifty dollars. But an affordable pair of boots, which were sort of OK for a season or two and then leaked like hell when the cardboard gave out, cost about ten dollars. Those were the kind of boots Vimes always bought, and wore until the soles were so thin that he could tell where he was in Ankh-Morpork on a foggy night by the feel of the cobbles.
But the thing was that good boots lasted for years and years. A man who could afford fifty dollars had a pair of boots that'd still be keeping his feet dry in ten years' time, while the poor man who could only afford cheap boots would have spent a hundred dollars on boots in the same time and would still have wet feet.
This was the Captain Samuel Vimes 'Boots' theory of socioeconomic unfairness.”
Making fun of the weak (poor, minorities, etc) is easy because they can't fight back, that's why the best comedy is the one that upsets the powerful.
"Let go, or be dragged."
It's simple, yet so meaningful.
What you do when you don't have to, makes you who you are.
If it takes only two minutes, do it right away.
Never do anything you would be afraid to explain to the paramedics.
Life is what happens to you while you are making other plans.
How you do anything is how you do everything.
It a saying from Ubuntu (the philosophy not the operating system) “Umuntu ngumuntu ngabantu” in English it’s “I am because you are” It’s a simple and concrete way of saying how we’re not judged by how we treat others but we are who we are through our interactions with others.
Honestly I’ve only browsed through a bit of philosophy and I’m sure I missing a heap but it really struck me.
If the penalty for breaking a law is a fine, that law only exists for poor people.
Seek to understand, then be understood.
"Things in life aren't always quite what they seem, there's more than one given angle to any one given scene. So bear that in mind next time you try to intervene on any one given angle to any one given scene."
I used to think of myself as a complete pacifist, but these words haven't left my mind since I heard them:
You think you're better than everyone else, but there you stand: the good man doing nothing. And while evil triumphs and your rigid pacifism crumbles into bloodstained dust, the only victory afforded to you is that you stuck true to your guns.
Of course this only applies to defense, never to offense (especially "preemptive defense"), but I can't really argue against it.
Housing can't be both affordable and a good investment.
Variation of this: Poor people rent, that's how they stay poor.
Art should comfort the disturbed and disturb the comfortable.
Hurt people hurt people.
"It is possible to make no mistakes and still lose. That is not weakness. That is life."
-Captain Jean-Luc Picard
Choose your rut carefully.
Funnier in Aus.
We thought of life by analogy was a journey, was a pilgrimage, which had a serious purpose at the end. And the thing was to get to that end.
Success, or whatever it is, or maybe heaven after you're dead.
But we missed the point the whole way along. It was a musical thing, and you were supposed to sing, or to dance, while the music was being played
-- Alan Watts
This kind of question always immediately makes me think of something a friend said years ago when I was still a teen. We were talking about school and education and shit and it was on the subject of asking questions when you don't fully understand something and he said "rather ask a stupid question and be a fool for five minutes, then keep your mouth shut and be a fool for the rest of your life." I think it was something that his mother had told him, in their language, so I'm constructing that statement from memory but it was something close to that.
It is possible to commit no mistakes and still lose. That is not a weakness, that is life.
I find that this is particularly difficult for conservative, "pull yourself up from your bootstraps" types to understand. Some people think poor people, or those who have fallen into misfortune, were makers of their own tragedy. While it may sometimes be the case, I believe that more often than not, these people were just unlucky enough to born at the wrong place, at the wrong time, into the wrong family, neighbourhood, or country.
There are poor people inventing incredible things every day, but nobody around them has the power nor connections to make anything out of it. I watched a video of people who made a bike out of wood that could carry half a tonne, down an unpaved road at relatively high speeds, while metal bikes in developed countries have ratings for people under 150kg. But because those poor bike-makers were born where they were and had to toil in order to survive, day in and day out, there was never enough time for them for make their inventions a product to be produced and sold to the masses. Yet somewhere, there's a conservative prick saying these people are lazy or aren't smart.
This could have also been said by any speedrunner in a game with even a single RNG event.
First thought that came to me as well. Thank You Captain Picard...
In my language it goes : "Alone you go faster, together you go further".
I like that one!
The major problem—one of the major problems, for there are several—one of the many major problems with governing people is that of whom you get to do it; or rather of who manages to get people to let them do it to them.
\ To summarize: it is a well-known fact that those people who must want to rule people are, ipso facto, those least suited to do it.
\ To summarize the summary: anyone who is capable of getting themselves made President should on no account be allowed to do the job.
Douglas Adams, The Restaurant at the End of the Universe
He may or may not have known it, but he was paraphrasing a fundamental rule of the Baha'i Faith.
I'm not sure the baha'i faith knew they were quoting Douglas Adams.
I’ve found that every time, the less I speak, the wiser I sound. And I don’t mean that in the "better to stay silent and be thought a fool than to open your mouth and remove all doubt" sense—though that’s true too.
I’ve gotten far more mileage and respect by letting others dominate conversations, then dropping one or two sharp questions or comments that show I’ve been paying close attention and actually understand what’s going on. That says more than any deep dive into minutiae ever could—especially when those tangents usually reveal more about what I don’t know than what I do.
I just started a new job, and the kickoff meeting was today. I put that strategy to use—barely said a word for 45 minutes. I probably looked like a dud hire. But by the end I think I came off as the smartest motherfucker in the room. I doubt I actually was—I’m probably the only person there without a four-year degree—but perception is a hell of a thing.
I call it The Subtle Art of Shutting the Fuck Up.
Narcissist: Yes. Yes. And, Yes. LOUD NOISES ensue
I come to ask myself these questions more and more. However, people thinking I'm dull and uninteresting is a downside... or is it?
"It's not your fault, but it is your problem."
I honestly love and repeat this line way too much
Just because you weren't the cause doesn't mean it isn't something you need to worry about/fix. I learned this one from my high school English teacher when a student was late and tried to get out of it by blaming traffic lol. The traffic was not their fault, but it ended up being their problem.
There’s a variation of this that I like better: “It’s not your fault but it is your responsibility.”
Framing it this way shifts the tone from passive to active; you have a problem, but you take responsibility. It also helps the responsible party set themself up for correcting the behavior in the future. Saying you’re late because of traffic and accepting the consequences is fine, but recognizing that you need to leave earlier to accommodate traffic is better.
I had a teacher who would ask for an explanation, not an excuse. If the explanation started to place blame on someone or something else, he’d just shake his head and say “no excuses.”
It is the mark of an educated mind to be able to entertain a thought without accepting it
Unfortunately, too many people have been trained to reject ideas or thoughts without first thinking them through. Many simply react to whatever word, expression, or concept triggers them without giving the rest a second thought. For example a brilliant idea can be presented online, but if one word is out of place, the usage of that word will debated instead of the idea.
Oh my god, 100% Read a post about it on r/196 a while ago, went something like "It's important to have discussions about things like cannibalism because arguments like «it's just gross/bad/unnatural» have been used to condemn homosexuality and the like"
I love this! And if you find yourself afraid to even entertain an idea, perhaps you're afraid that you'll find it convincing and accept it. We should WANT to be convinced, because that means the different idea holds more merit than our current belief!
There's this quote attributed to Rabbi Yisrael Salanter:
When I was a young man, I wanted to change the world. I found it was difficult to change the world, so I tried to change my nation. When I found I couldn't change the nation, I began to focus on my town. I couldn't change the town and as an older man, I tried to change my family.
Now, as an old man, I realize the only thing I can change is myself, and suddenly I realize that if long ago I had changed myself, I could have made an impact on my family. My family and I could have made an impact on our town. Their impact could have changed the nation and I could indeed have changed the world.
There are two lessons here. First - the best way to affect meaningful change is to start local. Rather than spending a lot of time agonizing over national politics, get involved in your community - your neighborhood, your town, your apartment building, even just the house you share with your family. Your community will take better care of you and the other people that you care about than any national government ever will.
Second - ultimately the only person whose behavior you can change is your own. Don't be too harsh with other people when they don't behave the way that you believe they should. Be a more stringent judge of your own behavior.
But temper that with this:
Whatever you do, don't congratulate yourself too much. Or berate yourself too much either.
Your choices are half chance. So are everybody else's.
You can't help people that don't want help.
Goes for people who are going through mental/physical health problems or substance abuse issues. If they don't want help you have to accept that and be there for them when they do.
I've always heard this as "You can lead a horse to water but you can't force it to drink"
'Be Kind; Everyone You Meet is Fighting a Hard Battle'
Sometimes that grumpy old man really is just having a bad day.
I think about that one often. It's too easy to dismiss people because their attitudes don't line up with our personal ideals, but even those people have some internal struggle going on. We all do. Not that it ever justifies terrible behavior, but it does warrant consideration.
100%
Seriously though:
A common mistake that people make when trying to design something completely foolproof is to underestimate the ingenuity of complete fools. — Douglas Adams
Choosing means losing a little, said by a teacher in highschool when I was struggling to decide what to do after I'd graduate, still remember it 12 years later
It's opportunity costs all the way down, baby!
Oh that is really, really good. Filing it away.
Just because two sides are fighting doesn't mean one side is good (something along this line)
... I don't think it is that profound, but I think about it a lot
I read it as meaning:
There's this quote early in Good Omens: “It may help to understand human affairs to be clear that most of the great triumphs and tragedies of history are caused, not by people being fundamentally good or fundamentally bad, but by people being fundamentally people.”
It's an awkward one these days, but it sounds Pratchett-esque enough to salvage.
Almost every horrific thing that humans engage in stems from fear.
... and the rest, greed.
Greed stems from fear if you really stop to think about it.
My Uncle once told me that the most important thing you can learn is where to find more information.
Bill Nye: "Everyone you'll ever meet knows something you don't"
“Don’t work yourself out if a job.”
My pops told me this after I told him how much more work I had been doing than my coworkers, and how fast I got all of my stuff done. This was like 15 years ago. I immediately started pacing myself, and I’ve since been infinitely less stressed at work.
This can be applied to anything, but the quote as I read it in a book by Piers Anthony (I know, gross, I was in middle school), was:
Power is a means to an end. Don't let the means become the end.
I often think of it as:
Money is a means to an end. Don't let the means become the end.
When my dad was teaching me how to ride a bike, I kept falling.
He noticed that I was paying so much attention to the road that I couldn't focus on riding the bike.
Finally he picked me up, looked me dead in the eyes and said, "You rule the road. Don't let the road rule you".
Somehow that phrase immediately gave me the ability to ride a bicycle.
I have shared it with other people learning to ride a bicycle after they have fallen down at least once.
It freaking works.
"Look where you want to go, not where you are." worked for me.
Similar sentiment.
No matter where you go, there you are.
Loneliness is the tax we have to pay to atone for a certain complexity of mind
"Sometimes, at the end of a sentence, I come out with the wrong fusebox. And the thing about saying the wrong word is a] I don't notice it, and b] sometimes orange water given bucket of plaster."
I think we can all take something away from that.
If it weren’t for my horse, I wouldn’t have spent that year in college.
The world needs fewer cynics and more skeptics.
"The thing about happiness is that you only know you had it when it's gone. I mean, you may think to yourself that you're happy. But you don't really believe it. You focus on the petty bullshit, or the next job, or whatever. It's only looking back by comparison with what comes after that you really understand, that's what happiness felt like."
-Conrad Kellogg. Fallout 4.
Two quotes/ statements from a book named “The Midnight Library” ;
Regarding the former: I’m autistic and have a lot of experiences telling me that I should hide parts of myself from others to be acceptable. It doesn’t work. It’s better for one-off social interactions, and I should rein in my info-dumping in some scenarios, but it’s easier to make better friends if I just share myself with others.
You won't know if you don't ask.
People fear rejection or embarrassment for asking other people questions but once you realize that it's the most efficient way to navigate life it really helps. Saves you time and energy. Often saves you emotional energy as well in the long run.
If you like someone just ask them.
If you want to know where someone got something or learned a skill just ask them.
Curiosity is important and I feel so many people are so socially anxious that they will just try and Google and Google as opposed to entering into a simple verbal exchange with a stranger or something.
What is better: to be born good, or to overcome your evil nature through great effort?
Does it even matter if you wind up being a good person either way?
"Freedom is not a goal, but a tool".
-Reiraku (Downfall) By Inio Asano
Yes, for those of us who manage somehow to cope with our mortality. The very meaninglessness of life forces man to create his own meaning. Children, of course, begin life with an untarnished sense of wonder, a capacity to experience total joy at something as simple as the greenness of a leaf; but as they grow older, the awareness of death and decay begins to impinge on their consciousness and subtly erode their joie de vivre, their idealism—and their assumption of immortality. As a child matures, he sees death and pain everywhere about him, and begins to lose faith in faith and in the ultimate goodness of man. But if he’s reasonably strong—and lucky—he can emerge from this twilight of the soul into a rebirth of life’s élan. Both because of and in spite of his awareness of the meaninglessness of life, he can forge a fresh sense of purpose and affirmation. He may not recapture the same pure sense of wonder he was born with, but he can shape something far more enduring and sustaining. The most terrifying fact about the universe is not that it is hostile but that it is indifferent; but if we can come to terms with this indifference and accept the challenges of life within the boundaries of death—however mutable man may be able to make them—our existence as a species can have genuine meaning and fulfillment. However vast the darkness, we must supply our own light.
--Stanley Kubrick, responding to the question "If life is so purposeless, do you feel that it’s worth living?" in a 1968 Playboy interview.
I was going to post something cheeky like “Fuck here we go again”, noped out, pressed backspace and then this…
"Assume that everyone else just wants to be happy too"
Unfortunately, some people don't know how to be happy or take pleasure in the pain of others.
The compliment to the quote above should be “misery loves company.”