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The Great Jelly Bean Harvest - Trans Megathread from 2025-04-21 to 2025-04-27

i'm harvesting a great crop of jelly beans today

it's my birthday this week and you have to post a lot okay? :^)

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hi, does anyone wanna make the mega in the upcoming weeks? if so, reply to this post and i'll add you to the list!
the list as it stands:

BountifulEggnog (4/28 - 5/4) Hestia (5/5 - 5/11) EstraDoll* (5/12 - 5/18) SadArtemis* (5/19 - 5/25) yewler* (5/26 - 6/1) AshenWolf* (6/2 - 6/8) PeeNutButtHer (6/9 - 6/15) oscardejarjayes* (6/16 - 6/22) GayTuckerCarlson* (6/23 - 6/29) Eco* (6/30 - 7/6) Disaster_of_Passion (7/7 - 7/13) peanutbuttercupola* (7/14 - 7/20)
* after name denotes someone who has posted before and will be skipped by first-time posters

I have so much respect for people who are out because that is so scary to me. I love and admire people who's presentation is audacious and challenges your views. I love trans people who do not "pass" and are happy about it, because they have so much confidence in their identity. I feel so afraid to be visibly queer, visibly different. I've never come out about my gender irl, and very few people know about my sexuality.

Remember when the pope said "gender ideology is the ugliest danger of our time"?
Sure is cool to see so much of this site gushing over this guy

My pronouns are not an accidental duplication, I'd like a double serve of she-s and her-s to make up for lost time please.

Contacted a therapist today. Please be proud of me

I'm now a post-op trans girl.

I read a lot of hexbears yearning posts and I feel for you all, for sure, I get it's lonely. I've been single for 2 years and I just don't feel like it's a bad fate to be single. I had my great love story and it ended how it did, I feel like I'm set and good for life. I remember the feeling though: wishing I had someone close, who I could trust, who loved me, who was there when I was sad or down, feeling so so alone and desperate. I just personally haven't felt it in a loooong time

The UK needs to be broken up and TERFs should be hauled off to a gulag. Unironically. Give occupied Ireland back, and give the Scots and Welsh their independence. Then put England under strict military rule until the brain worms can be properly excised.
Seriously, what justification does the UK have for their backward bullshit? The US is full of (and run by) religious nuts, so that kind of thing is expected. What’s the UK’s excuse for their backwardness?

It's been way too long since i've randomly yelled
DICTATORSHIP OF THE QUEER

I just wanted to borrow a bit of e because i was running low, so i headed over to her place and did my shot, we made a little smalltalk and then she kinda just fell into me and we started cuddling. And kept cuddling and giving headpats and scritches and holding hands and hugging each other for an hour and a half. God, i'm still gushing when i think about how good it was to hold her like that. How good she smells, how soft her skin is. At one point, she fell asleep in my arms and she started twitching like a dreaming puppy. It was so cute. She's so precious. I'm so glad i have her in my life.

why is the bbc so fucking transphobic who are these people why do the care so much

I saw the Pope at a grocery store in Los Angeles the other day. I told him how cool it was to meet him in person, but I didn’t want to be a douche and bother him and ask him for photos or anything. He said, “Oh, like you’re doing now?” I was taken aback, and all I could say was “Huh?” but he kept cutting me off and going “huh? huh? huh?” and closing his hand shut in front of my face. I walked away and continued with my shopping, and I heard him chuckle as I walked off. When I came to pay for my stuff up front I saw him trying to walk out the doors with like fifteen Milky Ways in his hands without paying. The girl at the counter was very nice about it and professional, and was like “Sir, you need to pay for those first.” At first he kept pretending to be tired and not hear her, but eventually turned back around and brought them to the counter. When she took one of the bars and started scanning it multiple times, he stopped her and told her to scan them each individually “to prevent any electrical infetterence,” and then turned around and winked at me. I don’t even think that’s a word. After she scanned each bar and put them in a bag and started to say the price, he kept interrupting her by yawning really loudly.

thank you for the 1,000 comment birthday megathread :)

Did my first injection, please clap
The injection itself wasn't that bad, I've always been okay with needles. But drawing was a pain in the ass, I had the needle in there for probably 5-10 minutes, constantly pulling and pushing the plunger back and forth to coax the stuff into the syringe. I even did the thing where you inject air into it, but maybe I didn't do it right. I just hope I didn't damage the vial or contaminate it or something

I'm so tired of the doubt... Most of the time it comes by way of other people who are trying in earnest to make sure I'm okay, like my supervisor/mentor today. And it wasn't like denying my identity or anything, just concern that I may be putting femininity on a pedestal and straying a little too far towards self-annihilation instead of self-discovery.
When I talk with people like that who are less affirming the doubt increases and I feel worse. I want it to be true, I want to truly want to be a girl, but what that's just because I'd like an easy way to escape what I currently am?

It really feels like the average terfs conception of trans woman is just like…The Rock in a wig.
Meanwhile I’m like…shorter than my wife’s mother and can’t even lift 50 pounds.

TW: medical recovery and pain ::: spoiler spoiler I just got ffs two days ago and Jesus this recovery is painful and psychologically pretty scary. My face looks very fucked up right now, and I’m pretty anxious about how it’s going to turn out. Thank god for Percocet though :::

My right tit seems to be growing slightly larger than my left. Not really much of a problem, it's just I seem to be listing right slightly while I sleep.

Xia updates:
I'm a trans woman. Not non binary. Not a fruity guy. I told my partner who has been checking in weekly re: pronouns and she were basically like "really took your time there". Told some old friends and it went well. I assume everything is going fine for trans women? I've been out of the loop.
I had a haircut, the shortest in years, but now to my shoulders, looks great, and it's easier to wear down, I still can put it into a neat bun/undercut combo.
Last night I had a dream I was several years into a zombie apocalypse and I met an old work colleague who was at a fortified hospital looking for a cure, she was like "hey by the way, I heard you are woman, congrats" and we hugged as zombies battered on the boarded windows.

trans rights are moomin rights

There was a bloke in a
jacket at the trans rights protest today. Nothing else to report.

i might look for some neopronouns to replace he/him... it's not quite right, i think. like the vibes of a man rnt rly what im going for. idk

Going back to older trans megas and seeing -300 comments has me wondering how everyone's doing...

If i had a nickel for every time i fall for a woman who can give absolutely incredible amounts of affection and care, but struggles to receive and accept being loved due to past trauma, i'd have two nickels. Which isn't much, but it's funny that it happened twice and by funny i mean i wanna strangle the one that did this to her so badly rn.

You’re telling me an average height girl Friday’d this rice!?

I FUCKING LOVE BITING

The way liberal cis women discuss a hypothetical "matriarchal world" reeks of binarist essentialism and cisheteronormative naivety. It really often is just "more female war criminals" shit. When you have people who don't actually understand how systems of oppression work discuss their frustrations with said systems of oppression, they end up inadvertently promoting oppression in the process of these discussions.

Getting the urge to be more visibly queer actually, if I'm gonna be disappeared in my forsaken country for being too brown
might as well go out on my own terms

Playing make believe every night with my plushies, I'm the captain and their my crew but instead of a ship at sea it's a train since I rather not convince myself again I got sea sickness.

I have a paper due in 1 weeks time. I keep telling myself, FINISH THE FUGGING PAPER THEN YOUR DEGREE IS PRACTICALLY DONE. YOU CAN SPEND THE REMAINING TIME CHILLING AND GIRLIFYING.
But still, the bed is so much warmer than my study desk.

Going out to dinner with wife’s parents.
Didn’t have time to put on makeup; hopefully I’m not too ugly

I've had 3 trans friends in my city tell me about being publicly harassed this week alone, and like don't get me wrong it happens all the time but damn it really feels like it's getting more and more frequent 😮‍💨

My wife is judging how much moisturizer I use

Who keeps the cisgender down?
While we are beeping around?
WE DOOOOOOOOOO, WE DOOOOOOOOO

feeling weird about sexuality tbh

Excellent haul at the thrift store today. I am still too self-conscious to try out clothes, so I got lucky: everything fits well! Got a couple plain color t-shirts with varying necklines, a yellow shrug, some flannels, and this really cute Torrid purple plaid blousey midi dress that fits perfectly.